Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER “For the Families & Friends of those who have died by violence” 19620 North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215 Chapter Phone: (602) 254-8818 Chapter E-mail: [email protected] * National Organization of Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. (POMC) 4960 Ridge Ave. Suite 2, Cincinnati, OH, 45209 (513-721-5683) Fax (513-345-4489) http://www.pomc.com/phoenix/index.html Toll Free Number (888) 818-7662 Volume 22: No. 8 August 2013 MONTHLY MEETING LOCATIONS 4th Tuesday Grief support meetings EAST VALLEY SUPPORT Tuesday, August 27, 2013 7 PM 4th TUESDAYS Special Note: For the Eastside Support Group Meeting, please consider bringing nonperishable/canned food items to donate to the church. Mountain View Lutheran Church 11002 S. 48th Street, Phoenix (1/2 mile West of I-10 at 48th Street & Elliot) Room 8 Facilitator: Mari Bailey (602) 405-7401 [email protected] Co-facilitator: Mark & Sandy LeGault (480) 242-0038 WEST VALLEY SUPPORT Tuesday, August 27, 2013 7 PM 4th TUESDAYS Antioch Church of God in Christ 9600 West Peoria Avenue (NW Corner of 96th Ave/W Peoria Ave) West of Loop 101 Facilitator: Beckie Miller (623) 582-2406 Co-facilitator: Kathy Hernandez (623) 707-6825 CRIME VICTIMS LEGAL ASSISTANCE PROJECT Free legal aid to help assert victims' rights through Arizona Voice for Crime Victims @ (602) 258-1812, P.O. Box 875920, Tempe, AZ 85287-5920 or contact Mary Wallace at [email protected] SPEAKER/INFORMATION MEETING (2nd Tuesday Meeting) Tuesday, August 13, 2013 7:00 p.m. (PLEASE NOTE NEW LOCATION) *** Mountain View Precinct 2075 East Maryland Phoenix AZ (off AZ 51 at 20th Street between Glendale and Maryland) Our meeting this month will feature our Maricopa County Attorney, Bill Montgomery, who will speak about the role of his office as it relates to the prosecution and answer your questions. Mr. Montgomery has been involved with crime victims' rights issues for many years and worked with the Crime Victims Legal Assistance Project at one time. He serves on the board of Arizona Voice for Crime Victims as well and has spoken at several of our chapter events. NEWSLETTER EDITOR Mail Memorial Page items for “The Journey”, by the 10th of the month prior to publication to: POMC Newsletter 19620 North 38th Ave Glendale AZ 85308 Please use order form on Page 11 You can also email items to [email protected] Be sure to place any article or picture in an attachment, otherwise it can’t be accessed properly (especially pictures) and may not be used. Also, be sure to put POMC Newsletter in the subject line of the email. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal.” Sara Donaldson August 2008 Chris Marshall August 7, 1991 Dana Wells August 16, 1996 Eric Clements August 1, 2003 Stephanie Dupee August 8, 1995 Kerry & George Hild August 16, 1997 Lorenzo Jimenez, Jr. August 1, 2006 Jose Jesus Arampula August 8, 1998 Megan June Moline August 16, 2011 Jan Houldek August 2, 2002 Joe Lucero August 8, 2008 Jose Louis Gonzales August 17, 1980 Joe & Elaine Tannehill August 4, 1995 William Douglas Pickering August 9, 1980 Jim Reed August 17, 1995 Fiona Yu August 4, 1997 Ricky Barba August 9, 1996 Steve Metel August 18, 2011 David Blackwell August 4, 1999 Joshua Brewer August 9, 1997 Joshua Irwin Carter August 19, 2001 Thomas Ronald Garrett August 5, 1995 Gordon Dywan August 9, 2005 Lorenzo Aguilar August 19, 2012 Waylon Walsh August 5, 2003 Sheri Lee Martin August 12, 1971 Chad Campbell August 19, 2008 Gabriel Claywell August 5, 2007 Steve Acejo August 13, 1995 Joshua Deem August 20, 1995 John Louis Call August 5, 2010 Albert Chavez August 13, 2011 Lisa Grondin August 20, 2009 Lonny Gordell August 6, 1986 Cory Lynn Cook August 14, 1995 Wayne Southerland August 21, 1995 Bruce Steven Blanton August 6, 1992 Javier Pereida August 15, 2011 Michael Adam Hampson August 21, 2004 Jeremy Hughes August 6, 2001 Jim Reed August 16, 1985 Todd Michael Strickland August 22, 1993 2 Continued. . . . . Michael Jencsok August 22, 2006 Jeffrey K. Martin August 27, 1997 Greg Blevins August 31, 1993 Shane Guedes August 22, 2006 Tammbra Lynn Timko August 27, 2003 Cheryl O’Malley August 31, 1996 Anthony Maplethorpe August 22, 2007 William “Billy” Mosher August 28, 2004 Melissa Wright & Chris Lance Foote