Parenting Bibliography This bibliography lists the resources available at the William Potoroka Memorial Library at the Addictions Foundation of Manitoba. While many of the resources available are related to addiction, there are also resources about parenting styles, preventative parenting, etc. Families Dealing with Addiction/Parents in Recovery: Don't let your kids kill you: a survival guide for parents of drug and alcohol addicted children. Author: Rubin, Charles "When kids turn to substance abuse, parents also become victims as they watch their children transform into irrational and antisocial individuals. This harrowing scenario finds parents buckling beneath the stress - often with catastrophic consequences: divorce, career upsets, breakdowns...and worse. Don't let your kids kill you is a landmark work that dares focus on the plight of the confused, distressed parent and not the erring child. It sets aside any preconceived ideas that parents are to blame for what is essentially a full-blown global crisis. Drawing on interviews with parents who've survived the heartbreak of kids on drugs, combined with his own experience, Charles Rubin provides practical advice on how parents can help themselves and their families by first attending to their own needs". Book jacket. This book defies the myth that parents must sacrifice themselves. Instead, it shows them how to reclaim their power, balance, happiness, and lives! Parenting - life without parole: surviving your child's addiction Author: Willy The Department of Health and Human Services estimates that there are 14 million Americans who use illegal drugs and perhaps 17 million Americans who are alcoholics or abuse alcohol. Shrapnel from each abuser's actions impact the lives of countless family members, friends, and acquaintances significantly raising the toll attributable to this national crisis. While there are a variety of programs geared to addressing the needs of the abuser and getting them on the road to recovery, too often the family and friends are left to fend for themselves. "Parenting-Life Without Parole" provides both a practical and Christian based perspective on how those impacted by the abuser's choices can learn to cope with the multitude of challenges they are facing. The lowdown on families who get high: successful parenting for families affected by addiction Author: O’Gorman, Patricia, and Diaz, Philip Lowdown is an easy-to-use book on a complex subject: how to break the cycle of addiction in high-risk families. Used in conjunction with the 12 steps AA, it shows that being a parent or caregiver and being in recovery can be a win/win situation. Art therapy activities : a practical guide for teachers, therapists and parents Author: Stack, Pamela J. The author provides step-by step instructions for over forty art activities focusing on important therapeutic concepts includind awareness, acceptance, choices, self-pity, and conflict. The book is an excellent resource for art therapists, teachers, social workers, and anyone wishing to encourage a child's creative expression. Warning signs : a guidebook for parents : how to read the early signals of low selfesteem, addiction, and hidden violence in your kids Author: Kelly, John. and Karem, Brian J. Addiction counselor John Kelly has uncovered what he believes to be the common cause of all addictions and destructive behavior: low self-esteem experienced during childhood or adolescence. In "Warning Signs, " Kelly explores the causes of the underlying low self-esteem and alerts parents to the early warning signs that can signal someone is on the road to addiction or violent behavior. Talk it out: a parent's guide to kids and smoking Distributor: Saskatchewan Health Provides information for parents regarding their role in keeping children tobacco free, and tips for parents on how to talk with their children about tobacco. It also includes a list of organizations and websites which provide further information about tobacco prevention and cessation. A copy of this resource is sent home with all students as a part of the TALK program. For additional copies contact your local public health office. Easy does it, mom: parenting in recovery Author: Joy, Barbara Every mom wants to succeed. Every child also wants to succeed. In Easy Does It, Mom, Barbara Joy provides moms with positive encouragement, knowledge, and tools they can begin using immediately as they continue their recovery and move toward being the best moms they can be. Joy relies on experts with degrees and experts with "mom" behind their name. For more than ten years, Barbara Joy has worked with moms in recovery from alcoholism and other addictions. She knows what works. Here she includes real-life stories and strategies from the moms and children she works with. The reader is guided by a professional and encouraged and inspired by moms who have "been there, done that." Because moms in recovery feel more safe and secure in a familiar and consistent environment, each chapter begins with an encouraging saying and ends with a writing activity plus between four to eight clear and concise keys are presented in the chapter - an at-a-glance tools reference section. Bullying: The Bully, the bullied, and the bystander: from pre-school to high school: how parents and teachers can help break the cycle of violence Author: Coloroso, Barbara This is an extremely helpful book that both parents and teachers can use to deal with bullying, an aspect of school that the author feels "is a life-and-death issue that we ignore at our children's peril." Staring with a bottom-line assumption that "bullying is a learned behavior," Coloroso (Parenting Through Crisis) wonderfully explains not only the ways that the bully, the bullied and the bystander are "three characters in a tragic play" but also how "the scripts can be rewritten, new roles created, the plot changed." For each of the three "characters," she breaks down the behavior that defines each role, analyzes the specific ways that each character can have their behaviors changed for the better, and suggests a range of methods that parents and educators can use to identify bullying behavior and deal with it effectively. The book also provides excellent insights into behaviors related to but not always recognized as bullying, such as cliques, hazing, taunting and sexual bullying. And while there have been numerous books about bullies, this volume is perhaps best for its sections on the "bystander," the person whose behavior is too often overlooked or excused. Coloroso's emphasis on aikido-related defensive skills do not sufficiently address the issue of what a child is to do when physical force is necessary to stop a bully, but overall this is an important look at the ways that bullied children can affirm their dignity and self-worth. FASD / Substance Abuse During Pregnancy: Living with FASD : a guide for parents Author: Graefe, Sara One percent of North Americans suffer from FASD… It's no wonder that this book is a Canadian bestseller with over 40,000 copies sold! Bringing up-to-date and comprehensive information about FASD, this edition includes the latest Institute of Medicine diagnostic criteria and terms, special considerations for infants and adolescents, parent needs, and an expanded resource list. Simon says... : a book about