OCTOBER 2008 Parenting from the Heart Parentingfrom from the the Heart October Meeting: Breastfeeding Separating Fact From Myth There was a quote I came across during my preparations for the birth of our first child that was something along the lines of "breastfeeding may be natural, but it is not always easy," or something like that. And now, as Lauren and I are coming up on two years of breastfeeding, and as I have come to know and witness the breastfeeding stories of fellow moms, I wish I could find that quote to give proper credit, as I think it is quite true! There are so many potential challenges facing a new (and sometimes even veteran) breastfeeding dyad and for each challenge, there are numerous sources of 'advice' to sift through - some of which are of questionable validity - but how's a new mom to know? Or how is a more veteran mom to know that the advice she passes on is still accurate or relevant? Those of us in the Peoria-area are fortunate to have inperson access to a number of qualified breastfeeding support persons. Join us on Saturday, October 11th when Beth Seidel, IBCLC at Pekin Hospital will be leading a discussion about frequently asked questions, common (and not so common) myths and how to find, and provide, quality information and support. This meeting is not just for new breastfeeding moms! Join Us at a Meeting Our monthly meetings are free and open to the public, featuring different topics related to attachment parenting. We typically meet at 9:30 am on the second Saturday of each month at the Universalist Unitarian Church, which is located at 3000 W. Richwoods Blvd, Peoria, IL 61604. The meeting room is down the right hallway once you enter the church. Please bring your spouse, children, friends, parents, or anyone else who might benefit from this organization! People of all religious, racial or ethnic backgrounds are welcomed. As a support group we are not affiliated with any religious or political organization nor do we espouse religious or political viewpoints. Inside this issue: October Meeting 1 Letter from the Editor 2 Breastfeeding 3 Recommended Resources 4 Childbirth Classes 5 Activity Descriptions 6 Schedule of Events 7 Resources 8 What is Attachment Parenting? 10 Holistic Support 10 October Fundraiser 12 Lactation Cookie Recipe 12 Bottlefeeding 13 Good Food 14 Teens and Nutrition 16 Miscellaneous Quotes 16 Timbercreek 17 General Information 18 Contact Information 19 Join Our Organization 20 PARENTING FROM THE HEART Page 2 Letter from the Editor API of Peoria Website www.apipeoria.org Have you visited our website lately? If not, it’s time for you to revisit and check out all of the great things our website has to offer. You can find this current newsletter and archived newsletters on the site, as well as information for ALL of our activities. You can even print brochures about our group and programs to hand out to people who might benefit from the information. And don’t forget to check the calendar for events happening this month and upcoming months. After you’ve checked us out again, share the website with your friends, family, and any new mom, dad, or family you meet, and give them a chance to get connected with API of Peoria! Rest assured, though the October meeting topic is about breastfeeding, it is NOT a requirement to breastfeed in order to be an attached parent. Though "breastfeeding" was one of Attachment Parenting International's "8 Ideals", when the Ideals were revised two years ago to the Principles now listed on our website, the wording, and sentiment behind the principle, was changed to "Feed with Love and Respect." This change was due in large part to the input of our very own Julie Harvey (leader) and Cinnamon Nieukirk (leader emeritus). The new principle is more inclusive of women who, for whichever reason, chose not to, or were unable to, breastfeed their infants. It is inclusive of fathers who play a role in feeding time for their infants. It is also inclusive of families of children beyond the breastfeeding years. How great is that? In this issue of the newsletter, you will hopefully find information helpful for whatever method or stage of feeding and nutrition your family is at. And on an unrelated note, you may notice the return of the API of Peoria Yoga blurb! Yoga returns this fall, so keep an eye on the meetup calendar for dates and details. ☼ Sally Nickel, Editor What is Attachment Parenting International of Peoria? Who We Are: We are a group of moms and dads from the Peoria area who identify with some aspect of the attachment parenting philosophy. We support one another in our parenting struggles and successes as we strive to lovingly guide our children through this very special time in their (and our) lives toward a secure and successful independence. What We Offer: • Monthly Meetings • Moms’ Night Out • API of Peoria Website • Playdates • Catch Up Day • Library • • • • • Parenting Workshop Childbirth Classes Monthly Newsletters Online Message Forum Sling Library Visit the API of Peoria website at www.apipeoria.org for valuable parenting resources and our calendar. Contact Julie Harvey (309-645-6500 or [email protected]) for more info. OCTOBER 2008 Page 3 Breastfeeding: Starting Out Right by Edith Kernerman, IBCLC, and Jack Newman, MD, FRCPC Breastfeeding is the natural and normal way of feeding infants and young children, and human milk is the milk made specifically for human infants. A good start helps to ensure breastfeeding is a happy experience for both mother and baby; Breastfeeding should be easy and trouble free for most mothers. The vast majority of mothers are perfectly capable of breastfeeding their babies exclusively for about six months. In fact, most mothers produce more than enough milk. Unfortunately, outdated hospital policies and routines based on bottle feeding still predominate in too many health care institutions and make breastfeeding difficult, even impossible, for too many mothers and babies. For breastfeeding to be well and properly established, a good start in the early few days can be crucial. Admittedly, even