August 31, 1997 Raina Campos August 23, 1994 Tiffany Jo Lien August 28, 2005 Robert A. Medina August 23, 2003 Robert Nathaniel Kirk August 28, 2006 Anthony Spangler August 23, 2005 Aaron Tierno August 28, 2008 Brad Eaton August 23, 2006 Christopher Michael Chavez August 28, 2011 Kim Briese August 24, 2003 Bradford Wallen August 29, 1997 Jonathon Jose Corbelo August 25, 1999 Jeff Martin August 29, 1997 Don Stanciel August 25, 2005 Joshua J. Eberle-Martinson August 29, 2004 Tiffany Lien August 25, 2005 Jesus “Blake” Salazar August 29, 2004 Abigail Minor August 26, 2005 Christopher Corona August 29, 2012 Kelly Lynn Cooper August 27, 1984 Brian Hansen August 30, 1996 Bobi Lynn Riley August 27, 1986 Eddie McQuown August 30, 1998 3 Gayland Jones August 31, 1998 Ben Perkins-Link August 31, 2007 *Every effort is made to ensure accuracy on these pages. Please notify us if changes need to be made. VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER NEWS TRIAL - JUDICIAL & ARREST UPDATES ● The trial for the killer of Zach Balogh, son of Jan and Charlie Balogh ended disappointedly with a verdict of not-guilty. We are so sorry for Zach's family and friends. “Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with each and every family member as they endure this necessary but difficult process.” IN LOVING MEMORY GIFT DONATIONS (THANK YOU!) (*All donations are tax deductible: Our chapter exists on the generosity of others and grants) If you would like to have your loved one’s name listed here each and every month like some are, all you need do is contribute a small amount monthly to the chapter in their loving memory. Some below do in-kind contributions such as working in the POMC Office or donating the fax-line, etc. Some give their restitution checks to POMC, so there are many ways to help. ♥ Don & Beckie Miller in very loving memory of their son, Brian Ray Miller. ♥ Carolee Holbrook in very loving memory of her son, Brett Holbrook. * Margaret Hsiao in memory of Jane Li Moxey, The Chinese Over-Fifty Women's Club. CORPORATE & OTHER DONATIONS THANK YOU! UNITED WAY (Note: the write in number to designate funds to our chapter through your employee contributions is 0772) You must use this number for designating any funds to go to our chapter. Our chapter name is not listed except by number. THUNDERBIRD CHARITIES (a grant for our grief retreats) MARICOPA COUNTY ATTORNEY'S OFFICE (RICO Funds for printing, copier costs) AMERICAN EXPRESS EMPLOYEE GIVING: Norma Yanez in loving memory of her husband, Edward Aguirire. Tara Elizabeth Williams in memory of Kirk G. Best Klinger and his mother Sally Dimmick Best Klinger Whitney who died without resolution. ANONYMOUS DONATOR Lindison Y. Webb in honor of Del Edward Webb COLD CASE REGISTRY FOR HOMICIDES The Phoenix Police Department now has a Cold Case Registry on line. The link is http://phoenix.gov/police/investigations/coldcase/index.html. The second phase of this website project will eventually include a searchable listing of cold cases with a brief synopsis of each case. Interested persons can then send us information on the case or be routed to Silent Witness should they want to do so. Hopefully, this will generate more tips and leads and move more cases to successful resolution. Many family members just need to know their loved one's case is still open, and hopefully, give them solace that the case is not forgotten. SPEAKER INFORMATION MEETING -- HOMICDE AFTERMATH Our speaker meeting this month featured a presentation on Homicide: A Compounded and Complicated Grief Process, to help our members learn more about traumatic grief, coping skills to utilize on this long and difficult journey in the aftermath of murder and what it leaves behind for the families dealing with it. Also provided were tips on self care during the stress of this trauma on our health and overall well being. We also had someone from the Maricopa County Attorney's Office Victim Services as well as US Attorney's Office Victim Services at the meeting to learn more about the issues survivors face to assist them in their jobs serving crime victims. Our speaker at the next meeting (August 13) will be Maricopa County Attorney Bill Montgomery. Please note on the front of the newsletter a new speaker meeting location: Mountain View Police Precinct, 2075 East Maryland, Phoenix. We feel the added security of being in a police station will be a better choice for our meetings. 