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The Girlfriendz-Center for Dentistry “Smile Makeover” Contest! 43 Contest Winners: The Girlfriendz-Studio K “Photo Shoot” Contest You’re athome at TheWestonClub Whether you’re enjoying a cup of coffee with a new friend or a gourmet dinner in the restaurant with your family, you know you’re home. Add the heated atrium pool, fitness center, library, movie theater, card rooms. Cultural activities and courtesy limo and you could imagine yourself in a lavish resort. Come experience The Weston Club A Premier Retirement Community Where you get to Keep Your Nest Egg! The Weston Club is a No Entrance Fee/No Buy-In Rental Community. BY MARIA MICOLUCCI 26 Do You Need a Probiotic? Go With Your Gut! 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BY SANDI TUTTLE 36 The Cat Who Came to Dinner BY NICOLE PENSIERO 39 Cosmetic Dentistry: There’s More to it Than Meets the Eye L, SSELL D JARDIN CA ND EN RIIE FR JUNIOR GIRL 2003 R BE EM PT SE BY TOBI SCHWARTZ-CASSELL 7b¸aZWYSVOdW\Ug]c`]e\^S`a]\OZb`OW\S`eWbV]cbVOdW\Ub]VOdSO^S`a]\OZb`OW\S` ON THE COVER Scan this code to visit our website! Our cover model is actress and author Deidre Hall who portrays Dr. Marlena Evans on Days of Our Lives. For more information on Ms. Hall and to purchase her book How Does She Do It?, visit her website at www.deidrehall.me. Catch her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/pages/Deidre-hall/26404831327 and on Twitter at www.twitter. com/deidrehall. Her story begins on page 23 of this issue of Girlfriendz. Our cover’s “retro item” is an historic Days of our Lives hourglass from the Days of our Lives set at NBC Studios in Burbank, California. Our photo shoot took place at the Caffeinated Coffee Shop in Salem on the set of Days of Our Lives. 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Girlfriendz: The Thinking Woman’s Magazine is published bi-monthly by The Word Source, LLC and is the copyrighted property of The Word Source, LLC. Content may not be reproduced or reprinted, in whole or in part, by any other party without expressed written prior consent of Girlfriendz: The Thinking Woman’s Magazine. GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com 5 FROM THE editor Sometimes, What Goes Around Comes Around. Twice. I have always been, and always will be, a Barbie Girl. My collection started with a hand-me-down Barbie and her sparse wardrobe. She had a long blonde pony tail and one leg. I didn’t even want to speculate on what had happened to the amputated limb. I just avoided dressing her in the pants she showed up with, and opted instead for her long, pink gown. On my next birthday, my parents gave me a brand new Barbie with all four appendages and a beautiful platinum blonde “bubble” hairdo. I was positively euphoric! Barbie and Barbie had a lot of fun together, as did I, their puppeteer. As time went on, Ken joined in to make TOBI SCHWARTZ-CASSELL, EDITOR-IN-CHIEF it a plutonic threesome. The Barbies’ [email protected] wardrobe grew, with both store-bought clothes and handmade pieces my mom would design and knit for them. Those girls were stylin’! But when they’d get dressed up to step out for the evening, all Ken had to choose from was a golf ensemble and swim trunks. Eventually, Ken and the Barbies acquired a knock-off “11.5-inch doll” doctor’s office with cardboard snap-together furniture. Ken was awarded his MD and a doctor’s suit and one of the Barbies got a nurse’s uniform, complete with a starched white cap. It sounds kind of weird now, but this was the 60s and though Mattel made career clothes for Barbie and Ken, they didn’t make attire for female doctors and male nurses. Just the other day, I had a discussion with two other Barbie Girls— Catherine Allen of M Financial Planning and Bobbie Jo Grace of Southern United Title. (Yes, this is what happens when women convene for a business meeting—or at least, a Girlfriendz Magazine business meeting.) Bobbie Jo had a typical Barbie family with Barbie, Ken and Skipper. I’m guessing Ken was an insurance agent, Barbie was a homemaker and president of the PTA, and Skipper was a typical ﬁfth grade girl who turned her nose up at spinach. Catherine’s Barbies, on the other hand, only owned outﬁts that corresponded to a career. She remembers naming one of her Barbies “Tina,” and writing curt notes to Ken like: Make your own dinner tonight, Ken. Signed, Tina Catherine does not remember what Ken had done to provoke Barbie’s…I mean Tina’s…ire. And just like with my uni-leg Barbie, I chose not to speculate. Eventually, Tressy joined my collection. (Remember her? She had a short brown haircut with a ponytail at the top of her head. You could pull the ponytail and it would grow all the way down to her feet! I never could ﬁgure out where all that hair was hidden, but again, I chose not to speculate.) Rounding out my collection was “Hi Heidi.” Much shorter than the 11.5-inch dolls, all she owned was the red dress on her back. But who cared? When you pushed the button on her tummy, her right arm would whip up toward the sky as if she were saying, “Hi!” So 6 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com there they were—My Barbie Collection—Ken, Tressy, Hi Heidi, Barbie and Barbie. They made a cozy, sexless home in the cardboard doctor’s office (we couldn’t afford a Dream House) and they all lived happily ever after. Until... One Saturday afternoon when I was in middle school, I decided to visit my Barbie Collection. I went down to the basement and couldn’t ﬁnd it. My mom told me she and my dad had given it away. Gone—lock, stock and doctor’s office. I was furious! How could they have done this to me?! Naturally, my mom apologized profusely for not having checked with me ﬁrst. She and my dad had assumed I wasn’t interested in playing with dolls anymore. Annoyed, I accepted the apology. After all, they were correct in their assumption. But it took a long time to get over it. I eventually did, of course, especially after they told me who they’d given it to. He was a man my dad worked with. They were a family in need and my parents wanted to help. So my Barbie Collection became his daughter’s Christmas present that year. And this time, I allowed myself to do a little speculation. I envisioned visioned her having a lot of fun with Barbie, Barbie and the girls. Ken, too, o, even though his ﬂocked hair had rubbed away long before. I’d taken care are of business with a black magic marker and hee looked just ﬁne. In fact, the whole thing was as ﬁne because the nameless little girl was giving my old Barbies a new life. It wasn’t until years later that I realized what my parents really had in n mind. Though the phrase “paying it forward” d” wasn’t in popular usage back then, that’s what they were doing. And it all started with some really nice person at my dad’s work who, so many years rs before, had given him a blonde one-legged gged Barbie doll to give to his daughter. mixellaneous WE’VE ADDED A 1500 SQUARE FOOT EVENT SPACE TO THE MIX! We can host your next birthday party (many themes to choose from), networking events, ladies night, fundraiser or girls night out. Our party planner will assist you with the details and create something fabulous! Check our website for Mixellaneous events and programs! Like us on FaceBook! ojm55mi55B(2.5.)5)**,-5&)(C5R5,&.)(65 5R5-#!(,]-5)/,.5")**#(!5(., nkl5kmj5jigf5R588 Warmly, PS: The story has a second happy ending. My dear childhood friend nd Barbara (who used to play Barbies with me) went on eBay and found an exact duplicate of my platinum blonde bubble-head Barbie, and gave ve it to me for my 40th birthday. She’s pictured right here! PPS: What’s your Barbie story? ry? Please share it with me at [email protected] zmag.com or on Facebook at www.facebook.com/girlfriendz, com/girlfriendz, and if you give me permission, n, I’ll put it in the next issue of Girlfriendz Magazine. gazine. ##!"# # "#! ! !"##!#" " !#########!" "" GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com 7 GIRLFRIENDZ letters FREE VEIN SCREENING [email protected] TURN VARICOSE VEINS into beautiful legs. We LOVE to hear from our girlfriendz! Carole Simpson: A True S/hero! CAROLE SIMPSON: A GROUNDBREAKER WHO CONTINUES TO STAND HER GROUND BY MARIA MICOLUCCI (VOLUME 5, ISSUE 1) my BFF for the past 30 years. We laughed when we realized we both loved Nancy Drew Mysteries but I was the one with the Barbie with unmoveable legs! Thanks for creating a magazine for us Pioneering Women who can do it all—home, work and fun! Susan Rothschild, Salem You are like a BFF! Great advice, fun events, local shopping—all things my BFF and I share. And when your magazine arrives, just like my BFF, that equals “me” time! Thanks for being my BMF (Best Magazine Forever)! Margie Datz, Woodbury I received the Jan/Feb issue today and am so excited that my “s/hero” Carole Simpson graces the cover! I have admired Ms. Simpson for many years and she has been a role model to me as I watched her anchor ABC World News Tonight Sunday. During her 25 year career at ABC News, she endured racism and sexual harassment. I’m so happy that you are sharing Carole’s story with us. I can’t wait to read the cover story and her new memoir— “NewsLady.” Thank you! Karen Johnson, PhD, Author, “Beyond the Body! Developing Inner Beauty” I really enjoyed and was inspired by the feature article on Carole Simpson. She broke many barriers, but the most important one was to inspire other women to believe in themselves and to encourage women to work with each other. Oftentimes, we see each other as rivals and do not celebrate the accomplishments of other women. I ﬁrmly believe the only way the “glass ceiling” will ever be broken is if women support, encourage and promote other women. Just think how many women in corporations and small business would thrive and how many more opportunities could be created! Thank you Carole Simpson for your courage! Francesca Hahn, Marlton Remembering Nancy Drew and Barbie, too Just viewed Girlfriendz for the ﬁrst time with I love Girlfriendz Magazine! It makes you feel like you have girlfriends even if you don’t. The articles and events have connected me to many people—people I would probably never have met if I did not subscribe to this magazine. Thank you for being my girlriend. Andrea Peebles, Marlton Here’s to the Pioneers PARENT PIONEERS HELPING PARENTS OF CHILDREN WITH AUTISM AND ASPERGER’S BY JACKIE PANTALIANO (VOLUME 5, ISSUE 1) I thoroughly enjoyed the article by Jackie Pantaliano in the Jan/Feb issue, and especially enjoyed the note about “Sheldon” from The Big Bang Theory. I hope the story of my son Bob, now 22, will be an inspiration. My husband and I feel he might be seen as the exception when it comes to Asperger’s as he graduated Cum Laude from Concordia College, NY with a degree in social work and is receiving his Masters from the University of Pennsylvania. He says he wants to give back to all those who helped him. Like the parents in your article, I am also concerned about his success in the outside world and just want him to be happy. When he was growing up, the groups you mentioned at the end of the article were not available, but I will pass this info on to him. Thanks so much for afﬁrming that I, as a parent, am not alone, and for offering the info for Bob. Pat Schmus, Voorhees I loved this article! Jackie presented some of the different types of Aspies along with how/when they were diagnosed. Sure wish Brian had been diagnosed sooner than age 21! The “name” for all his quirks just helps Join us for a FREE SCREENING! explain those quirks. But he never learned to deal with his behavior. Thank you for a great article. Linda Mackey, via the Girlfriendz Website Great article Jackie! You really captured what each of these families are yearning for and that is for their child to have meaningful work and meaningful relationships. Nothing different from what we all strive for! 