Fetal Alcohol Syndrome for kids, parents & teachers Author: McFarlane, Heather. This book is intended to help kids, who may or may not have FASD to understand more about the condition. ADD/ADHD: Life on the edge: parenting a child with ADD/ADHD Author: Spohn, David Life with a child with attention deficit disorder (ADD) or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) may be tough, but take it from one who's been there: It can also be full of all the love, humor, and light that a parent might hope for. In this gentle, lighthearted, down-to-earth book, David Spohn uses his own experiences to help others make it through the stresses and chaos and heartbreak that raising a child with ADD/ADHD can entail-and to help them come through whole and happy and sane. From the new vocabulary and friends who come along with a diagnosis of ADD/ADHD, to questions touching on everything from Ritalin to sibling rivalry to schooling to going out in public, Life on the Edge offers honest, practical, caring support-and a healthy dose of good humor-for parents of children with ADD/ADHD. Different Approaches to Parenting: Hold on to your kids: why parents need to matter more than peers Author: Neufeld, Gordon and Mate, Gabor A psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting issues joins forces with a physician and bestselling author to tackle one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time -peers replacing parents in the lives of our children. Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident -- as do the solutions. Hold On to Your Kids will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kidswill empower parents to satisfy their children's inborn need to find direction by turning towards a source of authority, contact and warmth. Something has changed. One can sense it, one can feel it, just not find the words for it. Children are not quite the same as we remember being. They seem less likely to take their cues from adults, less inclined to please those in charge, less afraid of getting into trouble. Parenting, too, seems to have changed. Our parents seemed more confident, more certain of themselves and had more impact on us, for better or for worse. For many, parenting does not feel natural. Adults through the ages have complained about children being less respectful of their elders and more difficult to manage than preceding generations, but could it be that this time it is for real?-- from Hold On to Your Kids From the Hardcover edition. Childhood unbound: the powerful new parenting approach that gives our 21st century kids the authority, love, and listening they need Author: Taffel, Ron Dr. Ron Taffel, one of the country's most sought-after child-rearing experts, draws on decades of counseling experience and extensive conversations with parents nationwide to offer an original and inspiring analysis of the distinctive challenges parents face in raising children today. He also introduces a breakthrough approach for guiding kids -- from children to teens -- in ways that bring out the best in both kids and parents in these twentyfirst-century times. With warmth and clarity, Taffel, who is himself a parent struggling with these issues, helps us to understand our sons and daughters in an entirely new way: as a distinctive "free-est" generation, born to the first generation of "post-baby boomer" parents and the products of a decades-long cultural sea change that intensified in the nineties. As a result, kids of all ages are now a bundle of contradictions: they exude entitlement, back talk shockingly, negotiate endlessly, worship celebrity, do ten things at once, conduct independent lives online, and engage in high-risk behavior at younger ages. Yet, they are also far more open with their parents and each other than kids in prior generations, are strikingly generous and empathetic, and care deeply about ethical issues. In addition, their high-speed multitasking is preparing them for the demands of the future. The key question, then, is how to encourage the good while steering them away from the bad. Taffel believes today's parents, having lived through the beginning phases of the same social changes, are uniquely qualifiedto bring out kids' best -- and he shows you how. Using a wealth of examples, he walks parents through innovative methods to get children's and teens' attention, to set limits they will respect, and to engage them in meaningful conversation to provide the guidance they need. He also instructs on how to rebuild supportive community around us. His inspiring analysis and expert guidance will be embraced as the authoritative new approach to raising their kids that parents have been searching for. Parenting from the inside out: how a deeper self-understanding can help you raise children who thrive Author: Siegel, Daniel J. and Hartzell, Mary In Parenting from the Inside Out child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood educator Mary Hartzell, M. Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences actually do shape the way that we parent. Drawing upon stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories that will help them raise compassionate and resilient children. In this book, Siegel and Hartzell present a unique perspective on the "art and science" of building nurturing relationships with our children. Born out of a series of workshops for parents that combined Siegel's cutting-edge research on how communication impacts brain development with Hartzell's thirty years of experience as a child development specialist and parent educator, Parenting from the Inside Out guides parents through creating the necessary foundations for a loving and secure relationship with their children. One Parent / Blended Families: Parenting on your own: a handbook for one-parent families Author: Manitoba Women's Advisory Council The Manitoba Women's Advisory Council advises the Manitoba government on issues concerning the status of women. This guide is to advise single parents of their rights and to list the services and supports that are available in the community. Vicki Lansky's divorce book for parents : helping your children cope with divorce and its aftermath Author: Lansky, Vicki No matter what their age, children whose parents are divorcing need reassurance, security and love to get through this painful period. Drawing on her own and others' experiences, as well as the expertise of professionals, Lansky gives parents age-specific advice on what reactions to expect from their kids and tips to cope with divorce realities. Because life goes on: helping children and youth live with separation and divorce: a guide for parents Author: Joubert, Natacha, 1957- , Guy, Kathleen and Canada. Health Canada This publication is intended to reach out to Canadian families in need of information and resources to help their children to live through the process of separation and divorce. It is also designed to assist professionals in such field as social services, health, justice and education, in their work with children and their parents. Parenting Pre-Teens and Teenagers: Parents, teens, and boundaries Author: Bluestein, Jane How you set boundaries with your teens is among the most important aspects of your parent-child relationship. Unfortunately, this ability does not come automatically with