4 MESSAGES FROM MEMBERS & OTHERS Dear Beckie, Don and all of the valley of the sun POMC: Thank you so much for the beautiful gift basket you brought to my retirement event and a special thank you for your very kind words. It has truly been "my" privilege to know and work with you. Sherry Kiyler, Chief of Police of Chandler Dear Mrs. Miller I would like to personally thank you for your June 28 victim impact presentation to the youth at Adobe Mountain School. We appreciate your continued support and the support of your volunteers. Your presentations help our youth to understand the various ways and the multiple levels of impact that crime has on victims. You raise their awareness about the immediate, as well as short-and long-term impacts of crime on victims and communities. We value your partnership with Parents Of Murdered Children and look forward to many years of continued service together. Thank you, again, for your ongoing efforts and contributions. Charles Flanagan, Director Arizona Juvenile Department of Corrections NATIONAL POMC INFORMATION ☺ CINCINNATI OHIO OFFICE☺ ● NATIONAL CONFERENCE: The 27th National Conference will be held in Cincinnati, Ohio on August 15-18, 2013. The theme is “Open Hearts, Sharing Hope with Trusted Friends… We Remember Them.” It will be at the Hilton Cincinnati Netherland Plaza Hotel. The cost of the conference is $230.00. More information is on the website along with registration forms. If anyone is planning on coming to Cincinnati on days before the conference, the hotel is sold out and does not have extra rooms. Please contact Bev at [email protected] so she can work with you to make arrangements at another hotel in the area who have overflow rooms. ●2014 POMC NATIONAL CONFERENCE: National is currently in the planning stages for next year's conference which is going to be held in Rochester, Minnesota. If you would like to volunteer and be part of the national committee, please contact Dan Levey or Bev Warnock. ● COLD CASE WEBSITE FOR UNSOLVED CASES: Bill Jensen is working to develop a new website for cold cases. There are an estimated 5,000 murders that go unsolved in the United States each year. It seems like I have written a lot of unsolved crime stories but when I was writing full time, I could maybe get to 40 a year, maybe 4 in depth. That was before social media and web 2.0 and everyone carrying around a smart phone with a camera, everyone having access to millions of bits of data. This new site will be the clearing house information on unsolved murders and missing persons. It will be a place for law enforcement, families and concerned citizens to gather, trade information and stories and more importantly, solve crimes. It will be the nation's first unsolved murders and missing persons database. There are 200,000 unsolved murders in the US since 1980. And there is no central database available to the publicuntil now. We are developing new software to crawl the web and capture every mention of the murder online, from a random comment on a blog to a post on social network. We are currently building the site and the app. Having worked for close to 10 years with POMC, I wanted to reach out to people who have been waiting for the technology to catch up in this area. The reason no one has built something like this is frankly, it is not a money making venture. I am using my own personal savings to launch this. The goal is not to only solve crimes but also to keep the conversation going - to not have to wait for a five year anniversary of a murder for people to talk about it again. What we are looking for right now is feedback from family members of what they would like to see on the site. If you would like to provide input to Bill please contact him directly at [email protected] ● ACTS OF SIMPLE KINDNESS SCHOLARSHIPS: Acts of Simple Kindness, Inc., ("ASK") provides financial assistance for dependent children of widows and widowers under the age of 18. The financial assistance must be used to fund a program or class within the areas of education, sports, music or the arts. Applications that are for purposes other than these four will be discarded. For more information, please go to