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Android customers can opt for mobile apps and devices like the Fitbit (below) because there’s no need for a direct connection. 2. FITBIT ULTRA’ — $100 (iPhone/iPad/Android) You could consider the Fitbit a pedometer for the digital age. It tracks the number of steps you take, the stairs you climb, calories burned, activity levels and sleep patterns. The Fitbit is small and light enough (0.4 oz) to tuck into a pocket or wear discretely on a belt. (The manufacturer claims it’s light enough to wear on a bra strap.) You get about 3 days of use on a charge, and the included charger connects with your computer (PC or Mac) to send data to a tracking website, with which you can use an iPhone app to track progress. The free mobile application also allows you to log 14 3. GOMEALS — Free CareOne at Evesham Assisted Living (iPhone/Android) Busy lives make it more important than ever to know how many calories, fats and carbs are in our foods. It’s the best way to keep a diet on track. GoMeals allows you to search the 60,000 items in its food database, and shows full nutritional information. GoMeals will display your meal history for the last 7 or 30 days to help you stay focused. You can even use its restaurant locator and browse built-in menus complete with nutritional information so you can choose restaurants with healthier options. 4. SANOFI DIABETES IBGSTAR™ — around $80 (iPhone/iPod touch) 2 1. WITHINGS BLOOD PRESSURE MONITOR — $129(iPhone/iPad/iPod touch) In addition to their popular body scale, Withings sells a blood pressure monitor that connects to an iPhone, iPad or iPod touch. Wrap the cuff around your arm and connect a cable to your iPhone to launch the application. It saves a record of your systolic and diastolic blood pressure as well as your heart rate. It also provides graphs of your blood pressure data, and a quick tap generates an email you can send to your doctor. Withings has also partnered with a number of medical records services including Microsoft HealthVault, so your data is synchronized automatically. You can track your blood pressure data with your body weight using their scale and everyone in your house can share the same equipment as the app tracks multiple people. 1 food intake and track workouts. Fitbit also has a social element, allowing you to share with friends, ask questions in the forum and create your own private groups for a little competition. 3 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com CareOne’s philosophy of caring includes attention to the social, physical, spiritual, and emotional needs of every individual. Already available in Germany, France, Switzerland, the Netherlands and Italy, the iBGStar™ Blood Glucose Monitoring System plugs directly into the iPhone or iPod touch, and its accompanying app displays results immediately after testing. The iBGStar™ Diabetes Manager App analyzes glucose patterns over time. In addition to normal recording and tracking, you can track carbohydrate intake and insulin doses. Scorecards show individual test results and are color-coded so high and low blood glucose results can be more easily identiﬁed. The ‘Share’ function enables users to select speciﬁc data to email to a healthcare professional. The application can be downloaded free from the App Store. Sanoﬁ US and its partner AgaMatrix have announced that the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) granted 510(k) premarket clearance in December 2011 for the iBGStar™ Blood Glucose Monitoring System, although no ofﬁcial availability date has been announced. Residents at CareOne at Evesham Assisted Living enjoy a full menu of programs and services designed to meet their personal needs, desires and preferences. Our assisted living life enrichment activities programs were created to promote wellness and maximize independence. Residents enjoy: t t t t t t t Private dining room with gourmet dining and dietary considerations 24-hour emergency response system Personal care assistance Access to laundry facilities On-site health care services Daily activities and programs Memory support care services, including memory stimulation programs g [ LEARN MORE ABOUT IT ] 874 Route 70 East, Marlton, NJ 08053 1IPOFt'BY FITBIT ULTRA www.ﬁtbit.com/product GOMEALS www.GoMeals.com www.care-one.com 403675 SANOFI DIABETES IBGSTAR™ www.ibgstar.us WITHINGS BLOOD PRESSURE MONITOR www.withings.com/en/bloodpressuremonitor 4 Howard Yermish works with small and medium enterprises on their Internet strategy, online marketing, user experience design, website usability, information architecture, application speciﬁcation and application design. His new project, “More Digital Referrals” is an online course delivered via email several times a week, with step-by-step instructions, video tutorials and downloadable materials you can use right away. Learn more and register for free at http://moredigitalreferrals.com. GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com 15 S P EC I A L A DV E RT I S I N G S ECT I O N Trends: What’s hot? Competition: What’s your difference? Happy Home Improvement Debbie of Décor & You: We don’t necessarily focus on the latest interior design trends. It may sound a bit strange, but most of our clients seek a fully decorated look that has more “staying power.” Our online style guide illustrates various decorating ideas like a Town and Country expression or Eco-Chic Groove, but since your room is your private oasis it should reﬂect your personal vision. Being trendy is great fun, but you have to be able to live with it and love it! Brian: Beneﬁcial (now serving South Jersey) is the oldest and largest bank headquartered in Philadelphia, helping customers for close to 160 years. All decision-making is local and we service nearly every loan we make. We offer savings programs as well as a full array of loan products that include personal, home equity, conventional and renovation programs. BY TO B I S C H WA RT Z- CAS S E L L Finances: Show me the money Chris of Oak Mortgage: Reﬁnancing your home may free up money and provide the most cost effective way to complete your renovation. And because rates remain at 60 year lows, we’ve seen many clients lower the years on their mortgage while ﬁnancing their project. For example, going from a 30-year ﬁxed to a 15-year ﬁxed could potentially keep monthly payments close to what you’re already paying, while saving you tens of thousands in interest over the term of the loan. Brian of Beneﬁcial: It begins with a conversation about your objectives. From there, we make recommendations on how to save for or ﬁnance the project. The choices for someone looking at a $1,000 remodel are very different from someone with a $100,000 budget. However, no project is too small and many of our loan programs have absolutely no fees. We even have a program speciﬁcally designed for the major renovation of a home. Doing some spring remodeling? How exciting! But once you’re fully involved, your excitement may wane. In her latest book Renovation Bootcamp™: Design and Remodel Your Kitchen Without Losing Your Wallet, Your Mind, or Your Spouse, author Robin Siegerman reveals tips to make the process more manageable and less stressful. Her advice: set a realistic budget, understand how long it will take and be sure to have detailed drawings. Our local experts offer strategies of their own to get you from A to B, happily. Barbara of BB’s: My goal is to help my clients avoid spending money. Invariably, once we’ve sorted and purged, we ﬁnd they already have storage containers to house what they’ve decided to keep. That said, some of my favorite organizing products are: Command Strips™, plastic see-through boxes with clip-on lids and label makers. I offer BB’s Brilliant Box System—an affordable, easy way to keep track of your receipts, bills and papers. It includes the actual ﬁle box and detailed instructions on how to use the system which manages your paperwork and your time. Steve of Matteo: Trends in our business include kitchen backsplashes that use glass and mosaic as accents and borders. Very hot: pre-sealed Travertine tiles. For countertops: granite, quartz—stone in general. For backsplashes: stone mixtures with glass for a pop of color. Wood cabinets: warm darker tones with lighter colorful glass. Teri of Closet Gallery: Mudrooms have been very popular. With active lifestyles, having everything organized, eliminates chaos when you are rushing to get to the next activity Andee of Melange: Many people are holding onto their homes and updating with color. Wall art is inexpensive and can change the style and feel of any room. Changing pillows on your couch or adding a new accent piece can do the same. Bold colors like red can give your room a real lift. Trust: The main ingredient Steve: Always look at how long g a company p y has been in business, urchasing materials. Who will especially when it comes to purchasing be there for you if a problem arises rises down the road? We always handle the warranty issues and d hold every ﬁle for just such reasons. OUR EXPERTS: Barbara Berman, Owner, BB’s Clutter Solutions, Cherry Hill, www.bb-clutter-solutions.com Teri Fisher, Owner/Designer, Closet Gallery, Medford, www.theclosetgallery.com Steven Matteo, Co-Owner, Matteo Family Kitchens, Inc, Woodstown, www.matteokitchens.com Chris Murray, Senior Loan Officer (NMLS# 251895), Oak Mortgage Company, Marlton, www.christophermurray.oakmortgageusa.com/ Brian Myers, Director of Consumer & Residential Lending, Beneﬁcial Bank, Philadelphia, www.thebeneﬁcial.com Andrea Saper, Owner, Melange Home Décor & More Than Gifts, Marlton, www.morethangiftsmarlton.com Debbie Titus, DecorDesigner & Design Business Manager, Serving Camden and Burlington Counties, www.decorandyou.com/dtitus 16 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com Debbie: A good decorator actss as a style supporter and trusted advisor who’s not solely focused on the sales process. Spend time talking with the ening carefully decorator to be sure she is listening ural and fun to you. It should feel like a natural process. Barbara: You need to trust the person, feel like she’s listening to yourr needs. And depending on what she does, ﬁnd out if she’s insured and/or bonded. Teri: First impressions are important; portant; however a company needs to back theirr products and services. Closet Gallery offers ffers a lifetime warranty on our products and services. Chris: Our local office in Marlton is where every aspect of your loan is handled. Oak is a responsive member of the community and has been providing mortgages in New Jersey for more than 14 years. Our staff members live locally, are extremely accessible and are here to answer all your questions. This leads to a streamlined closing and a very smooth experience. Steve: We apply ZERO pressure. We’ll design your entire job—layouts to color scheme—free! We’ll remove existing hard surface ﬂoors (hardwood and ceramic) to install newer products (the big box stores don’t offer these services). We have a complete showroom and will come to your home to measure, ask questions and offer suggestions. Teri: Customer service and attention to detail. We work very closely with all of our customers and pride ourselves in the relationships we form. Andee: We carry pieces you won’t ﬁnd in other stores because we purchase everything from vendors who don’t sell to other stores in our area. We’re also constantly bringing new things into our store, so all inventory is fresh and new. Barbara: Because I work with clients one-on-one, I motivate them to be more productive and efficient and help them develop strategies to stay organized permanently. I listen to their stories without judgment, like to make them laugh and have