parenthood. Here Jane Bluestein, a former teacher and counselor, looks at 20 relationship-building techniques all parents can use to set limits with their teens. You'll learn the essential arts of loving, motivating, accepting, negotiating, respecting, acknowledging, communicating, supporting, empowering, trusting . . . and much more. These practical strategies for boundary setting will enable you to avoid conflict, resolve problems and establish a foundation of mutual love and respect. As a result of learning to set healthy boundaries, you may actually begin to enjoy your children's teen years! Setting boundaries with your adult children: six steps to hope and healing for struggling parents Author: Bottke, Allison This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage—and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough–love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives. Video Game Overuse: Video games & your kids: how parents stay in control Author: Cash, Hilarie and McDaniel, Kim Video Games & Your Kids is for parents who are worried that their children may be spending too much time playing video games. Based on research and the authors' clinical experience, the book explains what gaming addiction is, how much gaming is too much, and the affects gaming has on the body and brain. The authors give gaming advice on each stage of life; birth-2 years, ages 2-6, elementary school years, adolescence, and adult children still living at home. Where there is a problem, the authors provide parents with tools that will help the them successfully set appropriate limits for their children. Video game play and addiction: a guide for parents Author: Dini, Kourosh This book will help parents to gain an understanding of the allure of video games, see how video games can provide positive growth, learn what to consider in assessing for addiction or problematic play, understand the draw of community and social networking within game worlds, consider the future of society and video games. Targeted to parents who want to know what's safe and what isn't for their children, Video Game Play and Addiction contains the information you need to help you navigate the twenty-first century world of video games. Prevention: Parenting for prevention Author: Wilmes, David J. Here's a book that every adult concerned about kids will want to read. The author convincingly argues that parents are the ones who not only can but also must take the lead in preventing their kids from getting mixed up with alcohol and other drugs. Parenting for Prevention shows them exactly what to do and how to do it. The theme is prevention, but the approach is thoroughly positive. You'll find no threats or warnings here, no long list of don'ts. Instead, this book says, in effect: If you really want to prevent your kids from getting involved with alcohol or other drugs, here's the way to do it. Teach them these life skills. Preventing drug use among children and adolescents : a research-based guide for parents, educators, and community leaders Corporate: NIDA Presents the updated prevention principles, an overview of program planning, and critical first steps for those learning about prevention. This shortened edition can serve as an introduction to research-based prevention for those new to the field of drug abuse prevention. Keeping youth drug-free: a guide for parents, grandparents, elders, mentors, and other caregivers Producer: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services This booklet is divided into five sections to address reasons young people give for using marijuana, alcohol, and tobacco: to feel grown up, to fit in, to relax and feel better, to take risks, and to satisfy curiosity. Keeping youth drug-free provides caregivers with guidelines to help them do just so. It is targeted to parents and guardians of 7- to 13 year olds, but the materials and exercises can also work for other age groups. How to raise a drug-free kid: the straight dope for parents Author: Califano, Joseph A. Jr. The book offers advice and information on how to prepare your child for the crucial decision-making moments and on many of the most daunting parenting topics, including: When and how to talk to your kids about drugs and alcohol How to respond when your kid asks "Did you do drugs?" How to know when your child is most at risk How to prepare your teen for the freedoms and perils of college. Understanding inhalant users: an overview for parents, educators, and clinicians Corporate: Texas Commission on Alcohol and Drug Abuse Various areas of research related to inhalants are summarized and general guidance in dealing with this complex and urgent problem is provided. Topics include (1) "Characteristics of Inhalants," which reviews chemicals found in inhalants and common modes of administration; (2) "Defining Inhalant Use and Abuse," which includes epidemiology, drug effects, and chemical categories; (3) "Trends in Inhalant Prevalence," which addresses Texas school students; (4) "Classifying the Inhalant User and Abuser," which explains user-based categories and userpattern categories; (5) "Causes and Consequences of Inhalant Use," which reviews correlates and cues to inhalant use; (6) "Effects of Inhalant Use," which covers general, acute, and chronic effects and needed research; (7) "Treatment of Inhalant Users," which reviews problems in outreach, screening, diagnosis, detoxification, life skills, peers, and family treatment; (8) "Prevention of Inhalant Use," which reviews a number of problems to be overcome in planning prevention efforts; (9) "Research Issues in Inhalant Use," which presents issues specific to inhalant use; and (10) "Summary of Inhalant Issues." Brief, relevant articles are presented in boxes in various chapters. Appendix A provides a table of "Characteristics of Inhalant Users" with corresponding research references. Preventing inhalant abuse: resources for parents, community members, and youth Corporate: Colorado Inhalant Abuse Program This manual includes a number of resources for trainers who lead groups in inhalant abuse prevention Kids & gangs: what parents and educators need to know Author: Lawson, Ann W. Audio-Video: Surviving the Teenage Brain (DVD) – CBC The Nature of Things (2012) Throw away all of your preconceived ideas about the behaviour and nature of teenagers! This Nature of Things documentary delves deep into the science of the teenage brain to discover evolution's masterpiece. The film combines cutting-edge scientific research, YouTube clips of outrageous teen behaviour and a graphic-novel approach to reveal new research on the immense power and potential of the teen brain. Find out how these allimportant years nurture the judgment, adaptation and innovation that ensure the survival of the species. In the past, when we put the words selfish, reckless, irrational, irritable and impossible together we could only be describing one thing: the teenager – that odd creature that can test the limits of our reasoning skills and patience. But what if teenagers are doing exactly as nature intended? Surviving:) The Teenage Brain looks at this critical developmental stage from a scientific and evolutionary point of view and challenges conventional thinking about the adolescent years. Parenting for prevention: how to stop enabling