http://actsofsimplekindness.org/grant-program/ 5 ● AUTO DONATIONS: We are encouraging all chapters and contact persons to get involved with POMC Debit Authorization. You can now donate to NATIONAL POMC by setting up an automatic withdrawal from your bank account to National. Contact National for a debit authorization form. This is a fast and easy way to make a donation to National to help us help others. Your donation is withdrawn at the same time of the month each month and no amount is too small. We appreciate your help during these difficult economic times. SURVIVORS NEWSLETTER: This is a newsletter provided through National POMC and your subscription helps support national programs and services. Order form below. NATIONAL POMC SURVIVORS NEWSLETTER SUBSCRIPTION FORM Please find enclosed $10.00 for my annual subscription (three issues) for the Survivors Newsletter. Please consider adding an extra subscription fee to help defray the cost for someone who cannot afford it. Name:____________________________ Enclosed is my Address:__________________________ _____Check _____Money Order In the amount of $_______for City:_____________________________ _______year (s) subscription. State/Zip:_________________________ Phone: ( )______________________ Mail to: POMC, Inc. 4960 Ridge Avenue Suite 2 Cincinnati, OH 45209 Please charge $___________for ____year(s) subscription to my: ____Visa ____Master Card Card Number:_________________________ Expiration Date:_______________________ ____I have enclosed an extra subscription fee to defray the cost for someone who cannot afford a Survivors Newsletter subscription. AFTER-LOSS CREED By: Jill Englar – Westminister, Maryland Please be gentle with me for I am grieving. The sea I swim in is a lonely one, And the shore seems miles away. Waves of despair numb my soul as I struggle through each day. My heart is heavy with sorrow. I want to shout and scream and repeatedly ask, “Why?” At times, my grief overwhelms me, and I weep bitterly, So great is my loss. Please don’t turn away or tell me to move on with my life. I must embrace my pain before I can learn to heal. Companion me through my tears and sit with me in loving silence. Honor where I am in my journey, not where you think I should be. Listen patiently to my story. I may need to tell it over and over again. It’s how I begin to grasp the enormity of my loss. Nurture me through the weeks and months ahead. Forgive me when I am distant and inconsolable. A small flame still burns within my heart, And shared memories may trigger both laughter and tears. I need your support and understanding. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. I must find my own path. 6 Megan June Moline Age 19 Murdered August 16, 2011 We miss you and love you always, your family THE COURAGE TO GRIEVE 2013 (A Weekend Retreat of Hope and Healing in the Pines) October 18 - 20 in beautiful PINE, ARIZONA Our chapter is hosting our twentieth, self-help, rewarding weekend of The Courage To Grieve, to face the many overwhelming and difficult emotions that are the aftermath of murder and are often compounded by the intrusion and frustration of the judicial process. Beneath the explosive emotions of rage, hate, and revenge lay the more primary feelings of pain, fear and helplessness. Unresolved, these emotions can cause survivors to feel they are losing their minds. The isolation survivors feel from those who will not or cannot deal with the impact of the loss, leave survivors alone with their grief or discourage them from grieving at all. An integral part of this weekend will be an examination of love, tenderness and affection, relaxation techniques and the encouragement to move forward, uncover and experience within a safe environment of others who truly understand. The retreat has been designed to influence the reconstruction of a new life -- a life that has a renewed sense of purpose, though forever changed by murder. The weekend begins with dinner on Friday night. Those attending will all meet at the cabin in Pine at 5:00 p.m. with introductions to the group. This cabin was built by the Fornoffs (Roger and Carol) specifically for retreats; their daughter, Christy Ann, was killed in Tempe in 1984 while collecting money for her newspaper delivery route. Our chapter has hosted 18 retreats at the Fornoff’s