fun, and help them see this is not something to be dreaded. On the other hand, if we’re organizing and purging as a result of the loss of a loved one, I let them know that crying in front of me m or being upset is ﬁne. I respect their individu individuality and work at their pace. Debbie Debbie: We blend solid project management skills and a design expertise using what we call the Styl Styleprint™ Design System. It’s a managed makeove makeover. From selection and purchase through installatio installation, every detail is professionally managed to provide a comfortable, worry-free experien experience. And when it’s all ﬁnished, everything is in plac place, looks good and feels right! g GIRLFRIENDZ M MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com 17 Two Girlfriendz on a journey Spring Cleaning on Steroids: Life in a Petri Dish Hoarding and How to Cope BY LISA ALBERTA HAVE YOU HEARD? MARIAH CAREY IS THE NEW SPOKESPERSON FOR JENNY CRAIG. She just had twins, looks amazing and now we all know why! As if celebrities aren’t already under a giant microscope, they torture themselves by signing up for this! The entire world will now be watching her every move and analyzing every outﬁt to see if there are any bulges where there shouldn’t be. Eight months ago, Diane and Claudia agreed to go under the Girlfriendz microscope while we all sat back and watched. They embarked on the eatsmart weight loss program at Cherry Hill Health & Racquet Club, starting off with good intentions, but weren’t exactly getting the results we’d hoped for. When I met with Diane this week to go over her measurements, she was beaming! She had lost ten pounds and 11 inches. The ﬁrst sentence out of her mouth: “I’m so happy I’m ﬁnally losing weight—I really didn’t want to disappoint you!” Diane is addicted to working out, feels better than ever, and even her doctor is raving about her weight loss…yet, what is Diane focusing on? Not disappointing anyone. I’m so proud of Diane, but wish her motivation came from within, rather than feeling compelled to succeed. I’m very proud of Claudia, too! She has lost 20 pounds and says, “I feel better than ever and am staying on track!” Staying on track is what it’s all about. So let’s make a pact to stop putting so much pressure on ourselves, set small ﬁtness and weight loss goals, make good choices and throw out that microscope! g kickstart Your weight loss program with Diane & Claudia at CHHRC! If you've fallen off the fitness wagon, KickStart is a great way to get back on! if your New Year's Resolution is to lose weight and get in shape, KickStart is for you! Statistics tell us that people who exercise with a friend are more successful at exercising consistently. You keep each other accountable and motivated! Bring a friend to KickStart today! Go to www.chhrc.com/kickstart $129 $99 for members. First time visitors and first time personal training clients. 18 4 week membership 4 personal training sessions Spaces 4 nutritional consultations GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com Limited! Call today Serving the community since 1971 Your family Health Club www.chhrc.com 856.429.1388 GRACE CAME TO THE ATTENTION OF A LOCAL SOCIAL SERVICE AGENCY AFTER AN ANONYMOUS CALL WAS PLACED TO THE HEALTH DEPARTMENT. “I just can’t throw things away. At ﬁrst it was just the kids’ school papers but then it was magazines, newspapers and broken appliances I thought I could repair. There are piles everywhere. The house is so cluttered we can’t even sit at the kitchen table or take baths because I have ﬁlled them with papers. My husband is threatening to leave me and take the kids with him.” Grace is suffering from a psychiatric condition called hoarding which is considered to be related to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Approximately 25% of individuals with OCD also exhibit hoarding behaviors. According to Dr. Frost of the International OCD foundation, hoarding has been a hidden disorder for many years. It is only since the 1990s that more research has been conducted on hoarding. Interest in it has increased in response to TV reality shows which have made the public aware of this disabling condition. ACCORDING TO THE MAYO CLINIC, THE SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF HOARDING ARE: ĕſ acquiring unneeded or seemingly useless items including magazines, newspapers and trash ĕſ an inability to discard items even though they are worthless ĕſ excessive attachment to possessions, including discomfort letting others touch or borrow their possessions ĕſ cluttered living spaces ĕſ difficulty organizing items or moving items from one pile to another without discarding anything ĕſ difficulty managing daily activities including procrastination and trouble making decisions ĕſ shame and embarrassment ĕſ limited social interactions There is a difference between collecting and hoarding. Collectors seek out speciﬁc items and carefully organize and display their collection. Hoarders, on the other hand, just acquire random items which they carelessly store in their homes. People who hoard generally believe the item will be useful some day, BY THERESA WRIGHT, PhD for instance, toilet paper rolls or magazines and newspapers for future art projects. There are also cases of people hoarding animals, keeping dozens of pets in often unsanitary conditions. Due to the large numbers, the animals cannot be cared for properly. Veterinarians are often the ﬁrst to notice there is a problem when owners bring in one sick or injured animal after another. It is not clear what causes hoarding behavior but it is more likely to occur in an individual with a family history of hoarding. Genetics and upbringing both seem to be factors in this condition. Hoarding may actually begin in childhood with the child saving broken toys, pencil nubs and papers. A stressful life event with which an individual was unable to cope, such as a death in the family, divorce or a move can exacerbate the condition. It tends to get worse with age, with the average age of a person seeking treatment for hoarding at about 50 years old. Hoarding can consume an individual’s life. It interferes with their daily functioning and disrupts their ﬁnancial, emotional and social well being. It impacts signiﬁcantly on relationships, with family members feeling depressed and resentful. It also affects the social development of children. Spouses may move out of the home with the children because of the deplorable living conditions. Many people even go broke renting storage units for all of their possessions. Hoarders may feel that something bad will happen if they throw an item away. To avoid this feeling, they save everything so this erroneous belief is never disproved. But it’s important for non-hoarders to know that the hoarding behavior will not be eliminated by simply throwing things out. Instead, the underlying causes must be identiﬁed and addressed in treatment. In fact, if a home is cleaned out without the hoarder’s consent, the behavior can worsen and may lead to a person refusing help in the future. Non-hoarders also need to know they cannot apply logic and reason with a loved one who is a hoarder when it comes to their living circumstances. It often takes drastic measures such as family members leaving or reports to police, ﬁre and/or the health departments for a hoarder to seek treatment. The International OCD foundation offers guidelines for addressing your concerns with a friend or family member suffering from hoarding: Respect. Acknowledge that a person has a right to make his or her own decisions at his or her own pace. Sympathize. Understand that everyone has some attachment to the things they own. Try to understand the importance of their items 19 Matteo’s BIG Kitchen SAVER SALE! You Don’t Want To Miss This Deal! Customer Satisfaction is Nice... 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Are you ready to: ◗ Be more productive? ◗ See results quickly? ◗ Have less stress? Then, it’s time to work with an expert by your side and move from Bedlam to Brilliance! 856.912.0077 Contact Barbara Berman, Professional Organizer, TODAY! You’ll Love What Happens! [email protected] | www.bb-clutter-solutions.com Sign up to receive your FREE monthly organizing tips at www.bb-clutter-solutions.com 20 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com to them. Encourage. Come up with ideas to make their home safer, such as moving clutter from doorways and halls. Team up. Don’t argue about whether to keep or discard an item; instead ﬁnd out what will help motivate the person to discard or organize. Reﬂect. Help the person recognize that hoarding interferes with the goals and values the person may hold. For example, by decluttering the home, a person may feel more comfortable thinking about hosting social gatherings, resulting in a richer social life. Ask. Develop trust by never throwing anything away without asking permission. Psychological treatment is available. Cognitive-behavioral therapy can help an individual explore why they hoard, learn to de-clutter their home and organize their possessions, practice relaxation skills and work on healing among family members. Antidepressant and anti-anxiety medication may provide relief in conjunction with therapy. Beth Johnson, a motivational instructor of de-cluttering workshops, recommends attending a support group and offers practical solutions for hoarders and for those who want to help them: Excavate one tiny area at a time (one corner, one drawer). Throw out broken items and moldy food. Sort before discarding anything. It will be easier to throw things out when you see that you have 20 of the same thing. Donate items instead of throwing them away. It can be a comfort to know they can ﬁnd a good home with someone else. Don’t buy a book unless you spend 30 minutes reading it in the book store. For every book you buy, relinquish two books that you identify as dispensable. When tempted by “free” items, control the urge to acquire by imagining that you must pay a dollar for each one. Take before and after photos so you can see the difference and chart your progress. If you are suffering from this disabling condition, you no longer have to be trapped in the turmoil in your mind or the chaos in your home. There is help. There is hope. g Theresa Wright, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice with offices in Mt. Laurel and Colts Neck, NJ. She has worked in the mental health ﬁeld for over 20 years. She received her Ph.D. from Temple University and works with diverse populations and age groups. HOARDER or COLLECTOR? According to Our Experts, Sometimes the Lines are Blurred BY KATHY WEYER EVER WATCH THE SHOW HOARDERS? Like a train wreck, it’s hard to watch and hard to look away. While most of us aren’t hoarders, we do have a tendency to have “too much stuff.” Are you a hoarder? A collector? Somewhere in between? Read what our experts have to say. Barbara Berman of BB’s Clutter Solutions has seen her share of hoarders while organizing people and their spaces over the past ﬁve years. Some of her clients come to her from Clutterers Anonymous, some look for help by themselves and some are referrals from family members. She works one-on-one and gauges possible success by including these questions in her assessment: 1. Why now? (What compelled you to contact me?) 2. Do you have the time, emotional and ﬁnancial commitment to make this transition? 