with a terrible start, many mothers and babies manage. The trick to breastfeeding is getting the baby to latch on well. A baby who latches on well gets milk well. A baby who latches on poorly has more difficulty getting milk, especially if the supply is low. A poor latch is similar to giving a baby a bottle with a nipple hole that is too small—the bottle is full of milk, but the baby will not get much. When a baby is latching on poorly, he may also cause the mother nipple pain. And if he does not get milk well, he will usually stay on the breast for long periods, thus aggravating the pain. Unfortunately anyone can say that the baby is latched on well, even if he isn’t. Because of mixed messages about breastfeeding from everything a mother reads to numerous publications and too little education, many people just don’t know what a good latch is, and so breastfeeding can get off to a poor start. Here are a few ways breastfeeding can be made easy: 1. The baby should be at the breast immediately after birth. The vast majority of newborns can be at the breast within minutes of birth. Indeed, research has shown that, given the chance, many babies only minutes old will crawl up to the breast from the mother’s abdomen, latch on, and start breastfeeding all by themselves. This process may take up to an hour or longer, but the mother and baby should be given this time together to start learning about each other. Babies who "self-attach" run into far fewer breastfeeding problems. This process does not take any effort on the mother’s part, and the excuse that it cannot be done because the mother is tired after labor is nonsense, pure and simple. 2. The baby should be kept skin to skin with mother as much as possible immediately after birth and for as long as possible in the first few weeks of life. Incidentally, studies have also shown that skin-toskin contact between mothers and babies keeps the baby as warm as an incubator (see section on skin to skin contact). It is true that many babies do not latch on and breastfeed during this time but generally, this is not a problem, and there is no harm in waiting for the baby to start breastfeeding. The skin to skin contact is good and critically important for the baby and the mother even if the baby does not latch on. 3. The Skin to Skin contact helps to regulate many important things for baby: breathing rate, heart rate, oxygen saturation, body temperature, and blood sugar. Furthermore, there seems to be some good evidence to support that that the more babies are kept skin to skin in the first few days and weeks of life (not just during the feedings) the more brain development they will have. A proper latch is crucial to success. This is the key to successful breastfeeding. Unfortunately, too many mothers are being "helped" by people who don’t know what a proper latch is. If you are being told your two-day old baby’s latch is good despite your having very sore nipples, be skeptical, and ask for help from someone else who knows. (continued on page 9) PARENTING FROM THE HEART Page 4 Member Recommended Resources: Websites: Ask Dr. Sears (www.askdrsears.com) Dr. Jack Newman's website (www.drjacknewman.com) Kellymom (www.kellymom.com) Dr. Jay Gordon's website (www.drjaygordon.com) Books: The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding : Sixth Revised Edition by Gwen Gotsch. Plume (1997), Edition: 6th Rev, Paperback The Breastfeeding Book : Everything You Need to Know About Nursing Your Child from Birth Through Weaning by Martha Sears. Little, Brown (2000), Paperback by Hilary Flower, published in July 2003 by La Leche League International. OCTOBER 2008 Page 5 love your baby nourish your body cherish your birthTM www.babybodybirth.com Childbirth Classes sponsored locally by API of Peoria API of Peoria is very excited to offer one of the first BabyBodyBirth classes in the country. It is a unique education that features three distinct classes providing information throughout the Pregnancy CycleTM, which starts when a woman is preparing her body for pregnancy and ends with weaning. These classes provide balanced education designed for adults in a non-judgmental atmosphere. “I felt totally prepared and able to have the birth I wanted because of the BabyBodyBirth classes. Thank you!!” - Jackie Codevilla BODY Class BIRTH Class BABY Class Nutrition & Exercise Pregnancy Changes Testing & Procedures Relaxation Labor & Birth Process Effective Birthing Maternity Procedures Maternity Practices Postpartum Period Newborn Procedures Newborn & Self-Care Breastfeeding The BODY class includes information on the many factors that affect a pregnant woman's and baby's growing bodies from nutrition and exercise to stress and toxins. The focus is on preparing a woman’s body for a more comfortable pregnancy and her life for adapting to the changes a new baby brings. Overall, this class will help you to stay as low-risk as possible, thereby giving you more options for your labor and birth. The BIRTH class features effective laboring techniques and ways to promote Optimal Fetal Positioning, shown to facilitate a more efficient labor and birth (derived from Spinning Babies author Gail Tully, CNM). Included is evidence-based information on typical prenatal, labor, birth, and postpartum procedures. Regardless of what type of labor and birth you are planning, this class will prepare you with what you need to know. The BABY class covers newborn and 'newmom' care for a smoother start to the parenting journey. Topics include breastfeeding, infant sleep, and setting up effective help with the emphasis on learning one’s baby for more confident parenting. This class will help make your transition into motherhood more peaceful and rewarding for both you and your baby. For more information on class content, visit www.apipeoria.org/childbirth/ childbirth.html and the official BabyBodyBirth website, www.babybodybirth.com. Students signing up for all three classes (Body, Birth, and Baby) receive a $50 discount! BABY Class: Mondays, October 20 & 27, 7pm BODY Class: Mondays, November 3 & 10, 