cabin in the beautiful and peaceful pines surrounding it. The retreat cost is $150 and includes all meals while at the cabin, home-cooked and served family style as if you were at home. Roger is a very good cook and he loves doing so. Space is limited to 19, so reserve your spot now. Scholarships are available so do not let money be a factor in your decision to participate. However, a $25 deposit is required if you apply for a scholarship and will be refunded to you after your participation that weekend. Many of those who have attended the weekend retreats will tell you, though it is hard emotional work, it is very beneficial and rewarding. Husbands and wives, as well as siblings, should attend together and learn that while we each grieve differently and had our own relationship with our loved ones, we all share the pain and the trauma of losing a loved one to murder. Please sign me up for the grief retreat in Pine Name:_________________________________________________________________________ Address:___________________________________City:__________State: _____Zip________ Phone: Home:____________ Cell:_____________ E-mail: ___________________________ Check enclosed ______ Requesting Scholarship _____ Need to Carpool _____Can Give Ride_______ CREDIT CARD INFO:# __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ TYPE________ EXP DATE _________ 3 number code on back __ __ __ Any questions, please call Beckie @ (602) 254-8818 or E-mail [email protected] *Mail to POMC, Valley of the Sun Chapter, 19620 North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215 *Map, info on what to bring and other information will be mailed after sign up. Please join Parents Of Murdered Children, Valley of the Sun Chapter "For the Families and Friends of those who have died by violence" DATE: Saturday, September 28, 2013 WHERE: Enchanted Island Park, 1202 West Encanto Boulevard, Phoenix AZ TIME: 5:00 p.m. * RSVP attendance to [email protected] or call 602-254-8818 (leave message) *This year's event will be free of charge thanks to the generosity of the Chandler Police Department RICO funds. Special Guest Speaker will be John Gillis of the Maricopa County Attorney's Office Victim Services Division. John has a distinguished career in Law Enforcement and Criminal Justice and Interim Chief of Police Dave Neuman of the Chandler Police Department. We will also have an honor guard and bird release as well as a teddy bear raffle. Members may bring teddy bears dressed to represent a hobby or something their loved one liked so we can raffle them off to participating attendees. We will have a catered picnic dinner immediately following our event. There will also be a Moon Bounce for the children and volleyball, horseshoes which are available at the park. You will also get wristbands that allow you free rides in the amusement park after the event ends. ***Please RSVP for the event so we have the catering count and for chair rental. Bring your teddy bears prior to the event to a meeting or call for drop off. Cheryl O'Malley Age 35 August 31, 1996 (CASE UNSOLVED) FOR THOSE WITH UNSOLVED CASES We would like to dedicate this page to each of our members with unsolved/unresolved cases in hope that one day you will achieve justice in knowing who and or having them face their day in court. We would also like to update our database with information on whose cases are unsolved so please contact us by email or regular mail us with your name, your loved one's name, age and murder date. email [email protected] or drop us a note to POMC, 19620 North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215. "It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessons. But it is never gone."