3. What have you done in the past? 4. Do you really want the help? Teri Fisher, owner of The Closet Gallery builds spaces to house collections by design- ing custom cabinetry. Clients call her when they want to get organized in a limited amount of space. While she has not dealt with hoarders directly, she suspects some of her clients may have OCD tendencies. What she has run across are compulsive shoppers who need a place to display their purchases (such as 400 pairs of shoes and excessive purchases of personal hygiene and cleaning products). Rather than going through and disposing/selling/donating their items, her approach is to tell them exactly how much space they have to work with efficiently, and let them decide what to put in their new, improved areas. She does not necessarily [ encourage getting rid of things, rather putting them in storage if you don’t need to see it every day or need easy access. Some things you just can’t part with—nor should you have to—like that old college T-shirt or the shoes you used in the 60-mile breast cancer walk. 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DEIDRE AND HER BEST FRIEND AND WRITING PARTNER, LYNNE BOWMAN, SPILL THEIR MOST CLOSELY HELD BEAUTY RITUALS, FROM THEIR BEAUTIFUL BUTT EXERCISES TO THE INS AND OUTS OF PERMANENT MAKEUP, WEIGHT LOSS AND COSMETIC SURGERY. AMONG THE PAGES OF BEAUTY ADVICE IN THIS BOOK, YOU’LL FIND A COMPLETELY UN-RETOUCHED PHOTO OF DEIDRE—WHAT SHE CALLS “FULL FACIAL NUDITY.” WE CAN TELL YOU THIS: THIS IS ONE WOMAN WHO KNOWS SOMETHING ABOUT LOOKING GOOD AT ANY AGE. BY MARIA MICOLUCCI 22 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com MM: Deidre, tell us why you decided to write How Does She Do It? DH: The beauty book is a natural extension of the way Lynne and I live in our friendship. On any given moment, we are standing in someone’s bathroom, cosmetics strung before us and eagerly soaking up what the other has learned. MM: What has the response been from your fans about the book? DH: It’s been interesting to watch because there is so much more interest around this book than around Kitchen Closeup, (Deidre’s ﬁrst book, published in 2010). It’s dealing with topics that women really care about. MM: What is the one single beauty mistake you think women make? DH: Anything in excess diminishes our natural beauty, so, too much hair spray? I think it should be about letting our natural beauty shine through. MM: What is your single favorite antiaging skin care product? DH: Exfoliate, exfoliate, exfoliate. Do it often and do it well. There are many great brands, so it’s a matter of trying to see what works for you! MM: What do you think of the style of twenty-somethings today? DH: The truth is that as styles change everybody gets the chance to have their look come into fashion. I like that about changing style. I love the look right now with the leggings and boots and shorter skirts. GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com 23 MM: Many baby boomer women have trouble maintaining a healthy weight. It just isn’t as easy as it used to be! What is your advice for them? DH: The key word here is “healthy.” It’s about being diligent and respectful of your body, and understanding that what you put into it counts. My favorite advice is, once you ﬁnd a weight where your body is comfortable, learn to love it. MM: Tell us about your enduring friendship with your writing partner, Lynne Bowman. DH: When I was a model, one of my assignments was for a hair product, and she worked for Redken Laboratories. We met and that was the beginning of a beautiful friendship. We’ve seen each other through incredible joys and unspeakable horrors and exquisite betrayal sitting around that kitchen table discussing the events of our day. MM: What do your friendships mean to you? DH: The women in my life are so nurturing and supportive and they hold a very dear place in my heart. They are always there for me as I am for them; this is what true women and true friends do. MM: Any more books planned in your future? DH: I have been ﬂirting with the idea of a manners book. I am so weary of walking through my life and seeing people who don’t know proper etiquette, proper grammar and have no sense of appropriate manners. MM: Tell us about what’s going on at Days of Our Lives. DH: You’ll have to tune in to ﬁnd out! Tired of waiting to have that WOW factor in your home... Not sure where to start... Full Service Professional Interior Decorating Window Treatments Home Accessories/Area Rugs Call Debbie Titus at 1-908-752-2228 www.decorandyou.com/dtitus www.facebook.com/decorandyou.debbietitus 24 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com MM: Days is the only daytime drama series to increase in viewers over the last few seasons. In our virtually-obsessed society, does that surprise you? DH: People seem to be very excited about Days, so I’m happy to say I’m not surprised. We have wonderful new writers, Darrell and Marlene, and they have made the show so relevant and watchable again that I’m just so excited every time I open a new script! MM: What has it been like to play a character like Marlena Evans for so long? DH: I’ve played Marlena since 1976 and that’s longer than every relationship I’ve had in my life, longer than my relationship with my children and if you combine my marriages (laughs). It’s great. I love her. I love spending my day with her and watching her grow! MM: Tell us what the 2-1/2 years were like that you spent away from Days. DH: It was not my choice to leave the show, and there was a time where I didn’t think I could separate Marlena from Deidre and vice versa. I quickly learned how to relax, take walks on the beach and just spend time with dear and cherished friends. MM: What charities are closest to your heart? DH: They change all the time. I am attached to Operation Smile, having spent one of the greatest times in my life with my son David on a mission in Brazil. I lobbied Congress for the Child Nutrition Act. Other charities that attract me are plentiful. MM: What book is on your nightstand right now? DH: Several. I’m reading Nora Ephron’s new book, a sign language book and I love my Psychology Today. MM: Tell us a few things most people don’t know about you. DH: I think people already know that I’m a passionate kitchen beautician. I think they know that one of my favorite pastimes is knitting baby sweaters. They may not know how much I love to decorate cakes, work in my garden, cook ffrom scratch and vacuum my own rugs. LONG-TIME BFFS AND WRITING PARTNERS LYNNE BOWMAN AND DEIDRE HALL. MM: What was your greatest moment on Days? DH: The moments that come to mind are the times I was able to step out off Marlena. l It has nothing to do with not loving Marlena, it is simply the pleasure of a change of pace. MM: What would be your favorite way to spend a day off? DH: Waking up in the morning, turning to my daily appointment schedule and ﬁnding a completely blank page. Beyond that, a walk to the edge of the continent, what I call my little piece of the ocean; bouncing around with my children and in the evening, settling down to an episode of Downton Abbey. MM: How are your sons doing? DH: Spectacular! David completed his ﬁrst semester at college in Paris, and Tully is enjoying being a junior in high school and I still adore being their mom. MM: What does the future hold for Deidre Hall? DH: I can’t wait to see! D MM: What would you like to M say to Girlfriendz readers? DH DH: I ﬁnd that all of us are stru struggling with how to fulﬁll the ﬁ ﬁnal third of our lives. It’s a hot topic t of conversation among my ba baby boomer friends. We want to rem remain active, vital and still h have a deep desire to contribute. We have succeeded in business, we have raised our children and the rest is up to our heart’s desire. I have numbers of friends who have spoken quite seriously about growing old together in a large house by the ocean being cared for by a chef and driver, and companioned by life-long friends. To that end, in the ﬁnal third of my life, I look forward to giving back. PHILLY LOVES A WINNER 24/7 GAMING ACTION g Maria Micolucci had a 10-year career in ﬁnancial services working for mutual fund companies, primarily in Boston, MA. After moving to the Philadelphia area, she began to volunteer in politics and became a Chief of Staff for a state legislator. Maria is currently a freelance writer living in Wayne, PA with her husband and two children. Visit her book review website at www. girlfriendbooks.com. FREE VALET AND SELF-PARKING ON DELAWARE AVE. 1 MI. NORTH OF BEN FRANKLIN BRIDGE sugarhousecasino.com | 877.477.3715 GAMBLING PROBLEM? CALL 1.800.GAMBLER. 25 Do You Need a PROBIOTIC? Go With Your Gut! BY ROZANNE GELBINOVICH FROM THE ACTIVIA COMMERCIALS STARRING JAMIE LEE CURTIS TO THE PLETHORA OF OVER-THECOUNTER SUPPLEMENTS ON THE MARKET, PROBIOTICS HAVE BEEN INFILTRATING MAINSTREAM CONSCIOUSNESS. BUT WHAT EXACTLY ARE PROBIOTICS? SHOULD YOU BE TAKING THEM? AND IF SO, WHICH ONES AND IN WHAT FORM? WE GOT THE SCOOP FROM THE EXPERTS ON EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT PROBIOTICS. Let’s start at the top: What exactly are probiotics? They are helpful in restoring the good bacteria—or ﬂora—in your gastrointestinal (GI) system. Particularly if you’ve been on an antibiotic regimen for a while, probiotics might be essential, as antibiotics tend to quash both bad bacteria (which ultimately makes you feel better) and the good bacteria in your system (which might actually make you feel even worse). “In my practice, I recommend clients take probiotics following antibiotics,” says Elsie Kerns, a certiﬁed energy medicine practitioner and wellness educator based in Marlton. “Antibiotics suppress the symptoms but also kill all the good bacteria in the body, so it’s easier to pick up the next bug going around. Antibiotics also proliferate yeast problems. Without friendly bacteria in the gut, yeast takes over and creates a myriad of other unpleasant 26 symptoms like bloating, brain fog and fatigue. Probiotics on a daily basis are an excellent way to help the body, and especially the gut, maintain health and wellness.” “A lot of times when someone’s gotten antibiotics for, say, a sinus infection, it may change the bacteria they have in their colon and that allows some of the bad bacteria to multiply, and those can cause problems,” says Dr. Noel Martins, gastroenterologist with the Kennedy Health System, whose office is in Sewell. So probiotics are useful in restoring good bacteria in your system, but if you don’t actually have any GI problems, should you be taking them simply as a matter of course? The experts we spoke to had differing opinions on the matter. According to Carolyn J. Boyer, personal probiotic consultant for Natren Inc., “Probiotics are for everyone. They’re great for every- GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com day dietary supplementation and for use as a preventive. They assist the immune system to build natural good ﬂora and in the digestive system to help with the body’s pH balance.” However, according to Dr. Ronald Ciccone, medical director for integrative family medicine for Lourdes Health System, whose office is in Collingswood, though everyone could beneﬁt from probiotics, not everybody necessarily needs them. Dr. Martins agrees: “I don’t think everyone should necessarily be on probiotics, but I think there are some people who can beneﬁt from them. There’s not much downside—the main one is the cost—but there are some people who speciﬁcally beneﬁt from them. I don’t tell every one of my patients to take probiotics. They may or may not help.” “Probiotics might be considered ‘preventive maintenance’ versus ‘crisis management,’” suggests Kerns. “They support the immune system, aid regularity and digestion. Based on our processed diet, stress and now resistance to many antibiotic strains, as well as living longer, everything we can do to enhance personal health is to our advantage.” What do the doctors we spoke with recommend probiotics for? “First of all, we use them as treatment for patients who have GI distress,” says Dr. Ciccone. “Many people have irritable bowel syndrome and many times it’s just a matter of imbalance of good/bad bacteria or