Our Lady of Perpetual Help Church of

September 12, 2010
Church of
Our Lady of Perpetual Help
Parish Office (914) 738-1449 ▪ Fax (914) 738-9454
Email . [email protected] - www.olph-pelhammanor.org
Rev. Robert J. DeJulio, Pastor
Rev. Abraham Vettiyolil, mcbs Parochial Vicars Rev. Oliver Offor
Weekend Associates
Rev. Edward T. Dowling, S.J., Rev. Gabriel Gonzalez, S.J., Rev. Michael Greco, OFM, Cap.
Mr. Joseph McQuade Deacons Mr. Daniel Murphy
Mrs. Jeanette Jackino Parish Trustees Mr. John Hanson
Mrs. Fabiola Brito Briseno, Administrative Assistant
Dr. Joseph Schippa, Music Director- Mrs. Elaine Ruggiero, Organist
Mr. Gabriel Gomez, Buildings and Grounds
Parish School
Pre-K – 8th grade
www.olphpelham.com ▪ (914) 738-5158
Mrs. Susan Cotronei, Principal
Religious Education Office
(914) 738-0670
Mr. Michael Hall, Director
Saturday . 4:00 - 4:45pm & by appointment
2nd & 4th Sunday of the Month at 1:30pm. Please call Parish
Office to make arrangements.
There is a six month planning period required.
Please make an appointment with one of the priests for further
Devotions to Our Lady
Rosary . Monday - Saturday . 8:40am
Miraculous Medal Novena - Monday . 9:30am
Saturday evening 5:00pm ▪ Sunday 8:00, 9:30, 11:00am & 12:30pm
Weekdays (Mon-Sat) 8:00 & 9:00am ▪ Holydays as announced
Twenty-Fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time
Dear Fellow Parishioners:
In observance of Recovery Sunday I have been asked to
share my story with you.
The process of overcoming an addiction is loaded with
contradictions. You have to admit you’re strong enough to
recover, even as you embrace your worst fears and
weaknesses. It’s not always easy, but it’s possible—as I
discovered more than a decade ago.
My dependence on alcohol and nicotine was swept away,
literally, by a hurricane. In Sept. 1999, Hurricane Floyd
paralyzed New York City. Thousands of children were
dismissed from school, and Mayor Giuliani even sent city
employees home early. Stores and restaurants closed in
anticipation of a massive strike of deadly weather.
I left work early, too. But I didn’t head home. I went straight to
my favorite bar. Even though the rest of the city was
shuttered, I was happy to see the neon liquor light beckoning
me to come inside.
When I opened the door, I entered what could have been a
Hurricane Party. The bar was packed, every table occupied.
The air—before the smoking ban in bars went into effect—
was thick with cigarette smoke. I squeezed into the last open
seat at the end of the bar, and smiled as the bartender
handed me a chilled vodka without even asking me for my
I took a few sips. Feeling the slight sting of the alcohol
against my lips, I pressed a cigarette between them. Lighting
the match, I leaned forward. The flame illuminated my face
in the mirror behind the bar. As my eyes scanned the crowd,
I thought about the hurricane, the closings, and the potential
danger from the storm. I found myself thinking, "Look at
these losers. A hurricane is coming. They should be rushing
home and instead they’re hanging out in a bar."
It took a minute for me to realize the same observation
applied to the man making it…me. With a sudden and
sincere clarity, I saw myself for what I’d become: a reckless
loser. The realization hit, and before I could shrug it off, I
found myself dropping the lit cigarette into the glass of
vodka. At that moment, I made not a promise but a
strong statement. "I'll never do this again."
September 12, 2010
I left the bar and took the train home to be with my
The hurricane blew into the ocean, causing less damage
than expected. But the storm was a lifesaver for me. I never
have smoked or drank alcohol since that night more than a
decade ago.
I have never regretted by tensions, and you should expect to
accept them. Even though I never once criticized anyone or
announced my new found sobriety, my old drinking friends
became uncomfortable when I started ordering only club
soda. In time, new people, places and activities took the
place of those habitual visits to bars.
But it takes time to adjust to your new life. Most people who
go through recovery struggle with more than cravings. They
face significant obstacles—real and imagined, conscious and
subconscious—that can sabotage even the most sincere
intentions. One of the worst things you can do is to become
skeptical about your own success.