and start empowering kids (1997) Producer: Hazelden You'll learn: - What parental enabling is and how it can hurt your child - How to identify some common parental behaviors that lead to enabling - Whether you might be enabling your child - How to empower your child. Parenting for prevention: how to set limits for kids (1997) Producer: Hazelden You'll learn: - How to set clear limits - How to set reasonable limits according to age, trust level, and basic needs - Why limits should be set in advance and checked for compliance - How to respond when your child tests the limits. Parenting for prevention: how to enforce consequences when kids violate limits (1997) Producer: Hazelden You'll learn: - How to enforce consequences that are reasonable and related to the violation - How to enforce consequences calmly, respectfully, and without anger - What to avoid when enforcing consequences. Parenting for prevention: communicating : how to confront kids when they're doing wrong, how to encourage kids when they're doing right (1997) Producer: Hazelden You'll learn: - To identify some ineffective communication styles of parents - How to communicate effectively with your child through active listening - How to confront your child's negative behavior - How to encourage your child's positive behaviour. Parenting for prevention: how to teach kids to handle anger without violence (1997) Producer: Hazelden You'll learn how to teach your child to use the A-B-C-D method to handle anger: - Be AWARE of angry feelings BACK OFF and sort out what is really happening - CHECK OUT CHOICES and the CONSEQUENCES of each choice - DEDIDE AND DO the safest thing. Parenting for prevention: how to teach kids to resolve conflicts without violence (1997) Producer: Hazelden You'll learn how to teach your child to use the 3 T's method for resolving conflicts: 1. Think about the conflict 2. Talk about the conflict 3. Try to work it out. Alcohol and the teenage brain: a video guide for parents and professionals [DVD] (2004) Producer: Human Relations Media, Inc. This no-nonsense, straightforward video presents the latest research about how alcohol impairs the growing adolescent brain. The context is delivered by neuroscientist and researcher Scott Swartzwelder Ph.D. of Duke University whose groundbreaking research will be a wake up call for parents, school administrators and substance abuse professionals who want to learn more about the damaging effects of alcohol on teens. Swartzwelder explains that ten years ago researchers used to believe that the brain was finished developing at birth. Now scientists know that the brain is growing and developing through adolescence and into one’s early twenties. The research has further shown that adolescents experimenting with alcohol and binge drinking are literally putting their futures at risk by compromising the full potential of their brains to learn, conceptualize and prepare for college and the workplace. Alcohol and the teenage brain: a video guide for parents and professionals [DVD] (2004) Producer: Human Relations Media, Inc. This no-nonsense, straightforward video presents the latest research about how alcohol impairs the growing adolescent brain. The context is delivered by neuroscientist and researcher Scott Swartzwelder Ph.D. of Duke University whose groundbreaking research will be a wake up call for parents, school administrators and substance abuse professionals who want to learn more about the damaging effects of alcohol on teens. Swartzwelder explains that ten years ago researchers used to believe that the brain was finished developing at birth. Now scientists know that the brain is growing and developing through adolescence and into one’s early twenties. The research has further shown that adolescents experimenting with alcohol and binge drinking are literally putting their futures at risk by compromising the full potential of their brains to learn, conceptualize and prepare for college and the workplace. Setting rules and limits [videorecording] (1995) Producer: Hazeldon This video teaches parents how to create or re-establish boundaries and rules. It addresses how to set limits, establish consequences, and enforce rules. Setting Rules and Limits also demonstrates how to set personal limits and act as a good role model for children. Spotting substance abuse in teens : a video guide for parents & teachers [Videorecording] (2005) Distributor: GWC,Inc. For parents, educators or bosses, this video presents things to watch for that indicate drug and alcohol use in teenagers. Viewers learn to recognize the signs and are shown what decisions have to be made and what their next step should be. Being aware, taking care : information guide for parents, counsellors, youth agencies, teachers and police : addressing the dangers of street life and exploitation of youth in the sex trade. Author: Madsen, Colette, Includes 2 video tapes and 3 guides in 1 binder Designed to provide parents, teachers, counsellors, youth workers, police, youth and community members with information, ideas and resources for developing short and long term strategies to address the sexual exploitation of children and youth in our communities. Any part of the guides can be copied and distributed. In addition, each guide contains specially designed pages for use as handouts and overheads. **The following books are recommended for parents and caregivers, but are not available at the AFM library. Check with your local public library or book store. Most can also be ordered online through Amazon.ca Drugs Know the Facts Cut Your Risks the Information Book Published by: Addiction Prevention Centre This new book, with more than 190 pages, contains information on the substances, their effects, risks associated with their consumption and the laws in Canada. It provides a national picture of substance and presents statistics for the whole country. In addition, it offers the details of aid resources for every provinces and territories. The book, in color, contains a lot of illustrations and boards. (Available at Chapters). The Romance of Risk Author: Lynn E. Ponton Dr. Lynn Ponton has devoted her clinical practice to a particular community—teenagers in trouble. Whether these kids are struggling with peers, experimenting with drugs, stealing cars, or having unprotected sex, they have something in common: they are all involved in unhealthy risk-taking. And their parents are scared. "How did my child get involved in this dangerous situation?" they ask. "And what can I do?"Their fears are justified: today's teens have moreopportunities for taking dangerous risks than ever before. But in 'The Romance of Risk,' Dr. Ponton refutes the traditional idea that risk-taking is primarily an angry power struggle with parents—so-called teenage rebellion—and re-defines it as a potentially positive testing process whereby challenge and risk are the primary tools adolescents use to find out who they are and determine who they will become.This new perspective is revealed in a series of mesmerizing tales about individual adolescents and their families. Among others, we meet Jill, a 13-year-old thrill-seeking runaway; Hannah, a privileged daughter of suburbia who suffers from anorexia; and Joe, a high school senior with a serious drinking problem. Through these stories, we come to understand Dr. Ponton's startling observation that teenagers must confront and experience challenge and risk along the path to self-discovery.For adolescents, the powerful allure of the adult world is equaled only by the fear of failing to find a place in it. Parents can ease that transition into adulthood, however, by promoting healthy risktaking so that dangerous options will be avoided.In 'The Romance of Risk,' parents will learn how they can begin to understand rather than fear adolescent risk-taking, and how to communicate with their children about it. After all, teenagers will always romanticize risk. But with the support and guidance of parents and other adults, odds are the risks they take will be the right ones. Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen Author: David Walsh, Ph. D In this national bestseller, acclaimed, award-winning psychologist Dr. David Walsh explains exactly what happens to the human brain on the path from childhood into adolescence and adulthood. Revealing the latest scientific findings in easy-to-understand terms, Dr. Walsh shows why moodiness, quickness to anger and to take risks, miscommunication, fatigue, territoriality, and other familiar teenage behavior problems are so common -- all are linked to physical changes and growth in the adolescent brain. Why Do They Act That Way? is the first book to explain the changes in teens' brains and show parents how to use this information to understand, communicate with, and stay connected to their kids. Through real-life stories, Dr. Walsh makes sense of teenagers' many mystifying, annoying, and even outright dangerous behavioral difficulties and provides realistic solutions for dealing with everyday as well as severe challenges. Dr. Walsh's techniques include, among others: sample dialogues that help teens and parents talk civilly and constructively with each other, behavioral contracts, and Parental Survival Kits that provide practical advice for dealing with issues like curfews, disrespectful language and actions, and bullying. With this arsenal of strategies, parents can help their kids learn to control impulses, manage erratic behavior, cope with their changing bodies, and, in effect, develop a second brain. Too Safe for Their Own Good, How Risk and Responsibility Help Teens to Thrive Author: Michael Ungar, PhD. Canadian children are safer now than at any other time in history. So why are we so fearful for them? When they’re young, we drive them to playdates, fill up their time with organized activity, and cocoon them from every imaginable peril. We think we are doing what’s best for them. But as they grow into young adults and we continue to manage their lives, running interference with teachers and coaches, we are, in fact, unwittingly stunting them. Internationally respected social worker and family therapist Michael Ungar tells us why our mania to keep our kids safe is causing us to do the opposite: put them in harm’s way. By continuing to protect them from failure and disappointment, many of our kids are missing out on the “risk-taker’s advantage,” the benefits that come from experiencing manageable amounts of danger. In Too Safe for Their Own Good, Ungar inspires parents to recall their own childhoods and the lessons they learned from being risk-takers and responsibility-seekers, much to the annoyance of their own parents. He offers the support parents need in setting appropriate limits and provides concrete suggestions for allowing children the opportunity to experience the rites of passage that will help them become competent, happy, thriving adults. Troubled Transplants Author: Richard Delaney, Ph.D., Frank R. Kunstal, Ed.D. Caring for troubled adoptive/foster care children can be both harrowing and heroic. Many of today's foster and adopted children come from backgrounds where they experience not only the loss of previous caregivers, but have also suffered from abuse, sexual exploitation, or neglect. Individuals who invite these children into their homes often find themselves in a therapeutic role that can tax and exhaust. Troubled Transplants focuses on these children, their backgrounds, and their deleterious impact on the interaction and environment with the foster or adoptive family. The authors provide suggestions about behavioral roots and practical strategies to address and improve these issues. We Generation Raising Socially Responsible Kids Author: Michael Ungar, PhD. Wouldn’t it be nice if your child committed herself to doing a simple act of kindness every day? As today’s culture seems to grow more self-centered and obsessed with “me,” Dr. Michael Ungar refreshingly points the way to raising “we” thinkers. Perhaps most inspiring about Ungar’s findings: today’s kids are eager to help out and be noticed. What they need, though, is compassion, encouragement, and attentiveness to their most important connections—those made at home. By recounting the inspiring stories of his work with families, Ungar reveals how the emotional bond kids crave and the support adults provide can help our children realize their full potential. Filled with practical tips, this guide will inspire every child and adult to be their best, most giving self. Emotionally Intelligent Parenting, How to Raise a Self-Disciplined, Responsible, Socially Skilled Child Author: Maurice J. Elias, Ph.D., Steven E. Tobias, Psy.D., and Brian S. Friedlander, Ph.D Have you, as a parent, ever found yourself treating your children in a way you would never tolerate from someone else? The authors of Emotionally Intelligent Parenting call for a new Golden Rule: Do unto your children as you would have other people do unto your children. And most important, they show us how to live by it. Based upon extensive research, firsthand experience, and case studies, Emotionally Intelligent Parenting breaks the mold of traditional parenting books by taking into account the strong role of emotions -- those of parents and children -- in psychological development. With this book, parents will learn how to communicate with children on a deeper, more gratifying level and how to help them successfully navigate the intricacies of relating to others. The authors take the five basic principles of Daniel Goleman's best-seller, Emotional Intelligence, and explain how they can be applied to successful parenting. To this end, the book offers suggestions, stories, dialogues, activities, and a special section of Sound EQ Parenting Bites to help parents use their emotions in the most constructive ways, focusing on such everyday issues as sibling rivalry, fights with friends, school situations, homework, and peer pressure. In the authors' extensive experience, children respond quickly to these strategies, their self-confidence is strengthened, their curiosity is piqued, and they learn to assert their independence while developing their ability to make responsible choices. Get Out of My Life But First Could you Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall Author: Anthony E. Wolf When Anthony E. Wolf's witty and compassionate guide to raising adolescents was first published, its amusing title and fresh approach won it widespread admiration. Beleaguered parents breathed sighs of relief and gratitude. Now Dr. Wolf has revised and updated his bestseller to tackle the changes of the past