from Quality Care PARENT NEWS 

from Quality Care
Vol 4, Iss 1
Fall 2012
Message from the Director
Do It Yourself for Halloween
Bestseller Books
Nurturing Parenting
Quality Care Resource &
Referral Services, Inc.
The Importance of Involved Responsible fathers
By Adrian McGriff, Quality Care 24/7 Dad Trainer
What is the definition of
a responsible father? A father is defined as someone
 that is there for his children. A father watches and
actively participates in their lives. A father helps them grow up,
raises them, nurtures them, attends dance recitals, baseball games,
helps them do their homework and is actively involved in his
child/children’s day-to-day activities.
As a father living in today’s society, we face many challenges
that prevent or limit us from fulfilling our responsibilities and
duties as dads. Most fathers want to be the best father they can
be. But all too often, men grow up without a healthy role model
of a father. Consequently, many fathers have the desire, but not
the knowledge or skills, to be a great dad. Ultimately, men aren’t
able to model a behavior they haven’t seen before.
As an organization, Quality Care is aware of every family
members’ need and especially that of a father, so we’ve decided
to implement an initiative for fathers called “D.A.D.” (Dedicated
and Determined), everyday heroes.
PARENTS, continued on page 2
JuWana McNear
Building A Healthy Self-Esteem in Your Child
I am a subscriber to a wellknown woman’s magazine and
one of the featured articles was
a spotlight on young people
working to make their dreams/
goals a reality. The young people had different interests but
each one of them made it work.
If I were to take a survey of
these young people based on
their self-esteem level, many
would probably score well
above 10; ten being the best.
Helping to build a healthy selfesteem in children is something
parents should make a priority.
When a child believes in him/
herself they can tackle the many
obstacles the world sends their
way. Well-deserved praise and
encouragement can go a long
way in a child’s development of
a healthy self-esteem. Ask
them what their dreams/goals
are. Depending on the age of
the child you may have to write
it down for them and revisit
from time to time. When they
get older have your child write
it down so it becomes real to
them. Have them set a time to
revisit the dream/goal to track
their progress of achieving it.
Even achieving the smallest
goal can boost a healthy selfesteem. When you child enters
high school, have them review
their dreams/goals to make
sure they are on track or make
adjustments to new dreams/
goals. Are their grades sufficient or have they earned
enough credits to enter the college they have chosen to apply
for? Are they staying in shape
for the sport they want to play
or for the first day of basic
training in the Armed Forces?
Whatever the dream/goal your
encouragement is vital in it becoming a reality.
When children have a
healthy self-esteem it is unlikely
they will join a gang and engage
in drugs and alcohol. They are
less likely to fall into peer pressure situations with a healthy
I specified the self-esteem as
healthy in the above paragraphs
because unhealthy self-esteem
can be a problem. Unhealthily
PARENTS, continued from page 1
The D.A.D initiative will use the 24/7
Dads curriculum from the National Fatherhood Initiative Network. It’s an evidence
based curriculum that has transformed the
lives of many fathers that have effectively
used the tools and skills offered in the 12
week session booklet.
The author of the 24/7 Dads program
based the information in the curriculum on
principles that are designed to increase the
proportion of children growing up with
involved, responsible, committed fathers.
The programs achieve this goal by equipping facilitators with the tools they need to
help fathers increase their involvement,
responsibility, and commitment to their
children and the mothers of their children.
The programs help create “24/7 Dads”
who enhance the well-being of their children by being an integral part of their lives
physically, emotionally, spiritually, and in2
Susan T. James
self-esteem can cause a child
to be so confident that they
inflict torment upon other
children. Bullying is a frequent topic that has been in
the news for quite some time
now. I think everyone has
been teased as a child at one
time or another however
when that teasing becomes
physical or emotionally abusive, it is a problem. And
there is not excuse you can
give a parent when their child
has committed suicide as a
result of senseless bullying.
Quality Care recognizes this
as serious problem and has
begun to look into resources
that we can offer parents in
regards to bullying.