enzymes in the GI tract.” “The groups of people I tend to use them for are people with irritable bowel syndrome, bacterial overgrowth and C. difficile infection. I tend to use it for people who have had infections in their intestines and people who aren’t feeling well after having taken antibiotics,” says Dr. Martins. According to Dr. Ciccone, what’s key is that everyone has his or her own biochemical makeup and that a speciﬁc probiotic treatment regimen will work differently for different people—or might not work at all. “It’s always good to give a combination of probiotic strains. The one we use in the office has about 12 different strains,” Dr. Ciccone states. “You’re trying to balance the good bacteria versus the bad bacteria. And it’s not just for balancing the bacteria; it also helps the immune system.” “Probiotics need to be a combination of several strains,” agrees Kerns. “There are many excellent probiotic products to choose from but I generally recommend Natren prod- ucts because they have quality super strains, proper processing and clinically proven results backed by scientiﬁc research. Natren carries probiotic products for every age, starting with babies, adults and even for animals. Natren has been in business for over 30 years and provides excellent phone support with their probiotic specialist.” “Probiotics are important for everyone— young and old, sick or healthy,” adds Boyer. “There are probiotics for infants, children, teens and adults. Also, it’s important to purchase probiotics that are live cultures that are housed and shipped refrigerated.” However even that claim, according to Dr. Ciccone, is controversial among experts in the ﬁeld. “The consensus is—refrigerated or non-refrigerated—as long as it’s a good quality brand and manufacturer, the product is good.” And Dr. Ciccone emphasizes that if you purchase refrigerated probiotics, make sure you keep them refrigerated, otherwise they will essentially die and thus lose their effectiveness.” Also, says Dr. Ciccone, whatever over-thecounter probiotic you purchase, make sure it’s one with a high dose of live active cultures. “A lot of times treatment doesn’t work on people because they take OTC probiotics and dosages are really low. You have to treat in billions; in some people they treat it with trillions. So you really need high doses of probiotics to make them work. “Probably about half the contents of the bowels are bacteria—that’s 100 trillion bacteria. So if you think about treating it with a few billion, you can see how you’re not really making a big dent.” But what if you don’t want to take pills? Yogurt and keﬁr are good options. “Activia has about 1 to 3 billion live active cultures, which is not a lot, but sometimes a small amount can actually help,” says Dr. Ciccone. “If someone is concerned about taking probiotics, I usually suggest they have the yogurt with the live active cultures,” Dr. Martins agrees. “It’s kind of a milder way to change your ﬂora.” “Yogurt is a healthy, cultured food that is good for the gut,” Kerns notes. “However, many people cannot tolerate dairy, and following a round of antibiotics, it would take a long time to build up the good bacteria again with just yogurt. Probiotics as a preventive measure on a daily basis is one very healthy way to nurture the body and support our best defense system—our immune system.” Boyer suggests powders or chewables as alternatives to pills. “Powders are a help with upper gastrointestinal conditions. As you drink them, they help coat the esophagus and get in the digestive system faster for more immediate assistance,” she says. Ultimately, probiotics are good for restoring the balance of good bacteria in your gut. But, as with any other supplements or medications, it’s essential that you contact your healthcare professional or an expert in the ﬁeld before starting on any kind of serious regimen of probiotics. Since everyone has a different biochemical makeup, it may take some trial and error to ﬁnd the best combination of probiotics that work for you. Dr. Martins also warns that if you start on a regimen because of mild abdominal pain or bloating, and you don’t feel better after a week or two, get checked out for the possibility of a more serious illness. “We all need good ﬂora in our digestive system to keep us healthy. Restoring the good bacteria by taking probiotics and removing the bad or unneeded pathogens is something we need to do on a daily basis. Our bodies need to re-establish the ﬂora because we lose enough of the good on a daily basis through different means such as stress, diets, sickness and not enough rest,” Boyer says. It’s important to take care of our bodies, and probiotics — in the right combination and doses — could be just what the doctor ordered. g [ LEARN MORE ABOUT IT ] RONALD P. CICCONE, MD Lourdes Health System www.lourdeswellnesscenter.org/ integrative-health-care WINNING IS A BEAUTIFUL THING FREE RIDES TO & FROM THE 2012 PHILADELPHIA INTERNATIONAL FLOWER SHOW NOEL MARTINS, MD Kennedy Health System www.kennedyhealth.org/patients-andvisitors/ﬁnd-a-doctor.html ELSIE KERNS Wellness for Life www.wellnesswithelsie.com CAROLYN J. BOYER Natren, Inc. www.natren.com FREE VALET AND SELF-PARKING ON DELAWARE AVE. 1 MI. NORTH OF BEN FRANKLIN BRIDGE Rozanne Gelbinovich works as a copy editor for The Drug Store News Group, a group of trade publications that covers the retail drug store, health care and pharmaceutical industries. She also is a weekly columnist for amNewYork, a free daily commuter newspaper distributed throughout the city, and keeps up her travel blog, bitten (bittentravel.blogspot.com), where she combines her two passions: travel and writing. sugarhousecasino.com | 877.477.3715 GAMBLING PROBLEM? CALL 1.800.GAMBLER. DAWN JONES The Story of a Survivor IT WAS THANKSGIVING 1999. I GOT A CALL IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT. MY MOM HAD HAD A HEART ATTACK. She was visiting my brother in Virginia. I laid in bed getting my plan together to go there the next day. I tried to fall back to sleep as my mind was racing. The same spot at the top of my left breast that had been itchy was starting to itch again, but this time I felt a lump. In the months leading up to that night, I’d been wondering why I was having discomfort wearing a bra. I searched out every type and manufacturer I could get my hands on and still I found no comfort. I soon found out why. Once my mom was out of danger and recuperating, I returned to New York to A NEW REALITY Prior to the biopsy, cancer was the farthest thought from my mind. There was no family history. I was now my family’s history. I was confused, upset, out of my mind with fear. I had to make some very serious decisions quickly. I wanted to take my time and do research. But my oncologist said she needed to start chemotherapy or I wouldn’t be here to research anything. It took just about a year of treatment to stop the spreading and shrink the tumor, before they could cut my breast off. Cut my breast off. Wow! That brings me back. At that time, my home life was so out of balance, sometimes I couldn’t remember if I was crying about the cancer, the horrible side “THIS is an extremely aggressive CANCER,” he said, ...After that, I saw his mouth moving , but couldn’t HEAR his WORDS. BY DAWN JONES 28 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com see my GYN. She measured the lump. It was 2 cms, and I was sent for a biopsy. The following week the surgeon came into the exam room, measured the lump and to his surprise and mine, it had grown to 8 cms in only 6 days. It was stage 3 inﬂammatory breast cancer. The nature of the disease is that it not only causes tumors but also attacks the skin. “This is an extremely aggressive cancer,” he said, “and we need to get you into chemotherapy ‘yesterday’…” After that, I saw his mouth moving, but I couldn’t hear his words. At ﬁrst I couldn’t ﬁnd my voice, then I screamed “What the %[email protected]$ did you just say?!” I remember him being so cold and condescending, as if he were saying “I’m going for coffee.” Before he walked out of the room, he instructed me to call his office with any questions or concerns. After leaving four messages and getting no response, I found another surgeon who would do the mastectomy. effects or the turmoil in my house. Two of my girlfriends, Marlene and Lorna, came to cook some meals for me and my family because I was too sick to get out of bed. I was sick all the time. No appetite, always nauseous, always tired… PHILLY LOVES A WINNER LIVE ENTERTAINMENT WEDNESDAY – SATURDAY TIME FOR SOME SHOPPING It took some months for my skin to heal. The time had come for radiation therapy. Toward the end of treatment, my skin looked as if I’d been caught in a ﬁre, but after months of treating the radiated skin, it healed up nicely. Now I had to prepare myself to shop for a prosthesis. I love shopping, but I had never thought I’d be shopping for a boob! WOOHOO! That was some experience. I had to start with a soft cotton breast form—a softie—which had no weight to it for comfort’s sake. The day I received it, I wanted to party. Although at that time, the largest softie was still smaller than my right breast, a 40D. Can you imagine FREE VALET AND SELF-PARKING ON DELAWARE AVE. 1 MI. NORTH OF BEN FRANKLIN BRIDGE sugarhousecasino.com | 877.477.3715 GAMBLING PROBLEM? CALL 1.800.GAMBLER. 29 walking around, a 40D on one side and ﬂatchested on the other? It was yet another bitter pill to swallow. All the staring and whispering was overwhelming in the beginning. But then I thought, “I am alive!” Since the softie had no weight, I would constantly have to adjust it. I was always lopsided. Once the permanent silicone breast arrived--oh happy day!—I didn’t have to adjust my bra anymore. The only challenge was going swimming. Can you picture your breast as a ﬂoatation device? I had to laugh at myself. I wore the prosthesis for 18 months. Sometimes it would cause pain to the area since it was so heavy, but my oldest son didn’t want me thinking about having surgery for anything, let alone reconstructing my breast. I don’t think my boys really knew how to communicate their feelings about the breast cancer. They didn’t have anyone to talk to about what I was going through and just as importantly, what they were going through. My consultation for reconstructive surgery went very well with my new surgeon who’d come highly recommended. He answered all of my questions and concerns and showed me pictures of women who’d had the different types of reconstructive surgeries. Before replacing the breast, the challenge was being able to use my own body fat as for me that all things are possible and that God has blessed us with faith and very talented doctors. But this country really needs to change its insurance policies with regard to care after major surgery. I came home with ﬁve drainage tubes. I’ll skip the details, but the self-care was difficult, especially when all I wanted to do was get through the pain. I am very happy that I had the surgery, because at the end of the day, I felt like I had two feet on the ground again. I felt sexy again, too, as the end result left me with a tummy tuck and some 18 year old boobs. Not bad! BACK TO WORK BUT MORE DAWN DURING TREATMENT, SURPRISES It was 2005/2006 when I re-entered filler, because WITH HER LOVED ONES. THERE ARE SIX CTCAs THROUGHOUT the workforce. 