7pm BIRTH Class: Mondays, November 17 - December 15, 7pm BABY Class: Mondays, January 5 & 12, 7pm Due too soon to take advantage of the above? Let us know! Additional classes can be scheduled. For more information on pricing and content or to register, contact Hilary at [email protected] or 309-472-7508. • • • • BabyBodyBirth is not affiliated with API of Peoria or the Universalist Unitarian Church. Hilary appreciates the support of these organizations including assistance with marketing and space availability for classes. PARENTING FROM THE HEART Page 6 API of Peoria Activity Descriptions This month’s Schedule of Events and calendar are on page 7. Unless otherwise indicated, all activities are held at the Universalist Unitarian Church (located at 3000 W. Richwoods Blvd in Peoria). If you are planning to attend an activity, please check the message forums for potential schedule changes. In the event of inclement weather, a message will be posted by 8:30 in the morning if that day's activity has been cancelled. If you are not a message forums member, please call one of our leaders for more information. Moms’ Night Out (MNO) – a chance to get out with the girls to eat and talk! On the first Thursday of the month, we enjoy getting together to have dinner and coffee/dessert. Come early or come late, and you’ll have a chance to share exciting and fun conversations about everything! Lap babies are welcome. Please visit the message forums for the current month’s location. Catch Up Day (CUD) – who doesn’t need a chance to Catch Up on that list of things to do? Do you like to scrapbook or knit? Do you need to clean your purse, paint your nails, or pay some bills? Make a date to attend our monthly Catch Up Day, which is held the first Friday of the month from 10am-2pm! Bring your children, your crafting supplies, and anything else that you need to get done. Come early, come late, or come the entire time. We’ll sit and talk parenting while our children play around us. Bring your own lunch, or grab a lunch from one of the area restaurants! Monthly Meeting – the nitty-gritty of learning more and improving upon our parenting practices and emotional responsiveness. Our monthly meetings are exciting and full of discussion, and run from 9:30am-11:30am on the second Saturday of each month. Playdate – a chance for our children to play while we sit around and discuss current happenings in our parenting journeys. Held on the 3rd Friday of the month from 10am-12pm, playdates are a chance for us to play, visit, and fold our newsletters! While chatting, we’ll be folding these newsletters to be distributed throughout the community. Integrated Yoga – Do you enjoy yoga? Or maybe you’ve always wanted to try it, but haven’t had the chance? Join us on select evenings (six-week sessions, followed by a two-week break, dates to be posted on Meetup calendar) for integrated yoga. Julie Reams is leading the class. The class fee is $5.00 for API members and $8.00 for nonmembers. Punch cards are also available – pay for six sessions and get your seventh session free! Please wear light, loose, comfortable clothing and bring a mat if you have one. If you are prenant, please bring a blanket and pillow. Yoga is great for maintaining balance and preparing for childbirth, so come on out and join us! API of Peoria is now on MEETUP! API is now on meetup.com. If you are interested in joining us for an event please go here, http:// www.meetup.com, to see what we are up to. All of our events are open to the public, and a lot of them are free. It doesn't matter where you are in your parenting journey, we have something for you. OCTOBER OCTOBER 20082008 Page 7 Schedule of Events October 2: Moms’ Night Out (MNO), Gracie’s, 7:00pm OCTOBER 2008 Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat 1 2 3 4 MNO 7pm Gracie’s in Washington CUD 10am2pm 9 10 October 3: Catch Up Day (CUD), 10:00am-2:00pm October 6: Timbercreek Delivery October 11: Monthly Meeting 9:30am-11:30am October 17: Newsletter Folding/ Playdate, 10:00am-12:00pm October 20 & 27: BabyBodyBirth ® BABY Class, 7:00pm. 5 7 8 Timbercreek Delivery 12 13 11 Monthly Meeting 9:30-11:30 14 15 16 17 18 Newsletter Folding/ Playdate 10am-12pm 19 20 21 22 23 BBB BABY Class 7pm 26 27 24 25 Holistic Mtg 10am-12pm 28 29 30 31 BBB BABY Class 7pm October 24: Holistic Meeting, 10:00am-12:00pm "I cannot endure to waste anything as precious as autumn sunshine by staying in the house. So I spend almost all the daylight hours in the open air. - Nathaniel Hawthorne 6 NOVEMBER 2008 Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat 1 2 3 4 5 Timbercreek Delivery BBB BODY Class 7pm 9 10 6 7 8 MNO 7pm Fiesta Ranchera Dries Lane CUD 10am2pm Monthly Meeting 9:30-11:30 11 12 13 14 15 18 19 20 21 22 BBB BODY Class 7pm 16 17 BBB BIRTH Class 7pm 23/30 "Autumn is a second spring where every leaf is a flower." 24 BBB BIRTH Class 7pm Newsletter Folding/ Playdate 10am-12pm 25 26 27 28 Holistic Mtg 10am-12pm 29 PARENTING FROM THE HEART Page 8 Community Events and Resources Breastfeeding Support Groups La Leche League (LLLI) of Washington meets at the Willow Hills United Methodist Church, 304 East Far Hills Dr., Germantown Hills (corner of Rt. 116 and Far Hills Dr.). 2nd Wednesday: Breastfeeding support meeting at 10:00 am 4th Wednesday: Moms of Toddlers meeting at 10:00 am Contact Kim Salmon (309-444-2833) for more information. MotherLink of Pekin meets at Pekin Hospital’s Park Court Conference Center Room (basement). 