Skepticism can destroy your belief in your recovery. Rather
than doubt your ability to recover, accept that it’s natural to
have occasional urges for the substance you’re giving up.
Accept it, and use it as a chance to develop your relationship
with God. Though I never attended an AA meeting, I took
comfort in the third step of the 12-step program, which
involves putting yourself in God’s hands.
Several times a day, I found myself saying the Lord's Prayer
with an emphasis on "They Will Be Done" – and, ultimately, it
I never spent hours face down in a gutter or made any trips
to rehab. I managed to keep my job, support my family and
function in spite of my addiction. But I hate to think of how
badly my life would have deteriorated during the past years if
I had used my functioning status as an excuse to continue
what I know was unhealthy and unproductive.
Fortunately, my downward spiral had a happy ending. It was
reversed by a hurricane that never really was, with help from
God, who always will be.
Twenty-Fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time
September 12, 2010
Monday, September 13
8:00 AM - Sudano Family
9:00 AM - Ralph Vanacore
Second Time
Catherine Anne Schwarz and Kenneth
Tuesday, September 14
8:00 AM - Margaret Cannon Smith
9:00 AM - Michael O’Connor
The students of OLPH will attend the 9:00 am
Mass on September 17th for the beginning of
the new school year. All are welcome to
Wednesday, September 15
8:00 AM - George & Mary Archambault
9:00 AM - Michael O’Sullivan
Golf Raffle
Win a round of golf and lunch for 3 players at
the famous Winged Foot Country Club. $20.00
per chance; 3 for $50.00; 7 for $100.00. Contact
the school office @ 738-5158 or church office
@738-1449 for information and tickets.
Thursday, September 16
8:00 AM - Chuck McCartney
9:00 AM - Douglas McCallion
Friday, September 17
8:00 AM - Deborah Morgan
9:00 AM - Michael & John Hughes
Classes will begin in October for adults who
have not received the Sacrament of
Confirmation or Communion and for adults
who would like to become Catholics. Please
contact the church office at 738-1449.
Saturday, September 18
8:00 AM - Catherine Florio
9:00 AM - Donald Lemish
The annual Blood Drive for Sound Shore
Hospital will take place in the OLPH cafeteria
on Sunday, September 19th from 9 am to 12:30
pm. Please consider making a donation.
Last week Collection
“Thank you for your generous support.
OLPH School participates in Bonus Bucks
through Stop and Shop. All you need to do is
register your card and each shopping trip you
make earns cash for the school. To register on
line go to www.stopandshop.com/aplus or call
1-877-275-2758. Our school ID is 077712.
Sunday, Sept. 12th grades K-8 9:15 am to 10:45 am
Monday, Sept. 13th grades 1-8 3:15 pm to 4:45 pm
Tuesday, Sept. 14th grades 1-8 3:15 pm to 4:45 pm
Thursday, Sept. 16th grades 1-8 3:15 pm to 4:45 pm
We need volunteer teachers for the
following days and grades:
Sunday: Grade 7
Tuesday: Grade 5
Thursday: Grade 7,
Please contact the Religious Education Director @
738-0670 if you are available.
Week 12 we have received $109,905 in
donations. If you have not as yet donated
please do so as soon as possible. Thank you.
Twenty-Fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time
September 12, 2010
O.L.P.H. 6th Annual Golf Outing
Bonnie Briar Country Club
Tuesday, September 21 st , 2010
(1PM Shotgun)
Contribution of $275/player or $1,100/4-some includes:
18 Holes of Golf
Golf Cart
BBQ Lunch on course
Full Dinner after golf
Continental Breakfast on Terrace
Live Auction includes golf at Winged Foot!!
Prizes & Raffles
Closest to the Pin
Long Drive
Open Bar
List Golfer’s Name(s):
Dinner only $75.00 (bring a non-golfing friend)
Sponsor A Hole!
Your $150.00 Contribution Includes:
A professionally made sign with your name on one hole
Mention of your name at the Dinner Award Ceremony
Inclusion of your name in our Golf Brochure given to every player
Attach your business card or write below how you would like
your name to appear
Make check payable to: Our Lady of Perpetual Help
Mail to: Tom Ralph, 337 Ninth Ave., Pelham, NY 10803