decade. He points out that while the basic issues of adolescence and the relationships between parents and their children remain much the same, today's teenagers navigate a faster, less clearly anchored world. Wolf's revisions include a new chapter on the Internet, a significantly modified section on drugs and drinking, and an added piece on gay teenagers. Although the rocky and ever-changing terrain of contemporary adolescence may bewilder parents, Get Out of My Life gives them a great road map. The Teen Whisperer Author: Mike Linderman Mike Linderman is a teen therapist unlike any other. A real-life cowboy, he wakes up at the crack of dawn, works the cattle on his ranch, and then counsels some of the country's most troubled teens, approaching them with a unique blend of down-home honesty, straight-talk discipline, and pure intention that is rarely found in a therapist's office. Most of the teens Mike treats are angry, abused, violent, and dangerous, yet despite their difficult pasts, he has achieved extraordinary success with them, helping to turn their lives around and earning him the nickname the "Teen Whisperer." In this book, he shares the secrets behind his success with parents everywhere, demonstrating how his regimen of hard work, integrity, and effective communication has turned seriously at-risk kids into loving, well-balanced, and productive teens. More than just a plan to rein in bad behavior, The Teen Whisperer deconstructs the emotional barriers that adolescence has placed between you and your child, helping you work with teens on their level—instead of simply treating them as subordinates. With this straightforward and open perspective, both you and your teen will learn to offer each other mutual respect and kindness, as you work together to heal the troubled hearts of your family. Hey Mom, I’m Home, Again. Author: Monica Lauen O’Kane Addresses the growing phenomenon of older children living at home and related family issues of money, social expectations, courtesy, maturity, and privacy, and discusses the experiences of adults who return home from lack of money, disillusionment, or drug problems. How to Talk, So Teens Will Listen & How to Listen So Teens Will Talk Author: Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish The renowned #1 New York Times bestselling authors share their advice and expertise with parents and teens in this accessible, indispensable guide to surviving adolescence. Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish transformed parenting with their breakthrough, bestselling books Siblings Without Rivalry and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. Now, they return with this essential guide that tackles the tough issues teens and parents face today. Filled with straightforward advice and written in their trademark, down-to-earth style sure to appeal to both parents and teens, this all-new volume offers both innovative, easy-to-implement suggestions and proven techniques to build the foundation for lasting relationships. From curfews and cliques to sex and drugs, it gives parents the tools to help their children safely navigate the often stormy years of adolescence. Kids are Worth It Author: Barbara Coloroso This bestselling guide rejects "quick-fix" solutions and focuses on helping kids develop their own self-discipline by owning up to their mistakes, thinking through solutions, and correcting their misdeeds while leaving their dignity intact. Barbara Coloroso shows these principles in action through dozens of examples -- from sibling rivalry to teenage rebellion; from common misbehaviors to substance abuse and antisocial behavior. She also explains how to parent strong-willed children, effective alternatives to time-outs, bribes, and threats, and how to help kids resolve disputes and serious injustices such as bullying. Filled with practical suggestions for handling the ordinary and extraordinary tribulations of growing up, kids are worth it! helps you help your children grow into responsible, resilient, resourceful adults -- not because you tell them to, but because they want to. Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles Author: Mary Sheedy Kurcinka End Those Power Struggles and Begin Connecting with Your Child. Noted family educator Mary Sheedy Kurcinka struck a national chord with her bestselling Raising Your Spirited Child. Now she hits upon another crucial parenting topic: coping with the everyday challenges of disciplining your child, while understanding the issues behind his or her behavior. In Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles, she offers unique approaches to solving the daily, and often draining, power struggles between you and your child. Kurcinka views these conflicts as rich opportunities to teach your child essential life skills, like how to deal with strong emotions and problem solve. With her successful strategies, you'll be able to identify the trigger situations that set off these struggles and get to the root of the emotions and needs of you and your child. Parent’s Guide for Suicide and Depressed Teens: Help for Recognizing if a Child is in Crisis and What to do about it Author: Kate Williams Drawing from personal experience, Kate Williams provides support for parents seeking help for their teen . Williams helps parents recognize the signs of a child in crisis, how to find immediate and effective help, and how to deal with ongoing adolescent issues. Parenting on your Own Handbook Published by: MB Women’s Advisory Council Parenting on Your Own: A Handbook for One-Parent Families (tenth edition, 2012) is available through the Manitoba Government, and lists services and supports in Manitoba that are of interest to one-parent families. It is an excellent resource for anyone accessing services in Manitoba, and includes information about services related to: Aboriginal Services, Abuse, Child Care, Education, Training and Employment, Financial Help and Stretching the Dollar, Health Care and Disability Services, Housing, Legal, Recreation and Wellness, Services for Newcomer Immigrants, Support for Families. Parenting with Wit and Wisdom in times of Chaos and Loss Author: Barbara Coloroso Bestselling parenting author, Barbara Coloroso, tackles the question of how to parent when life is not smooth. When tragedy or trauma invades daily life. Whether it be a small crisis or a major disaster, Barbara looks at how we as parents can best comfort and nurture our children, and ourselves, as we navigate through the inevitable suffering, adversity, chaos, and losses in our lives. Barbara shares her own experiences, along with others, to illustrate the importance of optimistic parenting during these times. Along with the crises encountered by most families in their daily lives, Barbara's own family has experienced the trauma of a child being diagnosed with cancer. As Barbara says: 'Life is not fair. Life hurts. Life is good'. The T.A.O. theory of successful parenting during difficult times is introduced: time, affection and optimism. Concentrating on these three factors during difficult times is the key to good parenting, says Barbara Coloroso. Remarried with Children Author: Barbara LeBey It's the most daunting task many parents will ever face: bringing two growing families together into one brand new marriage. But even though