2nd and 4th Mondays: Breastfeeding support group 10:00 am - 12:00 pm 3rd Monday: Breastfeeding support group 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm Daytime and evening breastfeeding support groups facilitated by Beth Seidel, IBCLC Contact Beth via pager at (800-512-2937) for more information. Post-Partum Support Saturday Strollers Awareness Support Walking Group meets the third Saturday of every month at Northwood’s Mall at 10am. The purposes of this group are to support parents and caregivers of young children and to prevent post-partum depression. International Cesarean Awareness Network of Central Illinois (ICAN) The International Cesarean Awareness Network, Inc. is a nonprofit organization whose mission is to improve maternal-child health by preventing unnecessary cesareans through education, providing support for cesarean recovery, and promoting Vaginal Birth After Cesarean (VBAC). Regular meetings held on the first Thursday of every month at 7:30 pm Tara Center for Counseling and the Healing Arts 1100 N Beech St Normandy Village Building 13 Normal, IL For more information Call Jeska 309-2422138 NEWSFLASH: API of Peoria Wiki Are you looking for answers quickly? Do you have a question you think is commonly asked? Are you wanting insight into other people's personal experiences? API of Peoria is happy to announce an amazing new resource for local parents! We now have our very own Wikipedia filled with detailed information pertaining to all eight ideals. You will find pages and pages of information and insights regarding everything from introducing solids to nighttime sleep patterns to finding ways to make time for yourself. Visit www.apipeoria.org/wiki today! If you have questions or comments regarding the API of Peoria Wikipedia please contact [email protected] OCTOBER 2008 Page 9 (Breastfeeding...., continued from page 3) Before you leave the hospital, you should be shown that your baby is latched on properly, and that he is actually getting milk from the breast and that you know how to know he is getting milk from the breast (open mouth wide—pause—close mouth type of suck). See also the website www.drjacknewman.com for videos on how to latch a baby on (as well as other videos). If you and the baby are leaving hospital not knowing this, get experienced help quickly (see handout When Latching). Mothers are often told that if the breastfeeding is painful, the latch is not good (usually true), so that the mother should take the baby off and latch him on again. This is not a good idea. Instead of delatching and relatching, fix the latch that you have as best you can; the pain usually settles regardless. Then, the latch should be fixed on the other side or at the next feeding. Taking the baby off the breast and latching him on again and again only multiplies the pain and the damage. 4. The mother and baby should room in together. There is absolutely no medical reason for healthy mothers and babies to be separated from each other, even for short periods, even after caesarean section. · Observation: Health facilities that have routine separations of mothers and babies after birth are not current with the evidence. Often, unreasonable excuses are given why baby should be separated from the mother. One example is that the baby passed meconium before birth. A baby who passes meconium and is fine a few minutes after birth will be fine and does not need to be in an incubator for several hours’ "observation". · Separation: There is no evidence that mothers who are separated from their babies are better rested. On the contrary, they are more rested and less stressed when they are with their babies. Mothers and babies learn how to sleep in the same rhythm. Thus, when the baby starts waking for a feed, the mother is also starting to wake up naturally. This is not as tiring for the mother as being awakened from deep sleep, as she often is if the baby is elsewhere when he wakes up. If the mother is shown how to feed the baby while both are lying down side by side, the mother is better rested. · Feeding cues: The baby shows long before he starts crying that he is ready to feed. His breathing may change, for example. Or he may start to stretch. The mother, being in light sleep, will awaken, her milk will start to flow and the calm baby will be content to breastfeed. A baby who has been crying for some time before being tried on the breast may refuse to take the breast even if he is ravenous. Mothers and babies should be encouraged to sleep side by side in hospital. This is a great way for mothers to rest while the baby breastfeeds. Breastfeeding should be relaxing, not tiring. · Bathing: Bathing the baby should be delayed for as long as possible after birth, and at least until the mother and the baby have had a chance to get breastfeeding well started, with baby coming to the breast and latching easily. 5. Artificial nipples should not be given to the baby. There seems to be some controversy about whether "nipple confusion" exists. Babies will take whatever gives them a rapid flow of fluid and may refuse anything else. Thus, in the first few days, when the mother is normally producing only a little milk (as nature intended), and the baby gets a bottle (as nature intended?) from which he gets rapid flow, the baby will tend to prefer the rapid flow method. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure that one out. Note, it is not the baby who is confused. Nipple confusion includes a range of problems, including the baby not taking the breast as well as he could and thus not getting milk well and/or the mother getting sore nipples. Just because a baby will "take both" does not mean that the bottle is not having a negative effect. Since there are now alternatives available if the baby needs to be supplemented (see handout Lactation Aid, and handout Finger and Cup Feeding) why use an artificial nipple? 