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The cancer had metastasized to my lymphatic system in my chest, neck and throat. I was in stage 4 cancer—the ﬁnal stage. Not that it meant instant death. There are 4 stages in cancer diagnosis, 4 being the most aggressive—the really badass type and the most difficult to treat. Maybe if I had stopped working so hard, maybe if I had not allowed stress to keep me from eating right and sleeping, maybe if I had stopped smoking. I tortured myself, blamed myself, hated myself for not taking better care of myself. I went straight into denial, at least until the recurrence put me in the hospital at the end of the year. Treatment started in mid-January 2008 and would end the last week in June. The chemo was really rough. I noticed three plum-sized tumors—one on the nape of my neck and the other two down my back right next to my spine. I was beside myself with anger, fear and disbelief that I was growing new tumors while I was getting really strong chemo. I completed the treatment cycle, but the rash was still there as well as the new tumors. Four weeks later, almost to the day, every single tumor that had gone away with the treatment I had just ﬁnished, was back! How could this be?! More chemo, but ﬁrst, surgery to put a port in my chest to administer it since the veins in my arm were so badly burned from the other chemo. I didn’t want to do it, but I did. This new treatment lasted three months, but to everyone’s surprise, two weeks later, more tumors. For the following two weeks I had no words, I couldn’t ﬁnd my voice. I couldn’t stop crying; I couldn’t eat, sleep or even think. I met with my doctor to ﬁgure out a game plan and get a prescription for some pain medication, but nothing worked for the pain. My doctor informed me that there was nothing else she could do for me. Scared out of my mind, I went home and started writing my obituary. 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Both passive and aggressive behavior types contribute to conﬂict and can make a bad situation worse.” A consultant and speaker, Stampahar gives practical advice on making life better in the workplace in her awardwinning book, Peace, Love, and Lemonade: A Recipe to Make Your Life Sweeter. “There will always be people in our lives we enjoy being with, and those we continuously struggle to get along with. Conﬂicts do occur, and it is critical to learn how to effectively resolve them to ensure a safe, positive and respectful environment.” Other difficult personality types in the workplace include: ĕſ# ſ'& ĕſ# ſ1 -'* ĕſ# ſ- Ħ0/ſ-*0' (& ĕſ# ſ -+ /0'ſ#$) -ſ You’ve no doubt come across at least one person from each of these categories throughout your career, and might even be dealing with some right now. Here are some ways you can cope:. The Slacker: The Slacker does next to nothing at work. She makes a lot of personal 32 calls, spends time on personal emails, gossip and might even do her nails when she should be working on a project. How does she get away with it? Slackers are highly skilled at hiding these behaviors from bosses and managers. When honest, hard-working, multitasking people work with Slackers, they get very stressed out. They feel a lot of resentment and spend considerable time and energy trying to ﬁgure out what to do about their slacking co-workers. In many workplaces, it’s not a good idea to complain about them, even though the situation might dredge up feelings many of us had as children when bullying took place. As a result, many people lack skills when it comes to ﬁnding creative solutions—especially assertiveness. The best way to handle Slackers is to kill them with kindness. Not the saccharine type. Simply take the anger out of your voice and give an actual compliment (as hard as it can be). Ask for assistance (or tell her what needs to be done, depending on the power relationship), but be sure to do it in front of others. Being in front of an audience is crucial because in that situation, The Slacker can’t ignore or refuse your request. Presumably the job will get done, and you will earn a sense of satisfaction and relief. It will also build your conﬁdence, which will allow your creative mind to ﬁnd other solutions as well. The Overloader: This is a boss who loads GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com you up with work she doesn’t want to do, barely responds to your questions or requests for data and spends all her time chatting and drinking coffee with other managers. She makes you want to pull your hair out (or hers). Your anger will build to the point where you can’t think creatively. Here’s what you can do in response: take many deep breaths and think about all you have done well. Then, make a list of the 10,000 tasks lined up for you and ask your boss to help you prioritize them. You’re still giving her all the control— you’re just asking for direction. You are also (not so subtly) letting her know how huge your list really is and the reality that even you have limits. The Trade-Out Troublemaker: This person is probably the worst and most dangerous office personality. She has been traded from section to section, department to department, and is a lousy, rotten trouble-maker. Either no one has the balls (or ovaries) to get rid of this employee, or the system makes it totally undoable. Everyone is sick to death of this person, but no one in your department knows the whole story until she is ensconced in your area. This employee is poison. First rule: wait until your boss sees the big picture. Avoid The Trade-Out Troublemaker as often as you possibly can. Document, document, document. When you see that your boss recognizes the danger, strategize how the troublemaker can be moved to yet another location. Treat that person with as much respect as you can gather from deep within yourself, because this is someone who is deeply troubled. When you do this, the employee will know that you are aware of her tactics and she’ll usually leave you alone. But beware: now you’re identiﬁed in her mind as potential danger, so be very careful. Be on the lookout for undermining, back-stabbing behavior. Depending on your trust level with your colleagues, talk to them. Getting this person traded-out yet again—the true remedy to this situation—may take a very long time, since all too often, nobody recognizes how poisonous this person is until she has driven several valuable people out of the organization. This is one of the primary reasons it is so important to have a life outside of your workplace. The Perpetual Whiner: Compared with the poisonous personality of The Trade-Out Troublemaker, this person is a walk in the park. That is, until she begins her day-long whine. That can seriously get on your last nerve. The answer: be relentlessly positive. Instead of spending your energy feeling depleted and complaining to other co-workers, come up with creative, positive strategies and responses. It might just wear the whiner down and actually help her gain a new perspective. Work on improving your own life, and talk about that. Then you’re actually building defenses against the excessive onslaught of negativity you are being subjected to. You are also revealing another reality to the person who is so sadly burdened. Remember, this is a power play and a tough one at that! So build your own power base— ﬁrst, for yourself and second, to help the whiner. If she doesn’t get it, oh well! But you’ll feel better as a result, and are less affected by her previously overwhelming negativity. Whether your co-workers (or you?) are ostriches, vultures, slackers, overloaders, troublemakers or whiners, Stampahr advises, “Establish a safe work environment where open dialogue is welcome. This will create happiness, compassion, strength and productivity. The choice is yours!” g [ LEARN MORE ABOUT IT ] NANCY STAMPAHAR www.silverliningsolutions.tv VICTORIA HANDFIELD, PSYD www.gethealthygethappy.com Vicki Handﬁeld, PsyD, has been a clinical psychologist in Southern NJ for over 30 years. More recently, she launched Get Healthy, Get Happy, a 6-step coaching program to help individuals deﬁne and reach immediate, yet lasting health and wellness goals, whether to lose weight, stay ﬁt, sleep better or follow a passion. Reach Vicki at [email protected] or 609 386 5941. 33 A GIRL’Z life I Want to Play Dress Up! BY SANDI TUTTLE NO ONE GETS DRESSED UP ANY MORE. It used to be that you could tell when someone was dressed for work. A nice pair of trousers, dressy but practical shoes, a blouse and trim blazer were all marks of a proud woman in the workforce. Not anymore. I actually heard on the news the other day that a town had to pass a law prohib- 34 iting town workers from wearing low cut tops, ﬂip ﬂops and shorts to work. Are you kidding me? Since when has it become appropriate to dress for the office like you would dress for the beach? That might explain why you can’t get anyone to help you when you show up at a business. They all think they’re on vacation—not at work. I don’t exactly blame the department stores. They do a great job. But who in their right mind, in this economy, would pay for a simple classic pair of trousers when they can pay $20 and get a matching pair of sweats? Even shoes are victims of this dumbing-down of our apparel. Nice ones are almost made to be instruments of torture. er thought I would see the day. Because even they have morphed into something universal and androgynous. A pair of PJs for the New Millennium is a tank top and a pair of pants. Then, there are Spanx. They are helpful. But they are just an updated version of those contraptions that used to be called girdles. They were hideous, sinister looking things that by sheer luck went out of fashion before I had to become intimately acquainted with them. But now, we all have to wear Spanx—the brand name that’s actually become the deﬁning noun for the entire species. Like Xerox. I suppose I am overstating my case. A little. But not that much. You see, I work parttime in a dress shop. I hear what people ask for. And I think women are suffering from SHE whispered to me, almost as if afraid Dress Up Withdrawal. Any type of to break the spell, “I FEEL LIKE A withdrawal process PRINCESS in this DRESS!” produces stress and discomfort. I don’t know any- But Dress Up Withdrawal is just wrong. one who can work And unnecessary! On so many levels. an eight-hour day in Think about it. What is the one activity all 4-inch heels. Even if women of all ages remember from their childyou spend half the day sit- hood? Dress Up! Putting on pretty clothes, ting at your desk, you have makeup, jewelry, shoes—transforming ourto get up and walk across the selves into the princesses we wanted to be— office sometime. Our alterna- and parading around our living rooms with tives seem to be just plain our friends in ruffles, bows, feathers and pearls. ugly; clunky designs Now, I see an actual hunger in the faces that masquerade of my customers. Women who wouldn’t deny as Mary Janes themselves a second helping of ice cream and do abso- will deny themselves a blouse in a pretty lutely nothing color because they are concerned someone for your ﬁgure. will look at them and think they are overSure, they’re dressed. So instead, we all buy ugly clothes, comfortable, but and drape other things over them to hide the they don’t do anything things the dress was supposed to hide in the for how you look. ﬁrst place. It’s a lot of work if you ask me. We have even I can’t tell you how many times I’ve become accus- heard from women that they love pretty tomed to things, but don’t have any place to wear going out in them anymore. They go out to eat. They our paja- have family functions. They go to church. mas. I nev- They lunch. They are normal women. But GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com the world has changed to the point where they feel overdressed if they wear more than a shirt and jeans. Yet they come into the shop and ﬁnger the gossamer fabrics, touch the sequins and beads with gentle hands, try on the ball gowns and strapless numbers with an almost reverent look on their faces. They are longing to play Dress Up! This really hit home the other day. My customer was buying a dress for a friend’s wedding. She was a lovely lady