(Rose Kennedy) “Hope” is the thing with feathers . . . That perches in the soul . . . And sings the tune without words . . . And never stops at all . . . (Emily Dickinson) 10 Memorial Wall Order Form Please add my loved one’s name to the “Valley of the Sun Memorial Wall in their Memories.” Each Nameplate is $10. Our wall is displayed at many special events across the valley during the year. NAME__________________________________ Age:___________ Murder date: _____________ Picture Board ___Check here if sending picture for the picture board & Holiday Memorial (no cost). Picture Buttons ___Please make #____picture buttons of my loved one. (Enclose photo) Each button is 3”, and costs $5. ** Send a Self Addressed Stamped Envelope if you want your photo returned. You may also e-mail photo to [email protected] *Make all checks out to POMC …. *Mail to 19620 North 38th Avenue Glendale AZ 85308-2215 THANKS FOR CARING To The Sojourner Center for donating our Speaker meeting room; to Antioch Church of Christ in God & Mountain View Lutheran Churches for the Support Group meeting rooms; to The Department of Public Safety VOCA for the grant for our newsletter & everyone who has donated gifts of their time, talents and energy to our chapter activities. With your help we are able to continue the outreach that is needed by our community. THE VALLEY OF THE SUN BOARD OF DIRECTORS (2013) Beckie Miller, Chapter-Leader ............. (623) 582-2406 Sue Osolin, Co-Leader ........................ (602) 938-4593 Don Miller, Treasurer .......................... (623) 582-2406 Mari Bailey, Co-Leader………………….(602)405-7401 Kathy Hernandez- Secretary ............... (623) 707-6825 Tim Osolin ........................................... (602) 938-4593 Mark LeGault……………………………..(480)242-0038 Sandy LeGault…………………………....(480)242-0038 Angie Saucedo.......................................(480)209-8465 Amanda Harris.......................................(623)866-3189 Claudia Marco........................................(480)634-1424 “The Journey” Memorial Order Form (newsletter) Please reserve: □ ¼ page (donation $10) □ ½ page (donation $20) □ Full page (donation $40) Month you wish memorial to appear in:__________________ Loved One’s Name__________________________________ Date of Birth ____________ Age _____ Date of Death_______________ YOUR Name______________________________________ YOUR Phone Number_______________________________ A quarter page will hold either a picture OR a brief message; a half page will hold a picture and short poem OR message, depending on space. If a photo is included, please provide identification of the person on the back. If you wish the photo to be returned include a self-addressed stamped envelope, big enough for the picture to fit in. Unless otherwise specified, location, size and structure of the text and picture will be at editor’s discretion and space permitting. *Return this form with your material for The Journey by the 10th of the month preceding the issue you wish it to appear in. *A donation for the memorial page can be made by sending a check made out to POMC with the memorial information in care of: Newsletter Editor, Valley of the Sun POMC 19619 North 38th Avenue Glendale AZ 85308-2215 CONTACT NUMBERS ON LINE SIBLING SUPPORT: Amanda Harris is our chapter's Sibling Coordinator and has on line support for siblings. Her contact info is 623-866-3189 or www.unitingsiblings.com POMC (after hrs V/M) ..................... ..(602) 254-8818 Chapter E-mail……………………. [email protected] CRISIS LINE/MOBILE CRISIS TEAM Empact Crisis Line .......................... …..(480) 784-1500 OTHER HELP LINES Teen Lifeline ................................... …..(602) 248-8336 GrandCare (Grandparents help line)…..(602) 274-5022 Crime Victims Legal Assistance Project... (480) 965-5640 Maricopa County Attorney Victim Services...602-506-8522 Crime Victim Compensation (602) 506-4955 11 Return Address PARENTS OF MURDERED CHILDREN, INC. VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER 19620 North 38th Avenue Glendale AZ 85308-2215 (602) 254-8818 Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc., is a self-help organization dedicated to the aftermath of murder. The success of its mission depends upon the participation of the families and friends of those lost to murder. POMC number (602) 254-8818 WHY WE ARE HERE: MISSION STATEMENT: “POMC makes the difference through ongoing emotional support, education, prevention, advocacy, and awareness.” VISION STATEMENT: “To provide support and assistance to all survivors of homicide victims while working to create a world free of murder.” This project is supported by Grant No. 2012-VA-GX-0022 from the US Department of Justice - Office for Victims of Crime. The opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the US DOJ or the Arizona Department of Public Safety.
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