6. No restriction on length or frequency of breastfeedings. A baby who drinks well will not be on the breast for hours at a time. Thus, if he is, it is usually because he is not latching on well and not getting the milk that is available. Get help to fix the baby’s latch, and use compression to get the baby more milk (See handout on Breast Compression). (continued on page 11) PARENTING FROM THE HEART Page 10 Did you know we have a SLING LIBRARY? API of Peoria is now offering a Sling Lending Library for use by our members. We have several padded ring slings, Mei Tais, and Wrap Style carriers that can be borrowed. For those who are interested in helping us to expand our selection, contact SarahJeanne Olson at [email protected] Presently, we are in need of a greater variety of slings or carriers, from pouches to un-padded ring slings to back-pack style carriers and more. What is Attachment Parenting? Attachment parenting is a philosophy based in the practice of nurturing parenting methods that create strong emotional bonds, also known as secure attachment, between the infant and parent(s). This style of parenting encourages responsiveness to the infant or child's emotional needs, and develops trust that their emotional needs will be met. As a result, this strong attachment helps the child develop secure, empathic, peaceful, and enduring relationships. You can learn about API of Peoria’s parent organization, Attachment Parenting International and view the Ideals of Attachment Parenting and of Attachment Parenting the School-Age Child at: www.attachmentparenting.org Holistic Lifestyle Support Group Are you looking for some support with healthy lifestyles and alternative therapies? We are excited to announce that our group will begin to have an additional monthly meeting, specifically related to holistic topics. Holistic usually refers to a person as a whole rather than a collection of parts, which leads one to treat the whole person (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual) rather than the individual symptoms of a disease. We will be defining holistic even more broadly as we talk about maintaining and improving health rather than just treating pain and disease. We will also discuss how to adapt your home environment to embrace a holistic lifestyle. Contact Tara at [email protected] for more information or to RSVP for a meeting. API of Peoria Brochures We have several brochures available to be passed out to your friends, family, co-workers, and anyone else you think might benefit from API of Peoria and our activities! Brochures include API of Peoria, Integrated Yoga, Integrated Yoga for Pregnancy, and Childbirth Classes. Please visit our website or contact the leaders for more information. OCTOBER 2008 Page 11 (Breastfeeding......, continued from page 9) Compression works very well in the first few days to get the colostrum flowing well. This, not a pacifier, not a bottle, not taking the baby to the breastfeedry, will help. Do note, babies often cluster feed in the first few days of life—this is normal and temporary. Latching a baby well, using compressions, and maintaining skin to skin contact between mother and baby helps this transitional period to go smoothly. 7. Supplements of water, sugar water, or formula are rarely needed. Most supplements could be avoided by getting the baby to take the breast properly and thus get the milk that is available. If you are being told you need to supplement without someone having observed you breastfeeding, ask for someone to help who knows what they are doing. There are rare indications for supplementation, but often supplements are suggested for “convenience” or due to outdated hospital policies. If supplements are required, they should be given by lactation aid at the breast (see handout Lactation Aid), not cup, finger feeding, syringe or bottle. The best supplement is your own colostrum. It can be mixed with 5% sugar water to extend the colostrum you have if you are not able to express much at first. Formula is hardly ever necessary in the first few days. (See our GamePlan for Protecting and Supporting Breastfeeding in the First 24 hours of Life and Beyond, which can be ordered at www.drjacknewman.com) 8. Free formula samples and formula company literature are not gifts. There is only one purpose for these "gifts" and that is to get you to use formula. It is very effective, and it is unethical marketing. If you get any from any health professional, you should be wondering about his/her knowledge of breastfeeding and his/her commitment to breastfeeding. "But I need formula because the baby is not getting enough!" Maybe, but, more likely, you weren’t given good help and the baby is simply not getting the milk that is available. Even if you need formula, nobody should be suggesting a particular brand and giving you free samples. Get good help. Formula samples are not help. Under some circumstances, it may be impossible to start breastfeeding early. However, most “medical reasons” (maternal medication, for example) are not true reasons for stopping or delaying breastfeeding, and you are getting misinformation. Get good help. Premature babies can start breastfeeding much, much earlier than they do in many health facilities. In fact, studies are now quite definite that it is less stressful for a premature baby to breastfeed than to bottle feed. Unfortunately, too many health professionals dealing with premature babies do not seem to be aware of this (See handout Breastfeeding the Preemie, at www.drjacknewman.com). Not latching/ Not breastfeeding: If for some reason baby is not taking the breast, then hand expression should be started within 6 hours or so after birth, or as soon as it becomes apparent baby will not be feeding at the breast. Questions? Email Jack Newman at [email protected], or Edith Kernerman at [email protected] or consult: Dr. Jack Newman’s Guide to Breastfeeding (called The Ultimate Breastfeeding Book of Answers in the USA) or our DVD, Dr. Jack Newman’s Visual Guide to Breastfeeding; or The Latch Book and Other Keys to Breastfeeding Success; or L-eat Latch & Transfer Tool, or the GamePlan for Protecting and Supporting Breastfeeding in the First 24 Hours of Life and Beyond. See our website at www.drjacknewman.com. To make an appointment email [email protected] and respond to the auto reply or call 416-498-0002. ☼ Handout Starting Out Right, Revised May 2008 Written and Revised by Jack Newman, MD, FRCPC 1995-2005 Revised by Edith Kernerman, IBCLC, and Jack Newman, MD, FRCPC © 2008 This handout may be copied and distributed without further permission, on the condition that it is not used in any context that violates the International WHO Code on The Marketing of Breastmilk Substitutes PARENTING FROM THE HEART Page 12 October API of Peoria Fundraiser Get a jump on those holiday presents and help your local AP group at the same time! Marla Serrine of The Crafty Dragon will have lots of scrapbook kits and items to help you put together a great little photo album for the grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, or just for yourself! Or you can give them the kits and let them do it themselves! 