with a shy smile who looked at the dresses on the rack like a starving man at an all-you-can-eat buffet. Since we had a great sale going at the time, I was able to put her in a gorgeous taffeta gown with a constellation of rhinestones on the bodice. The skirt belled out beneath the drop waist like ﬂower petals. She took one look at herself in the mirror and her eyes started shining like stars themselves. She whispered to me, almost as if afraid to break the spell, “I feel like a princess in this dress!” And I felt like I could see the little girl she once was. It was a magical moment. It’s easy to see why the ritual of buying a dress for your child’s wedding has become disproportionately stressful. It’s the only time a woman actually gets to dress up in today’s world. The big companies used to have Christmas parties but can’t afford them anymore. And going to a ‘nice restaurant’ these days means you change from the jeans you wore working in the garden to a clean pair. We can’t even invent an excuse to dress up. How sad. And yet, we continue to put things in the closet in hopes that, someday, we’ll be able to wear them. Malls have hundreds of stores full of shimmering, glistening, shiny dresses, evening bags and jewelry. We wander through this retail fantasy world and imagine how wonderful we would look if we had this dress, or that outﬁt. And then we wonder where we would ever wear it. We are starving women surrounded by what we crave. All dressed up and nowhere to go. It’s enough to make you turn in your Spanx and sling backs, throw on your sweats and call it a day. Say Goodnight, Cinderella! Rhnphne]gm`hmhrhnk family physician for cosmetic t procedures, why go to a general dentist for cosmetic cosm dentistry? Meet Dr. Steve Markus, nationally known cosmetic and implant dentist, author, teacher, speaker and the creator of The Edge Veneers and Crowns. Repeatedly recognized by dentists surveyed for Philadelphia Magazine as the only Cosmetic Dentist in South Jersey, his websites explain and illustrate the science and art of Cosmetic Dentistry. before Sedation Dentistry after Financing Available Natural-looking results are just a few short weeks away! Dr. Steve Markus =k'=ZpgIabeebil=k'FZkdL\hmm The Centre for Dentistry +)2Pabm^Ahkl^Ibd^AZ]]hgA^b`aml%G^pC^kl^r 856-Smile-SJ www.SmileSouthJersey.com www.theedgesmiles.com Exit 29 off Interstate 295 g Sandi Tuttle is the owner/operator of HomeBadger Creations—handmade apparel wraps, ponchos, shawls, scarves and tunics for women of all ages. Visit www.homebadger.com. Sandi is also the host of the Internet Radio Show “An Average Woman in a Superwoman World,” and a featured authority on the Diva Toolbox. She and her husband live in Marlton. GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com 35 A GIRL’Z life Let our family care for yours. The Cat Who Came to Dinner BY NICOLE PENSIERO IT STARTED—AS LIFE-ALTERING EXPERIENCES OFTEN DO—unassumingly enough. It was a Friday night, early December—cold. As I approached my front door, a small black and white cat darted out from nowhere. He (a male, as I later learned) was extremely friendly, wrapping himself around my legs as I fumbled with my front door key. And, as I quickly discovered, he was also extremely hungry. I went inside and scanned my refrigerator for something I could feed him, then headed back out with the best I could come up with, chicken salad, which he promptly wolfed down. (“He’s probably lost,” I told myself, shutting the door). The following night, same thing: cat on doorstep, a quick meal, a door shutting. But in a weak moment, I made a decision that would seal both our fates: I opened up the door and let the stray cat inside to warm up for a few minutes. As little tuxedo cat tentatively entered my living room, I sat on my couch to begin sorting through my mail. Suddenly, he was on the couch with me, purring loudly and resting his chin on my leg, much like a puppy dog would do. He promptly fell asleep on my lap, only NICOLE WITH HER MOM AND THE LUCKY GATTO. 36 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com was set until he called from the vet’s office to inform me a test for feline leukemia had come back positive, and the cat was going to be euthanized. He had other cats and didn’t want to run the risk of them contracting this potentially fatal illness. The vet, he said, thought it was for the best. Distraught, I urged my friend not to do anything until I got there. I just couldn’t believe that this friendly, healthy-looking (albeit skinny) cat needed to be put down. And, after prodding the veterinarian for a bit more info, I learned that feline leukemia was not an automatic death sentence. True, if the cat was to be put outdoors again, his compromised immune system would put him at risk for potentially deadly illnesses. GATTO has served to remind me that In that case, euthanasia would EVERY LIVING CREATURE …deserves a second CHANCE. be the more compassionate route. BUT, the vet said, to be wakened in a few if the cat could be cared for indoors, in a lovminutes as I led him to ing home, he would likely thrive. the front door and back I stared at my friend, then at the vet, and out into the cold. It had then at the kitty, who was by this time curled to be done, I reasoned: up in my lap. “Well,” I heard myself saying, “I for one thing, he might guess I’ll have to ﬁnd him a home.” actually have an owner; Things moved quickly from there. The for another, I am allergic still-unnamed cat stayed overnight at the to cats. But already, try animal hospital to be neutered, de-ﬂead, and as I might to ﬁght it, I vaccinated. My friend and co-worker Dana, a was bonding. longtime cat owner, came with me to pick him So off he went again, up the next day. She laughed when she saw back out into the Decem- the massive variety of cat food I’d acquired: ber night. But the next “You need to pick one brand and stick with day, the kitty was back it,” she explained. “Same with litter.” again. You see where I knew nothing about cats, but learned this is heading, don’t quickly. For four days, the kitty lived in my you? house, following me from room to room I posted signs in my and resting his head on my leg the second I condo development in would sit down. I loaded up on allergy medicase anyone had lost a cine and convinced myself that if I didn’t give cat. No response. Then him a name, I wouldn’t get too attached. (Fat a friend told me he was chance.) interested in taking the A few days later, my mother kindly offered cat. I thought everything to take the cat for a few weeks, until I could ﬁnd him a permanent home. You’re totally getting where this is going, right? Now my mom is a good soul, but I hardly think she was planning to become a pet owner at age 83. But it only took a couple of weeks before she decided she would keep this charming feline, whom she named Gatto (Italian for “cat.”) Good-natured, extremely affectionate, well-behaved, and at times, ridiculously cute -- you should see how he chills out, ﬂat on his back, paws in the air, eyes wide open – Gatto has become a big part of our family. I visit him often, so much so that one of my mom’s neighbors called recently to see if she was doing ok: “I keep seeing your daughter’s car in front of your house and I was wondering if you’ve been sick…” Gatto and Mom have their routines: up at 7 am, breakfast and then Gatto relaxes (sometimes for hours) in a cardboard box set up by my mom’s kitchen picture window. The box is equipped with two of his favorite things: fuzzy pink socks, strategically placed along the box’s edges (so he can rest his head on something soft, of course), and a Christmas tea towel to lie on. Nearby is an array of brushes used to smooth out his now-lustrous fur, and a little stuffed tuxedo cat he likes to play with that we’ve dubbed “the nemesis.” Spoiled? Yes. Adored? Certainly. But more than anything, Gatto has served to remind me that every living creature – humans and animals alike – deserves a second chance. Because of him, I now volunteer at a spayneuter clinic run by the Camden County Animal Shelter. Because of him, I’m a PetSmart adoption center volunteer, trying to help ﬁnd homes for other felines who have yet to experience Gatto’s good fortune. And because of him, life is a bit brighter for everyone in our family. g Nicole Pensiero is a South Jersey native and a longtime freelance writer who works full-time in marketing and public relations. 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Despite Says Smallwood, “About 30% of the cases how funny it was and how I do are ‘re-dos’ of other doctors’ work based primany times we imitated him imimarily on cosmetic concerns, fracture, bite issues or tating Fernando Lamas, that quote any combination. The treating doctors will just get in makes about as much sense for someone over their heads unintentionally, and that’s unfortunate.” with a heart condition as it does for someone conAll three agree that credentials matter, though each pursued a templating cosmetic dentistry. Because contrary to the belief of different route. Dr. Markus completed the Dawson Continuum and some, it’s not just how your teeth look, it’s how they function, too. received his Fellowship in the Academy of Comprehensive Esthetics “Form has to follow function,” says Stephen J. Markus, DMD, in 2004; Dr. Berland is an Accredited Fellow in the American AcadFACE, of The Centre for Dentistry at Haddon in Haddon Heights. emy of Cosmetic Dentistry and Dr. Smallwood trained extensively “That’s why cosmetics need to be done by someone trained in cos- with Drs. Montgomery and Kois and others. metics, and not any general dentist. There’s a lot more to designing According to Dr. Markus, from start to ﬁnish the range of time the someone’s smile than just taking an impression and sending it to the process takes depends on the extent of work to be done. “If we can lab. There’s a lot to look at in terms of facial harmony, shape of teeth correct the smile with Six Month Smiles (transparent braces worn and length of teeth. So we “blueprint” every smile we make. for about six months), we can do it without reducing teeth. This “First we ﬁnd out what the patient’s goals are and whether they enables us to transform people’s smiles without having to put on a are achievable. We do this by setting up plaster models on a bite single veneer, making it a whole lot simpler for the patient and for us. simulator to view function. Then, we bring the patient in on the “Regarding cosmetic makeovers, there are some that can be done aesthetic decision-making so they can tell me what looks pleasing in as little as two weeks. Others that involve more planning might to them. From there we go into talking about edge design. It’s like take a month or longer. But the good news is that once cosmetic picking the color of grout once you have the tile picked out. There treatment begins, the technique I use and teach other dentists will are so many checkpoints that need to be established before you even result in the patient wearing temporaries that attempt to match the start your smile makeover.” shade and shape of the permanent porcelain Trent W. Smallwood DDA, FACE, PC, of veneers and crowns. Contemporary Dental Concepts in Tempe, “One of my favorite success stories is [ LEARN MORE ABOUT IT ] Arizona agrees that before the discussion the mother of the bride who came to me two LORIN BERLAND, DDS of cosmetics begins, the bite must be anamonths before the wedding. She was starting www.dallasdentalarts.com lyzed, “Function is the basis for all success. to realize how she would look in the wedding TRENT W. SMALLWOOD DDA, FACE, PC You have to expertly and comprehensively photos! This was a case that would take at www.cosmeticdentistryAZ.com address the bite (function) ﬁrst. I didn’t in the least a year to complete, but I promised her STEPHEN J. MARKUS, DMD, FACE beginning and it cost me a lot of stomach linthat our blueprinting process would allow www.SmileSouthJersey.com ing. Now I look very closely at function and me to fabricate temporaries that would fool To learn more about the blueprinting cosmetics as they go hand-in-hand to ensure everyone, including the close-up lens. See process, visit: www.theedgesmiles.com long term success.” the results on our website. But what you’ll To see the mother of the bride But make no mistake about it. When consee there is not even the ﬁnal result. It’s the mentioned here, visit: sidering cosmetic dentistry, you need to conexquisitely rendered temporaries she wore for www.cent4dent.com/html/makeover/ sider the caliber of the dentist. “Just like you almost a year. Mom’s smile was radiant!” extremephotos/32.htm M Visit our newest location! — Billy Crystal, Comedian ry ist cos “It’s not how you feel, it’s how you look, and YOU LOOK MAH-VELOUS!” e to it T h a n M t e e g GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com 39 & events appearances event: THURS, MARCH 15, 2012, 5PM-7PM: SPEED NETWORKING WITH GIRLFRIENDZ AND CHERRY HILL 5 STAR SENIOR LIVING: Need to network for your job or business? Join us after work for a fun evening of speed networking, light dinner, wine, community tours and prizes. Bring plenty of business cards. 