statistics show that most remarriages are at high risk--especially when there are kids involved--more and more people are learning how to make them work and more and more kids are coming out of them with their psyches and souls intact. This honest and hopeful book looks at those successes--and at some failures--to show what they have in common: ten essential secrets that are at the heart of a healthy blended family. As a stepparent with six children in a blended family, Barbara LeBey draws on her own family's hard-won success, as well as on extensive interviews and new research to show how to navigate the stresses, sticking points, pitfalls and perils most couples don't even anticipate. Starting with her first controversial secret--that the new marriage comes first, even before the demands of the children--LeBey debunks prevalent stepfamily myths and anticipates common traps. (Among them, money issues, warring stepsiblings, and destructive exes.) A strong advocate for children (including how to guard against fade-out parenting), she also suggests ways that in-laws, schools, and the legal system itself could provide better support for blended families. REmarried with Children is an expert, compassionate, down-to-earth book to turn to over and over again for advice, support and sanity. 7 (Seven) Habits of Highly Effective Families Author: Stephen R. Covey In his first major work since The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Steven R. Covey presents a practical and philosophical guide to solving the problems--large and small, mundane and extraordinary--that confront all families and strong communities. By offering revealing anecdotes about ordinary people as well as helpful suggestions about changing everyday behavior, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families shows how and why to have family meetings, the importance of keeping promises, how to balance individual and family needs, and how to move from dependence to interdependence. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families is an invaluable guidebook to the welfare of families everywhere. Teenagers with ADD: A Parents’ Guide Author: Chris A. Zeigler Dendy, M.S. This book discusses typical troubling behaviours, provides perspectives for parents of diagnosed teens, and assists other parents in determining whether ADD is affecting their child. Hallmark characteristics of the disorder and methods for overcoming these difficulties are described. Throughout are the voices of teens, parents, educators and professionals who describe the peaks and valleys of life with ADD, providing insight, hope, support, and advice for successfully navigating the teenage years. Tired of Yelling (Teaching our Children to Resolve Conflict) Authors: Lyndon D. Waugh, M.D. with Letitia Sweitzer In Tired Of Yelling, renowned family psychiatrist Lyndon D. Waugh offers the solution for more peaceful homes and classrooms, offering parents the lifelong gift of teaching their children the most valuable lesson they can ever learn: how to get along with other people. Dr. Waugh's simple fifteen-step model shows parents how to teach their children to: assess their emotion and gauge its intensity; be angry while behaving well; listen actively; admit fault; brainstorm solutions; make acceptable decisions.This practical and easy-to-understand book provides specific teaching language for each age group-from infants to teens-so you'll know exactly what to say and how to say it. Complete with strategies for overcoming a child's resistance and sections on motivation, defensiveness, discipline, and "goat getting," Tired Of Yelling helps parents defuse tension and achieve something truly pricelessan emotionally stronger and happier child. When Good Kids Do Bad Things Author: Katherine Gordy Levine Parenting a pre-teen or teen? Time to "Suck it up, Buttercup." There is no way around the fact that for some parents the teen years mean dealing with Good Kids Doing Bad Things. The bad ranges from those little lies, that one shoplifting episode, loving the wrong guy or gal, to a major problem with drinking and drugging, or suicidal depression. Looking for helpful advice is like thumbing the dictionary hoping you will find a word you need but don't know how to spell. If you are lucky you will stumble on what you need. What can a parent do? Check out the credentials of the advice givers. Most fall into two categories: parents who have raised a child or two or more and therapists who work with disturbed children and their parents. Each offer advice that works some of the time for some parents and some children, but each also falls short for too many parents and too many children. One offers the best of both—Katherine Gordy Levine. Katherine Gordy Levine is not only a certified therapist, former professor, director of mental health crisis teams, and mother of two - over a period of 12 years she was foster parent to almost 400 troubled teenagers. Her wealth of experience is shared with humor and angst in examples throughout this engaging page-turner. Her suggestions are both clinically sound, but also based on practical experience. She knows what works and what does not work. Moreover, she is on the side of all parents. Effect real change in the behavior of your adolescent with the adaptable techniques you'll find in this book. Fantastic Antone Grows Up: Adolescents and Adults with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome – Author: Judith Kleinfeld Fantastic Antone Grows Up is a field guide to life with an adolescent or young adult with fetal alcohol syndrome/effects. Under the best of circumstances, adolescence is a trying time for young people and their families. The budding adult seeks independence and autonomy while the resistant child within longs for protection and structure; questions about sexuality and work, social commitments, and solitary accomplishments loom large and can create a family battlefield. For the challenged and challenging young people with FAS/E, the circumstances as they begin maturing are never the best. In this sequel to Fantastic Antone Succeeds, young people with FAS/E and their caregivers report on their experiences coping with the problems of adolescence and young adulthood. Again the editors and authors have concentrated on the wisdom of practice, as they candidly convey which techniques worked and which did not during the difficult passages of the teenage years and beyond. The twenty-one chapters are grouped according to theme. Section one discusses the meaning of success for adolescents and adults with FAS/E -- the need to define success in new ways. Cindy Gere found her path to success, for example, through creative expression. She graduated from college with a degree in fine arts and successfully completed a program in art. Many of her paintings, including the one illustrating the cover of this book, provide a poignant and candid expression of what FAS/E means to her. Section two discusses strategies that work in areas such as counseling, education, sexuality, trouble with the law, and independent living. Section three covers what families need from the community, including innovative programs that help individuals with FAS/E, and how to get a diagnosis at adolescence. The book also contains important resources, organizations to