So as we enter this new
school year; my homework
assignment for you is to: Build
up your child’s image of him
or herself and help them become productive citizens who
will pass the torch of Healthy
Self-Esteem to the next generations. 
tellectually 24 hours a day, seven days a
I myself, have used many of the skills
learned from the 24/7 Dads curriculum,
both as a father and a facilitator; and it’s helped me
become a more involved
responsible father with my
children. The skills I’ve
learned from this curriculum
have also helped me understand the importance of self
-awareness, healthy communication, and leadership
skills in my home and out in
the community. Some of the
knowledge I gained from
the program helped me be
more understanding towards
my wife when it comes to
meeting her needs.
As a parent, we are the most powerful
Cape May, Cumberland, Gloucester & Salem Counties
JuWana McNear
CCR&R Director
1065 Route 47 South., Suite A
Rio Grande, NJ 08242
Phone: 609.898.5500
Fax: 609.898.5501
415 West Landis Ave., Suite 202
Vineland, NJ 08360
Phone: 856.462.6800
Fax: 856.462.6801
6 North Broad Street, Suite 300
Woodbury, NJ 08096
Phone: 856.628.8600
Fax: 856.628.8601
5 Route 45, Suite 200
Mannington, NJ 08079
Phone: 856.469.6100
Fax: 856.469.6101
Peggi Trusty
Managing Editor
determining influence our children will
interact with throughout their life span on
earth. We are the first and most important
teachers our children will ever interact with
and that’s why it is very important that we model
healthy behaviors while
they’re in our presence.
The D.A.D program will
be offered through Quality
Care in the fall of 2012.
Date to be determined. It
involves twelve weeks one
day per week for two hours.
We invite all male born fathers, father figures; fathersto-be, and male role models,
out to join us in cultivating a
new generation of involved,
responsible, committed fathers as future leaders at
home and in our communities. 
Do-it Yourself Costumes for Halloween
By Christa Weis, Child Care Resource and Referral Administrator, Cape May
If there is one positive that a down economy can produce, it
is the creativity in us all. We have all had to make adjustments
and explore budget saving ways to meet our needs. When it
comes to the holiday season, the fear of mounting bills can
prove scarier than any of the ghouls you may encounter on Halloween night!
Not everyone is blessed with the creativity gene but if you are
willing to follow along you will be able to fool them all! There
are many “do it yourself” costume instruction websites that will
make your child the cutest
or scariest thing you ever
saw not to mention have
little impact on your wallet.
Homemade costumes generally require supplies that
could possibly be lying
around your house. If you
have a glue gun felt, boxes,
feathers, cardboard, paint,
bit of time and little helpers then the possibilities
are endless. Not only does
this make sense, it is a
great way to discuss Halloween safety with your
Costumes can start
with a base of old clothes,
old or new sweats are a
great start for a clown by gluing pom-poms on the shirt and ruffles on the cuff (a contrasting fabric), face paint and a cheap wig
with grandpa’s old hat will complete the job! Other costumes
that can use a sweat suit as the foundation are cute little animals
such as ladybug, spider, skunk (black), bunny, snowman (white)
kitten , puppy(tan), butterfly (purple), and turtle (green). A
sweat suit in any of the above colors will serve you well in starting a homemade costume for your little goblins. You will only
have to add a shell, wings, whiskers, white mane, polka dots,
antennae and ears to complete these projects.
Homemade costumes representing food and candy are popular as well as low cost. You can use cardboard in a circular way
to create a can (foil on top and bottom) that can be decorated to
your ideas. A can of soda, soup or anything you like can be
made to fit your theme. These projects are better pulled off if
you can grab the artist in the family to do some of your sketches.
Cardboard is great if you have a group of kids and can send
them trick or treating as a deck of cards. You can use cardboard
also for rockets, trucks, dice, Christmas presents and Legos.
Other ideas include candy wrappers, grapes and banana’s using
balloons and foam
By accessing some of the websites below you will have the
ability to benefit from the creativity and past experiences of the
thousands of others who have figured out how to perfect the
homemade costume and give your children a memory they will
always cherish while spending quality time with you during the
construction process. 
What’s On the Bestsellers List for the Fall??
Pete the Cat:
Rocking in My School Shoes
By Eric Litwin (Author) and
James Dean (Illustrator)
Pete the Cat is back—and this time
he’s rocking in his school shoes.
Pete discovers the library, the
lunchroom, and lots of other cool
places at school. And no matter
where he goes, Pete never stops
moving and grooving and singing
his song . . . because it’s all good.