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Delaware Ave, Camden. Tickets: 866-Sharks-9 or www.riversharks.com. Use this code for $2 off each ticket: ‘GIRLFRIENDZ’ appearance: SAT, SEPTEMBER 29, 2012: JOIN GIRLFRIENDZ AT THE CAMDEN COUNTY WOMEN’S HEALTH CONFERENCE. A day just for us with keynote speaker, workshops, free Continental Breakfast and box lunch! Location: Eastern Regional High School in Voorhees. www.camdencounty.com FREE EVENT g ?????? Where do you turn when you feel ready to explode, cry, drink or overeat? Are you struggling to break bad habits or fulfill new passions? I feel your pain. I’m a health and wellness coach, who survived a stroke and has maintained a 50 pound weight loss and exercise regime for 13 years. Three decades as a licensed clinical practicing psychologist gives me special insight. But this isn’t therapy. In six steps I will help motivate you to change undesirable habits, adopt new ones, follow your dreams and live with exuberance. Dr. Vicki Handfield Contact me and let’s get started! [email protected] GETHEALTHYGETHAPPY.com More Info: 856.667.1600 or visit us online: w w w. c a m d e n c o u n t y c h a m be r . c o m 40 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com Licensed, Bonded and Insured. Senior Helpers locations are independently owned and operated. 609-386-5941 NJ Lic Sl01711 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com 41 boomer humor contest Enter the Girlfriendz-Center for Dentistry “Smile Makeover” Contest! GRAND PRIZE: A Smile Makeover Analysis and Blueprinting from The Centre for Dentistry: Have you always wanted a perfect smile but don’t know who you can trust? Here’s your chance to win an extreme dental makeover consultation from Stephen J. Markus, DMD, FACE, of The Centre for Dentistry at Haddon. Prize includes: evaluation, digital radiographs, photographs, portrait, blueprinted diagnostic sculpture of what your teeth will look like and two consultations (before and after the blueprint). Not interested in a makeover? You can choose to have one tooth restored and/or tooth whitening services complete with take-home trays, instead. www.SmileSouthJersey.com, 856-546-0665. Value: $2,000 Period Peace BY ROZ WARREN Happily Saying Good-bye to an Old “Friend” I’ll never forget the first time I saw Doctor Zhivago, because that was the day I got my first period. Other women hear “Lara’s Theme” and think “undying romance.” I think, “Help! I’m bleeding to death!” I never did figure out the plot; I was too busy running to the bathroom every other minute to make sure I was still okay. Mom had given me an informative talk about what to expect. But was I emotionally prepared for the jolt of suddenly, out of the blue, discovering it was actually happening? No way. I was 12. Now I’m 56. My period served its purpose—22 years ago, I successfully gave birth. This year my “baby” graduated college. And I couldn’t be happier about the fact that my monthly “friend” has finally taken a hike. Some women dread menopause because it symbolizes the end of their sexy, exciting youth. Not me. I was thrilled to toss my tampons and say “Sayonara!” to excruciating menstrual cramps. I’m not saying my period never brought me moments of joy. I’ll never forget the thrill of finally getting that three-week-late period when I was in law school. I’d just begun to get my life on track. I wasn’t ready to be a mother. When I got that period, my heart soared. And one of the happiest moments of my life came when, years later, after months of trying, the little stick turned pink. I was going to be a mom! Neither of these unforgettable Menstrual Moments quite compares with the time my friend Deb returned home to find her living room strewn with unused tampons. Her sons happily announced they’d discovered her cool Roz Warren is a Philadelphia-based supply of “pretend hand grenades“ and had spent writer whose work has appeared in The Funny Times and on the websites the morning crouched behind the sofa, ripping Women’s Voices for Change and them open, yanking them from their cardboard Metropolis/Voxpop. Roz’s website is www.rosalindwarren.com. holders, then hurling them over the sofa, shouting, “KABOOM!” As Mom told me solemnly when I was 12, after handing me a gigantic box of sanitary napkins and showing me the garter belt that would hold them in place (this was the pretampon era), “It’s all part of the miracle of being a woman.” “You’ve got to be kidding,” was my response. Even then I recognized that monthly periods weren’t so much a miracle as a ludicrously inefficient Rube Goldberg contraption for keeping the human race going. Sure, there’s something appealing about the way those monthly cycles gave structure to my life, and once they vanished, my days did have a certain sameness. At times I even miss those familiar patterns. But do I actually miss bleeding every month? Are you kidding me? When menopause arrived, I didn’t feel as if my youth had ended. I felt like I was reclaiming the person I was when I was 12. I sat down to watch that movie and my whole life changed. And now it’s changed again. I couldn’t be happier. g This essay was originally published on Women’s Voices for Change (www.womensvoices forchange.org/period-peace-happily-saying-good-bye-to-an-old-friend.htm) and is reprinted here with the permission of the author. 42 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com FIRST PRIZE: A Jewelry-Making y-Making Party Parrty at Jubili B Beads eads dss & Yarns: d Yarnss: Our winner will invite up to 11 of of h her er friends friiend nd ds ffor orr a fun Girls’ irls’ Night Out beaded jewelry-making je ew wel e ry-making ng party, ng complete plete with wine and chee cheese! eese! Each g gi gir girlfriend ir i lfriend will be given her own kit for the one-and-a-half one-a andn a-half hour class, and the Jubili staff will walk you stepby-step through the planning, stringing and ﬁnishing of a beautiful, chic beaded necklace. When the party’s over, everyone will leave wearing her lovely new piece of jewelry! 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Value: $120 Winner: Diane Lang of Voorhees GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com 43 AMONG friendz Don’t Date a Man Who… BY PATRICIA QUIGLEY SECONDS INTO AN UNINVITED CONVERSATION WITH A GUY AT THE DELI COUNTER OF MY FAVORITE SUPERMARKET, MY RADAR WAS PINGING LIKE CRAZY. Now, I am one of those people who will talk to pretty much anyone, and I certainly do not object to speaking with a handsome middle-aged man. But my gut told me something was off. This guy really hadn’t said anything terribly wrong, and by far he was not the most obnoxious guy who had ever hit on me. But he literally had gotten into my space as he started bragging about his business, and I felt uncomfortable. I maneuvered myself so my shopping cart stood between the two of us, pretended to switch some food around, grabbed my order and scooted off as soon as I could. I’m not always great at it, but I’m a ﬁrm believer in listening to my gut when it comes to men (and life in general), because sometimes that gut starts waving little red warning ﬂags. I also believe in listening to people I trust, because sometimes they see red ﬂags that my “love goggles” might blur. With that in mind, I asked some women and men for some cautionary tips for women as they maneuver the dating world. 1. Don’t date a man who doesn’t have friends, I once read. That made a lot of sense to me. If he can’t maintain a friendship, he won’t be able to handle a romance. If he doesn’t have friends, he’s more likely to resent my time with mine, and that, I fear, would trigger control issues. I don’t do control well at all. 2. Don’t date a guy who has always lived with his mother or you might be dealing with someone who is looking to exchange one mommy for another, advised a middle-aged, happily married friend who actually did just that. I’d add the caveat: if he is living with a parent or parents to take care of them, that is a noble thing and ups his “value.” If he’s living with them to have his food cooked and his laundry done, run. 3. From Steve*, a married dad from my church who has been out of the dating game for 30 years: “I think there are very few guys who simply view women as conquests and try to get as many notches on the headboard as possible, although they do exist. That being said, I 44 GIRLFRIENDZ MAGAZINE – GirlfriendzMag.com also think women should watch out for the type of man who never seems satisﬁed, who is always looking over the next hill, whether it is about his job, his car, his house or his girl. I think this is indicative of his immaturity and his own lack of self-esteem. These men (and I know one or two) are not selﬁsh and do not set out to hurt anyone, but they never let a relationship develop beyond the ‘wow, you’re hot’ stage. For some reason, many women are drawn to this type of man, maybe because he seems exciting. A man who constantly seeks excitement confuses stability and growth as boredom.” 4. From my call-it-like-it-is cousin Frannie*: Stay clear of a man who is clingy or too dependent on you, plagued by his past, lacks people/ communication skills, lies, doesn’t let you into his world, has a seemingly futile future, seems to have anger issues, is more interested in your body than you or has religious beliefs that are totally different than yours. 5. From a Gen X friend, a divorced mom with an exciting career and great new man in her life: stay clear if he has no passion for life, doesn’t respect your time with your kids, has temper/anger issues, never offers to pay for anything, doesn’t have friends (!), has “ex” drama, is extremely jealous, enjoys ﬁghting, enjoys drama, is too competitive with you and is obsessive about the way you or he looks. 6. And this from one of the ﬁnest men I know, which just points to the fact that you should stick to guys with a sense of humor: “Geez -- isn’t being a man red ﬂag enough?” (*All names have been changed to protect the privacy of those friends and family who shared their thoughts – and warnings – for this column. None of them is a trained counselor, so please remember this is simply an opinion piece. Want to share your warning signs with fellow Girlfriendz? Go to www.face book.com/girlfriendz and post there.) g Patricia Quigley is an award-winning public relations practitioner and journalist, proud South Jersey girl and middle-of-the-pack Boomer. 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