100% of these proceeds will go to our AP group. See some of the items on www.jingles.etsy.com. Marla will have The Angel Company catalogs available and 25% of any orders from the catalogs through October will go to our AP group, also. www.theangelcompany.net . The Angel Company is a rubber stamp and scrapbooking company. All the stamps are unmounted, helping keep the costs down! Be sure to check out the October stamp of the month, available at a discounted rate with any $30 purchase. Oatmeal Chocolate Chip Lactation Cookies -by Noel Trujillo 1 cup butter 1 cup sugar 1 cup backed brown sugar 4 TBSP water 2 TBSP ground flax seed 2 eggs 1 tsp vanilla 2 cups flour 1 tsp baking soda 1 tsp salt 3 cups oats 1 cup chocolate chips (or 1 cup of any thing..nuts,or other chips..or a combo adding up to 1 cup) 2-4 TBSP brewer's yeast 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Preheat oven to 350 f Mix the flax seed and water, let sit for 3-5 minutes Beat butter, sugar, and brown sugar well Add eggs and mix well Add flax and water mix and vanilla, beat well Sift in flour, brewers yeast, baking soda, salt, and mix. Stir in oats and chips. Drop spoonfuls onto an ungreased baking sheet. Bake for 12 minutes. Notations: Yields 4 1/2 dozen. They can be made with whole wheat flour, and use 1c Hodgeson Mills hot cereal and 2 c oats. Prepared as listed above, this recipe produces flat crispy cookies. For less flat cookies, chill the uncooked dough in fridge for at least an hour. For even less flat and chewier cookies, replace butter with shortening. Do not, repeat, do NOT replace with dairy-free margarine. OCTOBER 2008 Page 13 Bottlefeeding: An attachment parenting perspective From The Baby Book by William Sears & Martha Sears A Person at Both Ends of the Bottle The term "nursing" means comforting and nourishing, whether by breast or bottle. Feeding time is more than just a time for nutrition. It is also a time for special closeness. The mutual giving that is part of breastfeeding should also be enjoyed during bottlefeeding. Besides giving your infant a bottle, give him your eyes, your skin, your voice and your caresses. Baby will return to you more than just an empty bottle. The special warmth of skin to skin contact can be accomplished by wearing short sleeves and partially undressing yourself and your baby when feeding. Hold the bottle alongside your breast as though it were coming from your body, and look into your baby's eyes. Interact with your baby during a feeding. You want your baby to feel that the bottle is part of you. Most babies, breastfed and bottlefed, feed better if your are quiet while they suck, but babies enjoy social interaction during pauses in the feedings. Watch your baby for signals that he wants to socialize during the feeding. Eventually you will develop an intuitive sense of your baby's feeding rhythm. Baby should feel that a person is feeding him, not just a bottle. Reading Your Baby's Cues Tempting as it is to give your baby a bottle every time he cries, using formula as a pacifier may lead to overfeeding. Learn alternative ways of comforting rather than automatically reaching for formula at the first whimper. Baby may only need holding, a playful interaction, a bottle of water when thirsty, a diaper change, or simply a change of activity. Bottlefeeding mothers actually need more of a variety of baby-comforting techniques than do breastfeeding mothers. Using breastfeeding as a pacifier is less likely to result in overfeeding. Weaning Baby from the Bottle Like weaning from the breast, there is no rush. It is not unusual or abnormal for baby to still want a bottle at two years of age. Bottles bother adults more than toddlers. If you wean your baby to a cup too early, be prepared to let him continue to use a pacifier to meet his sucking needs. The nighttime bottle is the most difficult to part with. Wean baby from nap and night bottles by a trick we call watering down (gradually dilute the bottle contents with increasing amounts of water until baby figures out it's not worth waking up and fussing for a bottle of water). If your toddler is a picky eater and not yet skilled in cup drinking, allow daytime bottles of milk or formula…to ensure enough nutrition. When he is cup skilled and consistently eating a balanced diet of solids, gradually wean from bottle to cup. Have a "you can't walk around with your drink" policy. Discourage baby from walking around with a bottle of juice. Some juice addicts cling ferociously to this sticky companion. Not only will there be juice trails throughout the house, but this habit is hard to break. If baby has a love affair with the bottle and needs it for a pacifier, gradually "lose" the bottle and substitute other "pacifiers", preferably human ones. ☼ OCTOBER 2008 PARENTING FROM THE HEART Page 14 How do I talk to my children about the importance of good food in ways that they can understand? by Dr. Jay Gordon (www.drjaygordon.com) You have to talk to children at the level they are on intellectually. When three-year-olds and four-year-olds come in for their checkup, we talk about how they can grow bigger and stronger muscles if they eat vegetables and spaghetti and fruit. I tell them that if they eat cookies and candies and greasy foods, they won't be able to jump and play the way they'd like. At home, the parents can then build on "what the doctor told you." A couple of years later, I talk about specific activities that the child may like such as baseball, soccer, swimming, or whatever. Then I ask, "Do you think you'll be able to run and kick better if you eat French fries and milkshakes or if you eat vegetable and fruit?" They have no trouble coming up with the right answer. We talk about which fruits and vegetables are their favorites, and I assure them that