contact, and internet addresses. More has been learned about how alcohol poisoning in the womb alters brain function and physical development since the release of Fantastic Antone Succeeds, but science is far from providing the answers that affected young people and their caregivers need. Until such answers are forthcoming, nothing can replace the voices of experience with their practical messages of coping, caring, loving, weeping, laughing, and -- more often than might be expected -- succeeding. Best Things Parents Do Author: Susan Kohl Parents are doing a better job than they think they are. Author Susan Kohl has been a parent watcher for more than 30 years—and she knows what parents do well. A kind of Mr. Rogers for parents, Susan Kohl’s The Best Things Parents Do is a "best practices" book that parents will turn to again and again. Each chapter focuses on one topic and contains stories and vignettes from Kohl’s personal experience, relevant statistics and psychological truths, strategies to use, and things to think about or actions to take. Kohl knows that when parents begin to pay attention to what they do well, they can do more of it—channeling their children’s energy into constructive endeavors, modeling positive behavior and discouraging negative behavior, and honoring their children’s feelings as well as their own. How to Keep Your Teenager Out of Trouble and What to Do if You Can't – Author: Neil Bernstein The teenage years are tough-for kids, and for parents. Many teenagers are grappling with a slew of overwhelming emotions, and the results can range from not wanting to be seen with a parent in public to reckless and destructive behavior that can destroy a family. Parents despair as a child becomes a sullen, defiant stranger. A clinical psychologist who's spent more than two decades bringing families back from the brink, Dr. Neil I. Bernstein knows how to help parents and teens successfully navigate these difficult and trying years. Thoughtful, cleareyed, comprehensive, and refreshingly free of jargon, HOW TO KEEP YOUR TEENAGER OUT OF TROUBLE AND WHAT TO DO IF YOU CAN'T helps parents identify whether their teens are exhibiting typical behavior-such as locking themselves in their room for hours-or are exhibiting real danger signs, such as being secretive, despondent, or constantly angry. And then he tells what to do about it. The focus, above all else, is effective communication: how to avoid threats and put-downs, offer clear explanations, stick with the issues at hand, negotiate, improve listening skills, ask relevant questions, and stop interrogating or lecturing. Throughout, Bernstein uses examples from his practice to tell specifically what to do and say. There is sample dialogue to keep discussions from becoming arguments; signals that parental efforts are actually working; and Skill Builders that give parents the tools When Parents Ask for Help: Everyday Issues through an Asset-Building Lens Author: Rennie Howard With reproducible articles that speak directly to parents and caregivers about the dilemmas adolescents face, this collection reframes issues from an asset-based point of view to give parents plenty of encouragement, hope, and practical ideas. Beautiful Boy (A Father’s Journey through his Son’s Addiction Author: David Scheff What had happened to my beautiful boy? To our family? What did I do wrong? Those are the wrenching questions that haunted every moment of David Sheff’s journey through his son Nic’s addiction to drugs and tentative steps toward recovery. Before Nic Sheff became addicted to crystal meth, he was a charming boy, joyous and funny, a varsity athlete and honor student adored by his two younger siblings. After meth, he was a trembling wraith who lied, stole, and lived on the streets. David Sheff traces the first subtle warning signs: the denial, the 3 A.M. phone calls (is it Nic? the police? the hospital?), the rehabs. His preoccupation with Nic became an addiction in itself, and the obsessive worry and stress took a tremendous toll. But as a journalist, he instinctively researched every avenue of treatment that might save his son and refused to give up on Nic. Beautiful Boy is a fiercely candid memoir that brings immediacy to the emotional rollercoaster of loving a child who seems beyond help Buzzed Author: Cynthia Kuhn, Ph.D., Scott Swartzwelker, Ph.D., Wilkie Wilson, Ph.D "The gap between scientific information and public information about drugs is growing hour by hour," declare the authors of this thorough, popular guide to pharmaceutical and recreational chemicals. The public's misinformation, they say, is only compounded by the fact that most descriptions of drugs' benefits and risks are oversimplified, inaccurate and politicized. Marijuana, for example, is portrayed by some organizations as a wonder drug, and by others as a dangerous contagion. The authors' guide aims to avoid such pitfalls. Divided into a dozen sectionsAlcohol, Caffeine, Ecstasy, Hallucinogens, Herbal Drugs, Inhalants, Marijuana, Nicotine, Opiates, Sedatives, Steroids, and Stimulants-the book adopts a straight, neutral tone that reflects its commitment to providing unbiased, scientific fact. As professors at the Duke University Medical Center, Khun, Swartzwelder and Wilson are well-qualified to analyze and synthesize lots of complicated information, and this second edition of the guide has been fully revised to reflect scientists' growing knowledge of how chemicals of all kinds affect our health and development. Best of all, the descriptions are jargon-free, making this book a great choice for anyone looking for clear, reliable information about any kind of drug. (from Publishers Weekly). Common Sense Parenting Author: Ray Burke, Ph.D., Ron Herron Here's a great guidebook for parents of children ages 6 to 16 facing a myriad of family challenges: a teen who's defiant; siblings who constantly bicker; a child having trouble in school, or parents and kids who occupy the same house but don't communicate or have fun together anymore. Common Sense Parenting provides parents with a menu of proven techniques that will aid them in building good family relationships, preventing and correcting misbehavior, using consequences to improve behavior, teaching self-control, and staying calm.The book shows parents how to approach discipline as positive teaching rather than punishment of their children. Encouraging children by recognizing their good behavior and teaching before problems occur are as important as correcting children's negative behavior. Parents also learn how to help children solve problems, reach goals by using charts and contracts, and practice new social skills. As each new parenting technique is introduced, the authors explain each step, provide many clear examples, and give parents an action plan for implementing it in their home. This newly revised and updated book answers parents' commonly asked questions and offers new behavior charts and more helpful information than ever. New chapters include those offering advice on setting reasonable expectations for children, creating predictable family routines that help children feel secure as well as improve their behavior, and putting together a parenting plan using all of the techniques explained in the book.
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