(Ages 3 to 7)
his own, but
he can't think
of a story. Encouraged by
the little yellow bird to
look closely at
the world
around him
for inspiration,
Rocket sets
out on a journey. Along the
way he discovers small details that he has
Rocket Writes a Story
never noticed before, a timid baby owl
By Tad Hills (Author, Illustrator)
who becomes his friend, and an idea for a
Rocket loves books and he wants to make story. This book is sure to appeal to kids,
parents, teachers, and librarians.
Goodnight, Goodnight
Construction Site
By Sherri Duskey Rinker (Author) and
Tom Lichtenheld (Illustrator)
As the sun sets behind the big construction site, all the hardworking trucks get
ready to say goodnight. One by one, they
finish their work and lie down to rest—so
they'll be ready for another day of rough
and tough construction play! With irresistible artwork and sweet, rhyming text, this
book will have truck lovers of all ages
begging for more. (Ages 4 - 8) 
Fall 2012
Workshops for Parents
Parents are the greatest resource that
child care providers have. Whether it is
to help with party items and transportation for trips or just continuing the same
new skills at home that have been taught
throughout the day. Quality Care recognizes that parents may need some extra
help from time to time. With this idea in
mind, we sought a program to help meet
the parents’ needs.
In the Spring QCRR sent 11 employees from various positions to a three day
extensive and fast track version of The
Nurturing Parenting Program developed
by Dr. Stephen Bavolek. This family centered initiative is designed to build and
enhance nurturing parenting skills that
increase parents’ awareness of specific
areas in child rearing. Quality Care
trained our trainers because we believe a
child’s success begins in the home.
Showing parents how to nurture themselves as individuals will in turn, shape
nurturing family principles and strengthen parenting skills. Our agency hopes to
bring out the very best in our families by
offering family structured programs to
build relationships and rapport with one
another. These offered trainings will
bring good times and great memories.
One advantage of managing the child
care delivery system in our community,
QCRR can provide alternative programs
available for parents outside child care
settings. By sending passionate employees to this training we were excited with
the opportunity to learn and share valuable parenting tools. Parents will incorporate them into their own value system.
The Nurturing Parenting Program goals
Increase parents sense of self-worth,
personal empowerment, empathy,
bonding, and attachment.
Increase alternative strategies to prevent harsh and abuse disciplinary practices.
Increase parents’ knowledge of age appropriate developmental expectations.
Reduce abuse and neglect rates
throughout our community.
In addition to the goals The Nurturing Parenting Program offers 16 different courses. Quality Care currently offers
the ABC’s of Parenting. The program
for parents and children is a seven week
evening session from 6-8pm designed to
improve parenting and child rearing
practices. Classes can be adapted to meet
the needs of non-custodial parents too,
and all classes are free. In the near future
QCRR’s vision is to offer variations of
the program dealing with issues such as,
substance abuse, parents of adolescents,
teen parents, and collaborate with DYFS
and the court system. In these additional
programs, under the Nurturing Parenting
Program umbrella, the participants will:
Build strong, positive relationships
within the family
Increase their understanding and
respect for the needs of family members;
Provide info on what to expect in
regard to children at different ages and
stages developmentally; and
Increase the self-confidence of family by focusing on strengths.
Quality Care offers two additional parenting programs. These are the already
established Strengthening Families and
D.A.D. - Dedicated And Determined.
The D.A.D. Initiative is a program available to male role models (fathers or father figures) to help strengthen men in
fathering, parenting and relational skills.
Strengthening Families helps families
build family resilience, social connections, parenting skills and emotional support to prevent child abuse and neglect.
As you can see all three programs take a
different approach to help build better
family relationships. At Quality Care we
strive to build lasting bonds and show
our families we do seek to meet many needs, support selfsufficiency, and positive parenting. All locations will conduct
classes in their perspective counties. Please contact your local office for more details if interested. 
For more information, please contact Kathy Grant at 856. 4626801, ext. 2525.
Cape May
Aug. 1 - Sept. 12, 2012
Currently, held off-site through
partnership organizations.
Sep 11 - Oct 30, 2012
Sept. 26 - Nov. 11, 2012