eating those vegetables is just the right thing to do if you want to be the best player on the team. I stress the fact that they're "big kids now" and they know better than to eat sweets and meat. I say, "Only little kids think that's good for you!" I also encourage them to eat backwards once in a while. Have cereal for dinner, and spaghetti for breakfast. It's fun, and it makes the day's meals more interesting. It's effective to put mental pictures in a child's head. I call fast food hamburgers "greaseburgers" and refer to cheese as "chunks of fat." We describe how butter looks if you leave it in the hot sun so it gets "all gushy." Ask your six-year-old if he'd want to rub that greasy butter all over his face and hair. Of course, he wouldn't. So explain that's just what he's doing when he eats a hamburger and fries, only he's rubbing it on the inside. Yuck! As the child gets older, we talk about "brain food" and the benefit to his grades if he eats the right way. If you have teenagers, you can talk about how they look. Kids who eat lowfat, low-sugar vegetarian meals don't have acne, sallow skin, or greasy hair. They look vibrant and alive. They are full of energy and can really enjoy school and extracurricular activities. No one wants a date who's covered in makeup to hide bad skin and who's too tired from an unhealthy diet to enjoy several hours of dancing. 2008-2009 API of Peoria Sponsors Bernice Keutzer, CNM, Labor of Love Midwifery Service: "Birth in the comfort and safety of your own home." Denise Leitch Jeff and SarahJeanne Olson Thank you all for your support! OCTOBER 2008 Page 15 API of Peoria Message Forums We all have times in our parenting journey when we need other parents in our lives to help us make informed decisions, let us vent and lift us up when things are not going the way we envisioned, and celebrate with us when things are going better than you ever thought possible. Where can you find this great support network 24/7? Right here in your own backyard, through the API of Peoria Message Forums. We have over 100 moms and dads in our forums to give you different perspectives and suggestions on everything – from parenting to recipes to music and books, and more! We also use our message forums to decide locations for Moms’ Night Out and announce other activities. Come and register at the API Message Forums. Click on the Forum link at www.apipeoria.org and complete the form. Once our leaders receive your form, they will review and then open your membership, which will allow you to view the full forums. Come on over and check us out! PARENTING FROM THE HEART Page 16 Why Teens Need Better Nutrition by Dr. Sears (reprinted with permission from www.askdrsears.com) Healthy nutrition -- or the lack of it - can affect the three A's of a teen: athletics, academics, and attitude. During teenage growth spurts, adolescents need extra calories, and they should be nutritious ones. The irony of teen eating habits is at the very stage they need to eat very nutritious foods, they don't want to. Second to infancy, adolescence is the most critical time for nutritious eating. Most teens are overfed, but undernourished. Teens grow a lot, so they need to eat a lot, yet not only do they need more food, they need the right kinds of food. Teens eat more of their meals away from home, so that mother nutritionist is not always around to supervise their eating. Teens frequent fast-food outlets, where high-fat (and high in the most unhealthy fats, hydrogenated fats and oils) and nutrient-depleted food is the norm. The adolescent boy is into bulk, erroneously believing that more food builds more muscle. The adolescent girl is into being thin, believing that eating less equates with being slim. Menstruation increases a girl's monthly iron loss, and it is often not replenished by an iron- rich diet. Tastes change at puberty. Teens, in general, increase their preference for fat. Boys also increase their cravings for protein-rich foods (the triple hamburger crowd), perhaps believing that meat builds muscle. Girls, most likely because of rising estrogen levels, crave sweets. Finally, as part of their declaration of independence, teens are resistant to any outside pressure telling them to do anything, especially what and how to eat. Miscellaneous Quotes: from The Natural Child Project: http://www.naturalchild.org/quotes/previous.html "Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." - Mother Theresa "As we grow up, we have an ability to let go of immediate needs for the sake of long term goals. Children don't have such vision. Children live here and now. They need to feel that they have power, that they are important, that they can choose, and that the environment and people around them care about them and respond to them." - Naomi Aldort, Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves OCTOBER 2008 Page 17 Roasted Pumpkin Seeds From the kitchen of SarahJeanne Olson Rinse pumpkin seeds under cold water and pick out the pulp and strings. (This is easiest just after you've removed the seeds from the pumpkin, before the pulp has dried.) Place the pumpkin seeds in a single layer on an oiled baking sheet, stirring to coat. If you prefer, omit the oil and coat with non-stick cooking spray. Sprinkle with salt and bake at 325 degrees F until toasted, about 25 minutes, checking and stirring after 10 minutes. Let cool and store in an air-tight container TIMBERCREEK Would you like an opportunity to have fresh, organic food products for your family while also helping API of Peoria? If so, this fundraiser is for you! We are placing monthly orders with Timbercreek. Visit http://tcforganics.net/ for an example of food boxes that are available. If you purchase any box costing $31.85 or more, our local API chapter receives $3.00 per box. Orders are delivered directly to your door. Please contact Chris Kaniecki at [email protected] to set up your account, place your monthly orders (the deadlines are on our calendar here and on the website), and ask any questions about the program. October orders are due on Wednesday, September 24th! PARENTING FROM THE HEART Page 18 If you would like this newsletter to come to your e-mail box every month, please visit our website at www.apipeoria .org and click on "Newsletter Yahoo Group." Once you are redirected, click on "Join this Group" and follow the instructions. General Information and Opportunities with API of Peoria Newsletter Submission Deadlines – a chance for you to spread the message of peaceful parenting! We are always looking for newsletter ideas and submissions. Please visit our website newsletter page for more information regarding submissions. We accept submissions from the general population, as well as professionals. We reserve the right to accept or decline newsletter submissions. API of Peoria Library – We have a wonderful selection of books in our library. See the entire list of titles available in our library by going to www.LibraryThing.com and entering the name: APIPeoria, and the password: SD5JK. Contributing members may check out books for one month. Donations of books are welcomed and appreciated. Please check with Sharon Chinn-Heritch at [email protected] if you have questions regarding our library. Integrated Yoga with Julie Carnegie Reams Sponsored by API of Peoria We are always looking for newsletter ideas and submissions. Integrated Yoga—Please join us on select evenings at 7:00 pm at the Universalist Unitarian Church for over an hour of yoga positions that flow from the heart. Class dates will be posted on the Meetup calendar. Join us for increasing flexibility, increasing lubrication of the joints, ligaments, and tendons, massaging of all organs of the body, complete detoxification, and excellent toning of the muscles. Our integrated classes combine participants from all stages of life, including pregnancy. Practicing yoga during pregnancy directly improves fetal oxygen flow, increases mother-child bonding, lessens the risk of pregnancy induced complications, increases a woman’s stamina, conditions her muscles, and creates mental focus and relaxation. Integrated yoga not only offers a connection to body, breath, and spirit, but also to a community of women who have crossed the birthing threshold. This integrated class offers expectant and experienced mothers an opportunity to share their hopes, wisdom, and experiences. OCTOBER 2008 Page 19 API of Peoria Leader: [email protected] Julie Harvey, 309-645-6500, [email protected] Leader Interns: [email protected] Angela Loring, 309-369-1632 Stephanie Schrader-Lawson, 309-712-1972, Sally Nickel, 719-235-3140 Treasurer: Mary Toel, [email protected] To pay for accounts, please feel free to use our Paypal address at [email protected] Secretary: Kristen Winter, [email protected] Newsletter Editor: Sally Nickel Publishing Editor: SarahJeanne Olson Newsletter Assembly Coordinator: Nicole Maroon Newsletter Advertising: Hilary Shirven All of the above may be reached at [email protected] Message Forums: Tessa Matthews, [email protected] Calendar Coordinator: Cameron Kagy, [email protected] Librarian: Sharon Chinn-Heritch, [email protected] Welcome Coordinator: Kyle Cain, [email protected] Hospitality Coordinator: Deandra Norman, [email protected] Fundraisers: Rozanna Smith and Chris Kaniecki, [email protected] Childbirth Classes: Hilary Shirven, [email protected] Wiki Coordinator: Stephanie Schrader-Lawson, [email protected] Holistic Coordinator: Tara Maue, [email protected] Council at Large: Amanda Clark, [email protected] Attention Work at Home Moms Is the deadline looming near for ordering your minimum product for the quarter? Do you need just a few more sales to boost your rank in your company? How about doing a WAHM fundraiser with API? It would be an easy way to reach sales goals, with not much extra effort on your part. And the members of API would be able to enjoy the fabulous products you offer while we help you meet your goals! We would love to work with you! Please contact us at [email protected] for more information. ATTACHMENT PARENTING INTERNATIONAL OF PEORIA 501 Timberlan Rd Metamora IL 61548 NONPROFIT ORG US POSTAGE PAID PEORIA IL PERMIT NO. 819 FORWARDING SERVICE REQUESTED JOIN API OF PEORIA ADVERTISE IN OUR NEWSLETTER! Do you want to belong to an organization that will encourage and support you along your peaceful parenting journey? If so, API of Peoria is for you! Would you like to help us support parents in the Peoria area? We’d like to invite you to consider advertising in the API of Peoria monthly newsletter, “Parenting from the Heart.” Our newsletter reaches into our community through the following means: We want you to be an active part of our group, and we’d like to invite you to become a member! Joining API of Peoria ensures that you will have access to our newly expanded resource library, advertise for reduced rates in our monthly newsletter (WAHM), help to support our group location rental needs, receive discounts for API-sponsored events like yoga, and further outreach into the community. Dues for the 2008-2009 year can be paid anytime after September 1st. For membership amount, please contact our Mary at [email protected] You may then choose to mail a check or use a funded Paypal account and send to [email protected] Please contact [email protected] with any questions regarding membership • Is mailed once a month, year-round • Consists of 500 copies sent to community locations such as pediatricians’ offices, children’s community activities, childbirth classes, etc. • Is sent to locations where the target audience is more likely to see the newsletter and your advertisement • Is sent electronically to several parenting groups in the area, in addition to the 500 printed copies sent through the mail If you would like to advertise, please contact Hilary at [email protected] Does your facility receive “Parenting from the Heart” on a monthly basis? If you need additional copies, or if you find you receive more copies than you need, please send an e-mail to [email protected] and we would be happy to make the appropriate changes!
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